Which of us needs to apologise?

Question

Last night me and the G-friend had a row that ended in her going home (we're Uni students).

We fell out over something petty and stupid, which of course wouldn't have been a problem as we always make up soon after those kind of rows. What got me was that (we were at my house) she went down to the living room and sat with my housemates, who she resolutely does not like, and told them how I was throwing a sulk and she just wanted to get away from me.

After a while she came back up to my room and asked if I was ok- when she realised I wasn't she said 'shall I go home?'

I didn't even bother looking up but just said yes and she left. We haven't spoken since, and that was 11 last night.

It just annoyed me beyond all belief that she had to broadcast the fact we'd had a row rather than keeping it to herself and made me look like the villian in front of my own housemates- I was too embarassed to go downstairs after she'd left...in my own home!

So which one of us apologises?!

Answer 1

I think that, if she doesn't contact you by the end of today, you should contact her and saying that you want to discuss what has happened. This is a stupid and unnecessary situation, which needs to be ended. So I think you need t swallow you pride a tiny teensy bit and contact her to talk, only if she remains mute.

That does not mean you should apologise first, by the way, because I think that is her task. She made you feel uncomfortable, remember?

But Why dont you start with talking things over? I am sure the appology thing will come naturally.

Answer 2

I think because the argument was in your room, your gf might have felt a bit trapped in the arguement. She would have went downstairs to let off some steam. Have you spoken to your housemates and seen if she was gossiping about you, or simply watching tv with them?

At least she came back before she left, its not a matter of who apologises, I think its more of a case who makes up with eachother, if it was other something petty like u said, call her.

Wouldn't u rather be spending time with her rather than stressing over who's turn it is to apologise?

Answer 3

Was it your plan to send her home last night or were you too stuck up your own a** to answer her when she asked if you were OK. That was when you should have apologised to her and she would have done the same to you.
She went off down stairs to vent steam and it clearly helped because she asked you if you were OK. She obviously cared enough about you to swallow her pride and ask.
But you couldn't be man enough to answer her with a simple apology. Get on the phone now and tell her you are sorry and that you won't be so stupid again. Do it now and let her know you still care about her.

Answer 4

its always tricky to know who should apologise after a petty row and really does it matter who says it first? By he sounds of it she was annoyed at you and going downstairs and saying you were in a strop to your housemates was just her way of getting back at you. Maybe you were in a strop and she just had to get out the room so if you hadn't have been in a strop she wouldn't have said those things, Alternatively, she shouldn't have really said those things anyway. Its a chicken and egg situation.

Answer 5

I think you both do - you for throwing a sulk and not botherin to try to make up before she left, and her for embarrasing you in front of your friends. I have lots of experience in this field! If you love her, then its not worth staying angry over what is in the end a minor argument. Life's too short to bear a grudge. So you apologise and explain that what she did upset you, then she'll apologise, then you can kiss and make up!

Answer 6

pepo only apologise wen the belive there r wrong,u both have to apologise 4 the wrong things u did,u 4 fighting with her & her 4 telling the whole world u had a row.pepo want to feel there r winners by not apologising which is dangerous.sit down & talk to her about what u felt.

Answer 7

Hmmm....

OK, let me see...

first of all both of you kind of did wrong.

First, she shouldn't told your house mate about you sulking and tried to getaway from her.

She is supposed not
You, on the other hand, should not ignore your friend.

I think you should confront with your friend and both of you should apologies to each other.

It is not good to fight for a long time.

By the way, you should not be embarrassed in your own house if you think that you are not wrong.

Answer 8

Its just a spat. Explain you would rather she didn't involve your housemates in your rows, give her a hug and take her for a pint in your union. She should probably apologise off her own bat if she hears you don't like them being involved.

Answer 9

What started the row in the first place??? and it wont kill you to put your pride in your pocket and say you are sorry..(thats if u really are) and if she doesnt accept your apology or gives you a hard time just say that you did apologize and there is nothing more you can say or do..and if she still dont wanna talk to you then let her come crawling back...

Answer 10

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