Unfair Spanking was Brothers Fault?

Question

I'm sorry this be long deails but i have to tell the entire story. I'm in 7th grade and my brother is in 4th grade and on Friday me mom, dad and brother stayed over at my grandma and grandpas house because we were all going on a trip early saturday morning. We had to leave at 3am. About 8pm my mom made us both go into the den to go to sleep early because she did not want us tired. We really were not that tired so we played around a little and about 9 my mom came in really mad i guess because we were making a lot of noise. She said if she had to come in again we would be sorry. I listened and layed down for bed but my brother started playing around again. 10 minutes later my mom came back in and told my brother he was getting a spanking. He started crying and was telling mom it was me still awake. My mom didn't say anything. She took out the computer chair pulled down his pj pants and spanked him a lot of times on his bare butt. He was going crazy and my mom finally stopped.

My mom then told him to lay down and go to bed then she stood up and pulled me by the arm off the floor. And I said what are you doing. I told her i didn't do anything. She ignored me completely and sat down in the chair and started trying to pull down my pjs. I tried to get away from her and it made her really made her really mad. I tried to get away from her but she got my boxers down put me over her knee and hit me. I tried to cover up and block her but she pulled my arms back. It hurt really bad and i couldn't help it and cried like my brother. I felt so embarassed and I thnk this is not fair. Why did my mom do this? It wasn't my fault.

Answer 1

I hate to break your bubble, but it won't be the last time you get busted for something unfair. Life is unfair. One day when you and your mom are having a good day, just lightly bring it up and tell her how you felt. Please remember that just like you, she is only human and makes mistakes too. Do you always jump in to claim responsibility when your wrong? How many times has your brother gotten in trouble and you should have gotten punished with him?

Answer 2

Ok first of a l am a believer of spanking when needed but I do not pull down my kids pants to spank the bare butt.I feel that she should have separated you two before she had to spank you. I know as a parent of a 9 year old and a 5 year old that if I put them together they will play regardless. You are old enough that you should have been in a room alone instead of being stuck with your little brother. On the other hand , I feel that you probably were causing a small bit of the noise yourself if the truth be known. Perhaps your mother needs to know what patience is and learn that she should not put 2 boys in the same room and expect them to fall to sleep right away. Good luck:)

Answer 3

Aw, is this the same Jacob that made a question about this before and chose me for a best answer? I'm so sorry that my advice didn't work, Jacob. Maybe I can redeem myself to you?

Did you discuss other ways of discipline with your mum yet? If not, I recommend doing that immediately. Also, it may not be your fault, and I'm sorry that you got punished for it. I suggest, if the discussion about alternatives doesn't work, that you just watch what you're doing. Be sweet with your mum and take good care of your brother. Not only watch your brother and guide him to stay out of trouble because you don't want to get your fanny smacked, but because you are his older sibling and you want to be a good example.

I'm in seventh grade, too, and I agree that it does stink to get punished by parents in that way. Hm, I don't really know what to tell you. It's apparent that your mom has a very strong belief that a boy should get a whooping if they misbehave. And that does stink, to know, I'm sure. But, I guess what's only left for you is to be behave and try to avoid situations where you might be punished.

Getting spanked, I guess, is a part of life. I'm in seventh grade only, but I mean, obviously it is- especially if so many parents do it. It's a natural thing, I suppose. Probably when you're an adult, you'll just laugh at it. Try to understand that when you get spanked, you might have deserved it and you just shouldn't misbehave again. For this situation, though, I guess that wasn't the case. Pretend nothing happened, and when another time like this comes around, Jacob, I suggest you just calmly say to your mom, "I didn't do anything, I promise." Use a very calm and mature tone, instead of a frantic and desperate one, and maybe she'll be fine. Also, if she's going to spank you, don't fight it. That's a personal tip. Just get it over with. That way, you're one step closer to proving yourself as a mature guy and maybe eventually she'll realize a spanking won't do for you.

Best of luck! <3

Answer 4

I'm sorry to hear about what happened to you. Sounds like your Mom is stressed out, but if she heard that it was your brother making noise, she shouldn't have spanked you. You weren't doing anything.

In my opinion, a 13-14 year old should not be spanked.

I don't know what your relationship is with your mother and if she spanks you a lot. Sounds like she's an angry person.

Can you talk to your grandma? Do you have an adult that you feel comfortable will hear you?

If you have an adult that your mother respects and listens to, I would tell them what happened and how it made you feel. How it was wrong for her to do that when you hadn't done anything. You were innocent and you tried telling her, but she didn't listen. Tell them your feelings. See if they will talk to her or will be present when you talk to her about this. It's always a good idea to have a witness, so they can see what is happening.

Good luck!!

Answer 5

What a way to start off a trip. You obviously were in no mood for the trip. You are very brave to post what you have. I feel for you. Your mom is your mom but she still does not have the right to humiliate you. She needs anger management classes and I would suggest you speak to your grandma or someone else you can trust. I also hope that many people will read your post and come to understand how traumatizing it is for a person to be physically abused. I hope you never do it to your children.

Answer 6

Well, you can't change what happened and I'm sure your Mom honestly thought that you both were up so spanked you both. I think you should go talk toher now that it is in the past and tell her how you felt when this happened. Hopefully she will forgive you and apologize - parents can make mistakes too! Also, maybe you can even talk to your brother and him to back you up. He needs to tell truth aswell, but he could be scared to get in trouble so don't count on it. Sit and talk to your Mom and hopefully you guys can sort this out. Good luck!

Answer 7

Sounds like your mother needs reevaluate her parenting skills. As a mother, I can't imagine spanking a child that is 13-14 years old. As weird as this may sound, you shouldn't spank a child out of anger... if your story is accurate, then it sounds like she was doing it out of anger.

If this is an ongoing thing, then talk to someone in your family that you feel comfortable with and tell them what happened. Perhaps your mother needs a trusted, outside source to get her to wake up and see that her actions are uncalled for.

Answer 8

look your mom was mad and by the sounds of it stress out too.
is this the first spanking that you or your brother has gotten?
if so maybe your still in shock over it!!! but if this goes on all the time you should speak to your school teacher about it maybe she can help???

Answer 9

Yeah while i grew to become into approximately 10 we went to a sleepover at a female's abode. there grew to become into me, yet another boy, and 3 women to boot to the female whose sleepover it grew to become into. somebody lit a candle and controlled to burn a hollow interior the carpet. considering that no person could own up, her mothers and dads have been given surprisingly offended and after some telephone calls to each of our mothers and dads, we've been all taken into the bathing room and had our pants taken down and our bottoms smacked. It wasn't lots the smacking that grew to become into humiliating as having to have it carried out with the different infants there.

Answer 10

That sucks....Your mom proly thought since you are the older one you should have made your brother behave. Next time you are being the good one help your brother out too. Make him sit down and be good...if he wont listen to you tell on him.