Why do people have a problem with individuals having children out of wedlock?

Answer 1

Unfortunately, not enough people DO have a problem with bringing children into unstable or even non-existent relationships. I've never understood the mindset that "we are committed enough to have kids, but not enough to marry". WHAT??????? Kids are the much BIGGER commitment...or SHOULD be. If you can't commit to be there forever, then you shouldn't bring children into the picture. It's selfish.

Unfortunately, again, that is what we currently seem to have---a generation of self-centered parents who want children because it fulfills some selfish need of their own. These children are getting the short end of the stick. Poor, poor things.

Answer 2

I do not think that having a child out of wedlock is bad as long as the child somehow has both the mother and father. I mean, what about those people who have children when they are married and then get a devorce years later. That is no better than not being married. I am not married, and then man currently helping me raise my son is not the biological father, but he is a great father figure. I was raised by a single mother and I turned out to be an intelligent person with a 2 yr old who I Love with all my heart!

Answer 3

People don't have a problem with children born out of wedlock they have a problem with themselves. Ignorance plays a big part. I have 2 children both with different fathers and both born out of wedlock. This was not planned this way but I wouldn't change anything. I have raised my children with unconditional love and respect and they have both grown to be wonderful, content, loving, respectful young people. I have been both a mother and a father sometimes hard but I never complained, I always thought myself lucky. I juggled both single parenthood and a full time job and found it rewarding. The comments I have heard for many years only made me a stronger person so in a way I say thankyou for your ignorance.

Answer 4

I don't think that people view a relationship that is not marriage to be respectable or serious. People doubt commitment etc in a relationship whereby the people have not been married. People question whether the 2 in the relationship could really love each other. How do i know this??? Because my partner & i have been together for 8 years & we have 2 children together & we are not married, nor do we ever plan to marry as it's not important to us. However love & commitment & life long plans are just as much a part of our relationship as any other. I guess people see children from unmarried relationships as not being from a secure or loving home because the parents have not made the ultimate sacrifice of marriage. That's the way i see it anyway.

Answer 5

I Agree!!

I read a post yesterday asking what should be considered before starting a family and loads of people said 'get married'!. Why? If thats your thing for religious reasons then good luck it can be a wonderful thing, but it shouldnt always have to be a first step to starting a family.
My parents have been together 45 years, do people think that because they are not married there relationship isn't serious or they are not responsible enough to raise children?

I have lived with my partner for 6 years and have a lovely almost 1 year old son, as I follow no religion strong enough to feel I have to prove my love to god in a church or sign a piece of paper and change my surname, am I not a fit mother?



Anyway, I'll get down off my soap box now.

Answer 6

Because raising a child is such a long-term difficult task that a married couple (man and woman) is the best bet for financial and emotional stability. Because people who have children out of wedlock are short-sighted, which normally causes them small short-term problems, but with a baby, it causes another person (the baby) big long-term problems.

Answer 7

Because they are stupid,pompus a**holes.

I have a child out of wedlock. My partner and I have been together five years, and we are stable emotionally, financially, etc.

People judge us alot. Oddly enough, our relationship has outlasted most of our friends marriages. We love each other. We are commited to our family. Yet, people assume we're aren't because we haven't taken the plunge.

What is really sad, some people will judge me harsher for living with a man I am not married to..than a woman whose been married 4 times, and dragging her children through relationship to relationship....I guess to them, at least she's married.

ugh.....

Answer 8

I don't know. I had my first son out of wedlock. Now I am married to the dad and we are having another boy. I don't think it matters. Just b/c you are pregnant doen't mean you need to get married. Everyone tried to push us into it. We did not get married for 2 yrs after my first son was born.

Answer 9

because those indviduals are exceedingly regressive. And they claim to love marriage so so much, but continue to ban gay marriages. Most of them live by ideals that they will spend the rest of their lives failing to meet. Standards set by white men with their own skeletons in the closet or at best in the closet. Marriage is beautiful and bringing children into a HEALTHY marriage is great, but not having a marriage and being a great parents just don't coorelate anymore. and that's the way it is. That creates well adjusted kids that grow into well adjusted adults.

Answer 10

there isn't always a relationship involved in conception. there is artificial insemination.
religious beliefs, many single woman are not financially able to support a family(there are some that can though)
there is a preception they are on welfare, their kids are neglected, ignored. that she can't care for them
ok those are my thoughts, based on my experience as a single mom.
totally wrong in all cases.
i do not believe a woman should have kinds unless she can 100% support them, financially, emotionally, phsyically., on her own. no welfare, wic foodstamps, child support(should come from the sperm donor but realistically that doesn't happen enough)

Answer 11

Because they are pompous a**es and have no respect for people in general.

My mother was married when I was concieved and got a divorce while pregnant with me. The churches refused to baptise me because I was a "bas*urd" child.

People just have religious beliefs I guess, but never try to judge those people, because I mean they are "perfect".