Manny and I were making out this morning in his house and he started to undress me and I got scared. I didn't want to tell him that I didn't want to have sex so we did it anyway. It was reall ypainful. I don't want to sday no to him because I love him and I want to do everything to make him happy.
2007-02-07 00:18:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to realize that what happened this morning is only a show of control for him. You not being able to tell him no is only giving him more power. Both of you should know that Love is not based on the act of sex. Love is based both physical and emotional bond and too much emphasis on either can ruin a relationship. Right now you give him sex whenever he asks for it and that is all the relationship is to him, sex when he wants it on his terms. Sure he tells you he loves you because that is all you need to hear to feel bad about saying now. All you are doing is lowering your self-esteem by allowing him to make you feel cheap and uncomfortable. He doesn't repsect you or what you want and that is a problem. Tell him NO once and if he starts trippin and he will, then you will see it was never about being in a real relationship with you. I can almost see the reaction on his face when you tell him. He will probably ask if you are sleeping with someone else or some other BS. We are so predictable.
I am sure that you probably don't want to read what I wrote and you may disagree with what I have said, but someone has to tell you what a guy is thinking. It is not all guys, there are some great guys out there who will be there for you emotionally and physically and treat you like a queen. I wish you nothing but the best.
2007-02-07 00:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by voodoo_lover_23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to work on your communication skills - that's most important in a relationship, if he really loves then he'll respect your decisions
2007-02-07 08:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by B2B2008 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is selfish because he must to listen to u... look don't do something to make him happy do something both be happy, and both must to understand each other... loOK if u stay think the same then he cheat u just to make him happy it's not right OK.. wake up and don't make things because someone force u ok..
2007-02-07 08:24:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to communicate, tell manny exactly how you feel about having sex, if he really cares about you, he will be understanding.
2007-02-07 08:27:37 · answer #4 · answered by fireangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that why if he respects you he will understand or try to understand, especially when you let him know that it was painful I'm sure if he cares about you he would get mad.
2007-02-07 08:25:53 · answer #5 · answered by channel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it hurts and your not going to do it again for a while. No need to suffer for his 2 minutes of pleasure...
2007-02-07 08:22:29 · answer #6 · answered by ropemancometh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he loved you he would not want to hurt you. You need to talk about this with him if he loves you he will understand.
2007-02-07 08:22:14 · answer #7 · answered by jessicablakey1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you and many need to talk to each other....he should be flogged if you didnt want to do it
2007-02-07 08:22:38 · answer #8 · answered by flyboy7683 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋