Im not talking to her either....she tryed to ruin my life,
But now that shes gonna have a baby, i feel i have to talk to her, but i so dont want to mk the first move.... im not gonna tell u what happened between us, but ppl r telling me to be the bigger person. I dont want to talk to her though.
2007-02-06 23:38:30 · 29 answers · asked by Loving and loved 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
send her a congratulations card and say you should talk soon and leave your number on it, leave the rest up to her if she wants to talk she will call.
2007-02-06 23:42:05 · answer #1 · answered by Mea 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Send a congratulatory card (a nice, demure one, not an over-the top one!) with a message telling her that you are happy to hear about her forthcoming event and you are thinking of her. Then maybe in a few weeks, try dropping her a blank message card just asking how things are progressing. It would then be up to her to pick up on that.
At all costs, avoid any kind of situation where either of you is likely to become upset as that would not be good for the baby. Keep it calm and polite. As her pregnancy progresses you will probably find she relaxes with you because the body manufactures its own tranquilising hormones at this time. Things may not be as they were before the break-up but you should be able to restore at least some of the closenesss you had. She will want to talk about the pregnancy and birth and, for things like that, there is no one better than your sister! She'll come around.
2007-02-07 00:29:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is pregnant...she will need people around her. Be the bigger person and make up with her otherwise you might loose each other for ever. Plus Im sure when the baby comes you will want to be a part of the babies life.
2007-02-07 00:15:35 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Dee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be the bigger person and reach out to her. being pregnant is a very emotional period for anyone. And I'm sure she will really appreciate the support she will get from you. Besides, this will be a veyr good way to patch things up between you two! Forgive and forget, and have a wonderful time preparing for the arrival of your nephew/niece...
Good luck
2007-02-07 00:09:55 · answer #4 · answered by sweetDove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want to talk to her & cant be bothered to make the first move - then dont do it. Yeah you should be the bigger person, she's gonna need support, but hey if she tried to ruin your life & your obviously not over it - just dont contact her.
2007-02-06 23:48:04 · answer #5 · answered by keeley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is completely up to you whether you talk to her or not. No one can make you do something you don't want to do. But, you also have to learn to put the past behind you sometimes. No one in this world would ever get anywhere if we held grudges and scorned people for the things they have done in the past. She is your sister, and she is pregnant. She needs her family more than ever. She needs you more than ever. She needs to know that she can count on you. She needs to know that you love her and that you care about what happens to her. No matter what the circumstances, family is one of the most precious things that we have. Sure, it may take time to move past it, but you need to make the first step. And, if not for her, for the sake of your little nephew or niece.
2007-02-06 23:49:53 · answer #6 · answered by pretty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is the greatest feeling in the world and you want to share it with every one that you love. Blood is thicker than any fight. She needs you now more than ever. And im pretty sure that you want to be around the baby. If you know the sex of the baby buy something like a pair of booties or a hat and if you don't know the sex buy an unisex color and go to her, you are her sister and i know she wants you around.
2007-02-07 01:45:23 · answer #7 · answered by hottygirlie2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So dont talk to her, the fact that she is pregnant shouldnt really matter. When they have the shower send a card and then again at the birth of the baby. If she responds then maybe consider talking to her but if not dont bother.
2007-02-06 23:52:25 · answer #8 · answered by jillmarie2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It always pays to have a larger heart for those who hurt you. Taking the first step will make you a greater person n give a great satisfaction even if you are rejected.
It always pays to help a person in need, more so in your sis. case who must be going through an awefull lot emotionally.
2007-02-07 00:24:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anuj P1952 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we let that much get between us we dont know how to begin talking to one another.
My family is exactly like this,i have 4 aunts but only speak to 1,i have 24 cousins and speak to none of them.
We all fell out about 19years ago and none of us have spoken since.
Dont let your family get into the state my families in,talk to your sister,you sisters and although that may not mean much to you now your sister is bringing another life into this world,dont you think her child has the right to know and love their aunty?
Even if you cant put your differences aside,could you not atleast be civil to one another,you never know,making a very small step may make a massive difference to your relationship.
Good luck
2007-02-07 00:16:04 · answer #10 · answered by freerange00720002000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be the more mature person. All you have to do, is one day say, How are you feeling? And say, we have to let this go, life is too short. May be you do not want to talk to her, but you will feel a hell of a lot better, getting this off your chest.
2007-02-06 23:46:19 · answer #11 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋