Why do nice guys get cheated on, lied to, and basically taken advantage of? I mean you hear women say I wish I could just find a nice guy that will treat me like a queen. But when the nice guy takes the chance and goes after a person in the end the nice guy gets cheated on and lied to all the while trying to do everything to save the best thing that has happened in their life. Why? Someone shed some light on this for me!
2007-02-07 00:12:27 · 13 answers · asked by cm_carswell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
girls are idiots and dont know what they want. I am 20 and have always dated nice guys, and never cheated, lied or took advantage. I treat people how they treat me, so treat me like a queen in a relationship and ill treat you like a king. I dont get the smoking,drinking, cheating bad boy girls go after. Its never been my thing., However guys do the same thing. i am nice and guys like the whores, not the girl next door.
2007-02-07 00:16:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when a woman says she wants to be treated like a queen...this means high maintenance. Not all women are that way. You might, in the beginning, be able to take her on and do nice things for her. But then she is going to want and want and want...how much can you give a high maint. woman??? Sometimes it is not worth it...try going for a princess next time and become the prince that will sweep her off her feet. Remember this...all of us women were brought up thinking that Cinderella, Snow White, Sleeping Beauty, etc... were REAL possibilities in life. When we get older and realize the harsh reality of no "PRINCE" we don't know what we are doing wrong, or if he is really out there? !? sometimes we are just as confused, and really regret that one nice guy that would have done anything for us. Then later regret the fact that we let him slip away into someone else's life. There is no guide that we all follow to find our way to the right one for us. I believe that we all meet for a reason, and our souls are guided a certain way for a purpose. Each person you meet teaches you something you didn't know yesterday, but you can search for in tomorrow. GOOD LUCK and if you get all the answers and find the way, let the rest of us know...
2007-02-07 00:21:18 · answer #2 · answered by Eastcoast beachgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice guys get the same treatment as nice girls. Sometimes we (nice people) are looking for the wrong people to spend time with, and because we are nice we get the crud of the singles pool. If you are looking for someone special, find someone who you appreciate for who they are, and make sure they reciprocate. If you feel any hint that you aren't getting the same respect in the way you are treated, then rethink your choice. I am a nice girl who wanted to find a nice guy for a very long time, but my world just didn't have him in it then. I have since found a wonderful man, a very NICE guy, not a bad boy. He is fantastic, and I am head over heels, we treat each other very well and communicate. Just be patient and keep those eyes open and the head on straight. Sometimes our hearts lead us in the wrong direction if we don't use our common sense and we get hurt. Keep your wits, she will come one day, and you'll be glad you waited for the right one. :) Good Luck! I wish you as much love in your future as I now have with my nice guy!
2007-02-07 00:24:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am like you! Whether to change or not.. well trying to be something your not is a lot of work. (and you cant be an actor 100% of the time anyway) but it will get you laid in the short term if you work at it. You just have to decide if the work is worth it or not. I am getting older and starting to think I dont want to work that hard at this point. When I was 22 it was a different story. These days maybe I would rather be myself and not have the stress of trying to impress and come across as an arrogant bad-boy and all that ****.
2016-03-29 09:18:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've felt the same way myself at times.
You have to analyze each relationship and each person you're involved with to the best of your ability. Many women are shallow enough to take whatever you give them with no sense of gratitude whatsoever - you're just a nice rock to step on. Giving too much to other women puts them in a bind - they may want to reciprocate but find themselves unable to, which makes them feel either guilty or inadequate.
So, in short, without knowing you, maybe you are giving too much too early. Being a little more reserved might help. In the meantime it could be fun and instructional to take free online personality tests. Some of them are pretty silly, but the one on Eharmony is a good one. Good luck!
2007-02-07 00:25:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree to the expression:"A nice guy he may be not so nice". But remember one more think that no one seems to mention: Sex has a dynamic on its own. You may love, respect and appreciate a girl very much, but you don't like her in sex. And some times you may hate a girl, or dislike her but you really "feel" something for her. Searching is not an easy think. But don't come to any conclusions. And don't be hurry to be forgiving as well. Generally calm down and talk to some girls for opinions first. Some times it's our fault, not women's. And it can't be easily explained like "he is violent" or "he drinks" or "he beats me". How can I describe a girl that is just cold, or try to understand thinks trough cliches like:
"She is bad, this is good, this has value". She may have the best intentions, she can be pretty as well, but her ways may be very frustrating.
2007-02-07 00:52:26 · answer #6 · answered by filip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its an age old question.
I understand how you feel.
Sometimes its because the "nice guy" just chooses the wrong person. Sometimes its because the "nice guy" is not truly a nice guy. Other times its because women are similar to men. There are those out there who just think about themselves.
2007-02-07 00:17:45 · answer #7 · answered by CJ B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because when women are young they don't want a "nice" guy they consider nice guys to be boring, so they would rather have someone kicking their @$$......Once they get a little older they realize that the "nice guy" is what they are looking for.
2007-02-07 00:20:00 · answer #8 · answered by Karen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why some girls treat there men in such ways. They must just be bitches, I wish that it wasn't so and I am sorry if you've been miss treated by any females, but don't blame all of us because a couple of us screwed up.
2007-02-07 00:21:20 · answer #9 · answered by Ally cat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because secretly there is no "nice" person, and it is just not interesting enough to women. There is no point to it. Don't listen to what they say but what they do.
2007-02-07 00:19:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋