Boyfriend problems?

Question

im going out with this one guy right now weve been going out for like 2 months but i still have feelings for my ex who i went out with for 7 months i want him back but i dont think he wants me back and i dont want to hurt my recent boyfriends feelings. What should i do?

Answer 1

We're in the same boat. My ex of four years and I broke up a year and six months ago, and up to now i still love him very much and i can't get him off my mind. His pictures are still in my iPod..i always listen to the songs we used to love..i still visit his cousins who are very close to me. Obviously, i haven't moved on yet. Sometimes become bitter and i want to curse love. I mean, you get that feeling that you gave everything yet your everything still isn't enough to make him stay. You tried to be perfect but still you're trying in vain. It's really hard, and you get the big phobia of falling in love again and risk getting hurt again.

My advice? Deal with it. Time heals all the wounds and so should you. You can't rush into moving on, you have to pass through several stages until you could say 'i survived!'. By now im sure you have the mottos 'love sucks', 'love is stupidity' etc....

another thing is, you already have a boyfriend..don't tell me you just hooked up with him to forget your ex or make him jealous, which obviously doesn't work..Think about it, if he still loves yOu, he wouldve put an effort on getting you back..which he didn't do..
so why waste your time waiting for him? give a chance to your new boyfriend to show you how he loves yOu..

for your ex...

1.) throw away all his mementos, photos, and eveything that reminds you of him.
2.) Spend more time with your friends and family.
3.) Keep yourself busy.
4.)Avoid listening to mellow music, esp. the songs both of you loved to listen to,
5.) Keep a list of all the bad things he did to you and tack them next to your bed.
6.) Sever all of your communications with him.
7.) Avoid seeing him.
8.)Avoid the places he frequents.
9.)Convince yourself that you don't deserve him.

Remember this:

GOD TAKES AWAY WHEN HE HAS SOMETHING BETTER TO GIVE..

Answer 2

you need time to heal your wounds from the first relationship, however you must decide if you want to be alone or not during this time. are you with boy #2 because you really like him or was he just a rebound? I suggest talking with boy #2 and tell him how you feel... maybe ask for some time to heal think and so forth. Also as yourself why wouldnt boy #1 want to be with you while boy #1 does. Remeber dont think of what couldve been with boy #1 but think of what can be with boy #2. I really do hope everything goes for the best, for your hearts sake.

Answer 3

Not trying to sound mean but if you’ve said that your ex doesn’t want you back, what’s the decision that you have to make? Actually what you need to do it take time for yourself and not be with anyone. Even though you have your current boyfriend, he’s not whom you want to be with. He’s almost like a rebound guy which isn’t fair to him, it’s also not fair to you. Unfortunately the person that you want to be with may not want the same in return. So to keep from hurting anyone including yourself you need to take a few months to get yourself together and let your heart mend.

Answer 4

You have an ex who you were involved for only 7 months and now you have a current of 2 months and you want to break up with him! please try to stick to one guy and if you think you cant give yourself a break of about a year and think about what you want and what you expect of a guy and think of what you are doing wrong. There is no way you can be with a guy for two months and you are already thinking of breakin up with him if you didnt have a problem. You cant love someone if you dont know what you want and if you dont think of yourself first in order for you to be able to think of him.

Take your time

Answer 5

This is really hard... You can't do anything to guide your heart but in life sometimes we have to be strong enough to ignore our feelings and listen to the logic. If your ex is not interested in you anymore, then there's no reason to end the new relationship and hurt your boyfriend's feelings.

Take care.

Answer 6

If you still have feelings for your ex then your not over him. I think you should be honest with your current boyfriend and break up with him. You probably should be by yourself for a while. When you meet the right one you will not be thinking about your ex.

Answer 7

well i went through the same thing a couple months ago it was kinda different though i liek this guy alot more than my bf so i talked to my bf about it and we made agreement that i would go for the other guy and if things didnt work out me and my bf could try again and things did work out my bf was really understandin bout my situtation and if ur bf loves u alot then he should be ok with u talkin to him so try to talk to him botu and see wat happens ok...

Answer 8

I hate girls... I've been used like that. She had a two night stand to show him she has moved on. She kinda of liked me but liked him more. I just don't understand yall sometimes. Yall are like a rubix cube.

Answer 9

what more do u want becuz yo ex dont want u,not even a bit
hope that hurt so that u focus on yo current BF & him only........am sorry

Answer 10

if your ex doesnt want you back
then forget him
and you wont even hurt your boyriends feelings
if you just forget about your ex.
girl, there are many boys in the world
and you cant have them all

but if you cant forget about your ex.
ask him if he wants you back
and theen tell your boyfriend
that you love someone else now
and tell him that,love has sacrifices
always......................................