Any suggestions about neighbor child?

Question

We have a neighbor child (6 y.o)who constantly yells my child's name (6 y.o.) every 20 seconds whenever we are both in our backyards (I'm not exaggerating). My child doesn't know always how to respond to the neighbor's constant requests to come to the fence to talk (about nothing). The neighbor child uses threats of I'm not going to be your friend, etc if mine doesn't comply with her wishes. My child does comply alot to her demands but, it is very trying on her; she wants to enjoy her backyard without the constant bombardment from our neighbor. I realize the neighbor girl is looking for attention and someone to play with and I do invite her over to play when I can but, this is getting ridiculous where we can't even enjoy our yard.I would talk to the parent(s) however, a concerned conversation I had about guns in their home and their dog who had bit the woman of the house didn't go over well last year when she asked my child over for a play date (just trying to be a responsible parent).

Answer 1

If you're in the backyard with your child then yell back that your child can't play with her today. If she continues tell her to stop or you'll have to talk with her mother. Tell your child when she's in the backyard alone playing to tell the neighbor child she's busy and then ignore her constant nagging. She'll get the message and stop. Your daughter is going to have to deal with children like this for years (since she's 6) so try to teach her now not to be blackmailed and to stand up for herself. You're very caring mother and it's nice that you invite the neighbor's child over even though you really don't get along with her parents. Good Luck!

Answer 2

Although I'm sure that you do feel for this other child, if they are bothering you and your privacy it can be an unpleasent situation. I'm not sure what kind of fencing you have, but maybe you can make it more private by making it more solid or putting up hedges. The house we just bought has chainlink on the one side and in the spring we plan to put up a nice wooden fence. Our neighbours like the idea because it looks nicer, we like it for privacy (even though we like our neighbour) and it will add value to our property because the fence is awful at the moment anyhow. Or if too pricey hedges are pretty, add colour to your yard, and be a family project and will add some privacy aswell.

Answer 3

If that's a neighbor, then it is unquestionably somebody closer to you, only by proximity, than in basic terms a random acquaintance. If i grew to become into in this subject, i could deliver or drop off a sympathy card. If there is one, take a inspect the obituary interior the interior of reach paper; if the family individuals particular a charity or different organisation, you're able to make a small present interior the family individuals's call, and point out it interior the sympathy card. in case you come upon your neighbor exterior or contained regionally in this time, only exhibit your condolences truly. Even some thing so hassle-free as "I heard approximately _____(grandma) and _______(infant); i'm so sorry to your loss. Please permit me be attentive to if there is something i will do for you or your loved ones." the extra straightforward and extra trustworthy that's, the extra sensible.(in case you sense awkward, rehearse on your techniques what you need to assert; once you're fearful of asserting the incorrect element, there are articles everywhere in the information superhighway approximately "what to not say to a grieving family individuals" and comparable matters. once you're somewhat lost for words, the final element to assert is a few thing impartial, like "i'm sorry to your loss." ) From the obituary, you would be sure if there's a wake the day before the funeral; if so, i could advise going to that. otherwise, going to the funeral or memorial provider could be a super way of showing your concern for the family individuals throughout the time of their time of loss. interior the days after the funeral, you will possibly desire to instruct your concern by bringing over a casserole or a coffeecake or some thing; in spite of everything, there will be days no person needs to cook dinner even after the 1st week has exceeded. once you drop it off, repeat your in the previous furnish of help. they are going to choose a solid neighbor in this time.

Answer 4

Replace the fence with a wall. (Easier said than done!) If it is that unbearable and the neighbors are only leasing the house, you could lodge an anonymous complaint with the owner of the house and hopefully have them evicted. Not always so easy, but worth a try. (try have other neighbors sign a petition as well with regards to constant noise etc.etc.) Good Luck! PS: I have the same problem!!!

Answer 5

Sorry i am spending time with my family, i will call you when i can play with you. It's hard to hear my mum/dad when you yell out for me all of the time so if you don't hear from me then you know i can't play yet. I would appreciate it if you could just give me some quiet time from us playing. I will let you know when i want to play or if you call me at 10am tomorrow morning i can tell you when we could play.

Maybe something along these lines said extra loud so the parents get the hint as well. Hope this helps - how frustrating for you all.

Answer 6

well at the age! between 4-7 they say things like im not your friend...and say other things that us parents would fine rude! but for the ages and stages that they are in..its pretty normal! on the other hand..to me it sounds like your lil girl is some what scared of her..b/c she gives into her demands! (im not saying in to sound mean but this is what i see of it)..and i just think that the girls parents isnt doing a good job raising her with guns in their home and how their dog bit another person! personally i wouldnt want my kids to be around that! i would be scared..b/c kids get a hold of things that there not suppose too and bad things happen! just have your girl to try and ignore her! or start to go play in the front yard where the other girl isnt going to be! i hope this helps you! good luck! thats a very tuff situation!

Answer 7

god youre story is so like mine.my son is quite a quiet lad and the boy nx door who,s a couple of years older is constantly asking to come over to mine.at first i always said yes then the bossing around started they had to play his game his way with his rules,things started going missing(toys) and eventually one day i just said no we were busy doing something ,the nx time i said why doesnt "john" come into youre garden for a change?his answer was his mother didnt like children running around her garden!!we live in scotland and at this time of year he doesnt really play outside as it freezing im dreading the summer when it,ll all start up again.must get big huge solid fence!!!lol

Answer 8

Have your child tell the neighbor that you will call the police on her for 'sterbing the peece'. That should scare her into leaving yours alone.

Answer 9

Stand up for yourself, stop being a wimp, and teach your child to do the same.