i have this guy who has been after me for a year now to go out with him. i see him as a friend and have told him i can't go out with him. he calls me almost daily. when i call him, he says i love him cos am showin i care as i ask him about his work and his studies. when i don't call him he says am ignorin him. what do i do?
2007-02-06 23:49:00 · 28 answers · asked by rambo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't lead him on. Be persistant with what you're telling him - eventually he'll get it. You know how you feel, and this can't possibly go anywhere. Don't waste his time, or yours. Life is too short.
2007-02-06 23:58:04 · answer #1 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're really not interested in going out with him, it's best for him to forget you so that he can find someone else instead. By calling him, you are giving him hope. It's best to be 'cruel to be kind' and just not contact him.
If he rings you, no need to be horrible to him but cut the call short and say you've got to go, busy etc. Hopefully after a few of these calls he'll get the message - if he doesn't you'll just have to explain to him that you don't want to go out with him, and you hope he finds a nice girl who will appreciate him. Good luck!
2007-02-07 07:55:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay and think very well what do you want from him a lover or a friend>? After you will decided that ask him for a coffee and let him know where you stand. He is waisting your time and you are waisting his, so the best you can do is to be sincere and show him that you are his best friends the kind of person that never lies. He has the right to know which are your feelings regard his person. Think and then act.
2007-02-07 07:57:20 · answer #3 · answered by Helena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN AWAY!!!! If you don't like him, then tell him. He needs to know from your mouth that you don't see him as anything more than a friend. The longer you put it off, the more creepy he will get, and right now he is crossing a few boundaries. You can be friends, but I would seriously sit him down and tell him. Not only will you make things easier on yourself, but him too--he won't have to try so hard to get something he can't have.
2007-02-07 07:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by pretty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not into him, don't go out with him. Then you'll have the same problem you do now except worse cuz you'll have to actually dump him not just reject him. Don't escalate the situation any further. Tell him you just like him as a friend and try to avoid talking to him so much.
2007-02-07 07:56:05 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's obsessed by you, you really need to distance yourself from him for a bit,, if you give in and go out with him it will just get worse and worse and then you'll lose him as a frien,,
when he calls keep it short and sweet,, if he moans that you dont call him, just tell him youve been busy,,
if he;s a good friend he'll understand,, but if he turns nasty, then youll know u done the right thing!!
2007-02-07 08:10:07 · answer #6 · answered by mikey101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you don't feel anything for him,because when i keep calling a guy i do have some interest in him,especially when i keep calling him after he has told me that he loves me.What would you do if you see him with another girl and if he stops calling you?
2007-02-07 07:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by bellamora 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all start out just liking each other..falling inlove is a process. Being in a relationship you learn to love someone..BUT it should be mutual and it sounds like this is not the case. Rather get him off your back now than wait till he is completely obsessed with you. ..good luck huni
2007-02-07 07:57:04 · answer #8 · answered by Mercia L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go out with him and tell him that you don't want anymore contact and if he does contact you again you will go to the police and file a complaint.
You need to do this, or this guy will stalk you until you are an old lady.
2007-02-07 07:56:34 · answer #9 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't go out with him - It sounds like he is already trying controlling your actions by the the way he reacts when you don't phone if I were you I'd tell him you will be friends with him but you don't fancy or love him - It sounds like he's stalking you
2007-02-07 08:00:46 · answer #10 · answered by Soul Reason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋