Alright.
Ever since I was a little girl, I have had a passion for tattoos.
I LOVE Tattoos.
I admire a person a lot more if they have tattoos.
I guess some would say i'm obsessed.
It is my 17th birthday in March. And I bet you can all guess what I want?
Yes, that's right, a tattoo.
When it comes the time when my parents want to know what I want for my birthday, what the hell do I say?
My mum and dad are great parents, they do give me a lot of freedom, but do not understand the concept of individuality or my love of tattoos.
All I want for my birthday is for them to give their consent for me to get a tattoo. They don't have to pay for it, I will do that, but I just want the consent. I am more then willing to negotiate with them about the tattoo (position, noticibility etc) but I will NOT take a no for an answer.
There is no way I would get one without their consent, though.
So how do I ask? And how do I achieve what i'm hoping for?
2007-02-06 19:58:30 · 10 answers · asked by teamrocket33 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Tattoos
And please, if you are here to tell me...
a) the regret I will have later on in life
b) the pain of a tattoo
c) how i really have to be mature and ready
etc etc, don't bother please.
of course I have already considered these points.
2007-02-06 20:00:26 · update #1
You sound like a bright young lady, I think you know what you need to say and ask. I'm sure you already have an idea of what you'd like to get and where, so think of that and approach your parents. Tattoos are more and more accepted with younger generations, and there are plenty of generally non-visible locations you can get a tattoo. Tell them specifically what you want and where you want it so they know that you're not asking for a naked pin-up girl tattoo'd on your forehead, and they will probably be more receptive than if you just say you want a tattoo. You know that you only want to get something meaningful that you won't regret, so pick something to start with that even they will understand is classy and won't interfere with your life. You might have your work cut out for you, but if you show them it's something that wouldn't be a regret, I'm sure they'd be more likely to cut you some slack.
Good Luck!
2007-02-06 20:10:55 · answer #1 · answered by HaphazardJoy 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is your choice but your parents are going to be the worst enemys when this topics comes up. I know I have been in the same perdicament. The only choice is to just ask them and make sure you put in there that is all you want and that you awill pay for it. If it is tastful tattoo then I think that you should show them what you want. If you have the passion for tattoos I know you already have one picked out. They are not going to be okay with you get a very big one so just know that you need to get a small one first to make them happy. After the first one heal and you turn 18 you can go onto bigger thing. If you parts don't budge they you may want think about what else you want until next year. Also next year if they tell you know you can always tell them you want moeny and they will buy you tattoo. Good luck honey and I hope everything works out okay.
2007-02-06 23:03:13 · answer #2 · answered by fxysxysrkly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should assume that your parents don't understand the concept of individuality. They may be more than aware of, and understanding of, the concept of individuality; but they may be among the people who think that some ink on your ankle or the back of your shoulder doesn't say anything about your individuality. It just says you're among the many people who like tattoos. Genuine individuality comes from within. Its easy to get some ink on your skin and hope it shows "individuality". The real trick is not doing anything that "makes a statement" but still be able to let your indivuality shine through. That could be what y our parents want in terms of your developing your individuality.
Having defended your parents, why not just tell them what you'd like for your birthday. It is very respectful and nice of you to want their consent. Why not just ask them and tell them how much it means to you, and that you're willing to risk having regrets later on. The world is pretty much divided into people who think tattoos are really tacky and people who think they're wonderful. I don't think you can make non-tattoo people ever really like tattoos, and I don't think a person who thinks tattoos are great is likely to turn into a non-tattoo person later.
If you just tell your parents that you aren't asking them to like the tattoo and you're only asking that they understand how much you want one maybe they'll just figure that its your body, and they aren't the ones who will be walking around with a tattoo.
Parents often look at their perfectly healthy, perfectly attractive, child and feel so grateful that their child has a perfectly healthy body they don't like the idea of doing something to mark it up. The remember how much they wanted a healthy child and how grateful they were when their child was beautiful and healthy. They can have such a deep, almost spiritual, appreciation of their healthy child's able body that they see "marking it up" as someone not respecting the beauty of it. If your parents just can't make themselves "come around" this type of thing could explain why. It won't be about their not understanding your wish to express individuality.
Good luck.
2007-02-06 20:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is ask. If they say no, there's not much you can do. If they're against it, there's probably not going to be anything you can say or do to change their minds. The only sure way to get one is to wait.
If you're willing to negotiate about what tattoo you're going to get, it doesn't sound like it's something you really want. It sounds like you want it just to say you have it.
2007-02-07 15:28:27 · answer #4 · answered by beweird22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Negotiate with them without getting mad or acting immature. They will only use that aginst you. Make sure that they understand that there are no real ramifications against tattoos, especially in coverable places. I know in the past it was only bikers and sailors, but times have changed!
2007-02-07 03:00:23 · answer #5 · answered by country_girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is ask. My sister asked my mom could she at age 16 and our mom signed the paper for her. All she got was a butterfly put low down on her back. I got my tattoo (a cross) on my back at age 19 and it did not even hurt plus didn't bleed.
Good luck
2007-02-06 20:09:30 · answer #6 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask them if they say no you have to wait its only 360 days from your 17th birthday until they cant do anything about it
2007-02-06 20:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
its your body get what you want and where ever you want it, just tell them they won't have to look at it if they don't want to, my rents let me get mine but when i turned 18 mine is up my hip up my ribs on my back and up to my shoulder blade and they always ask to see it:) good luck!!!
2007-02-07 01:43:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their not going to change your mind and your to young to get a tatoo you will have it forever and its not something at 16 your smart enough for.
2007-02-06 20:53:35 · answer #9 · answered by Jungle Luv 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Your parents just don't want you to look like a convict !
2007-02-06 20:02:37 · answer #10 · answered by g_man 5 · 1⤊ 6⤋