Ladies, I need your opinion...does this sound like a good approach to asking this girl out?

Question

I'm planning on asking this girl out. A little history, I met her through a mutual friend a few months back and she had bf at the time. She now works at my gym and we recently became friends on myspace. I checked out her page a couple days before we became friends and she was in a relationship, but now it says she's single and she sent me the friend request. Since, I see her at the gym and talk to her sometimes. Usually I'll talk to her when it's just me @ the gym, none of my buddies around, and she isn't busy. Basically, my plan is to go up to her and talk for a couple seconds, then say something along the lines of:
"So what's the story with you and your bf anyway...you said you two are on and off?"
If she hints towards her being single, then I'll say:
"Well listen, I know we don't know each other that well, but I'd love to take you out sometime, would you be down to doing something this weekend?"
And if she rejects me, then what should I say and should I feel weird @ the gym?

Answer 1

sounds good to me. but if she rejects you, you might wanna try joining another gym. or not working out around her, or at different times.

but usually if two people are "on and off", there's still some commitment going on there and she sure as h*ll aint gonna leave him, someone she knows very well, for you, someone she barely knows and doesnt have much invested in.

i'm just being honest.
hope this helps. if she likes you, i think you'll be able to pick up on whether it will go well or not. but before you ask her out, just ask her, "well, are you wanting to date other guys?.... what type of guys do you go for.....?"

Answer 2

This is just my opinion. I think u can go ahead with your part of the conversation. The only thing I want to add is that remove the following line "would you be down to doing something this weekend?" and instead add "Well listen, I know we don't know each other that well, but I'd love to take you out sometime. What do you think about that?"

This way, you are not throwing it up at her face all of a sudden, and she has time to think. If she hesitates, let her know to call u or message u, anytime she feels ready, and there is no pressure, but you'd love to take her out. Make sure u tell her there's no pressure if she hesitates. And if she says "Yeah, I don't mind" or "That sounds good"...or something positive like that, then go ahead and ask her what she is doing on the weekend.

PS: Don't ever feel bad if she doesn't seem to show an interest in going out. Maybe she is hesitant coz she doesn't know u that well? Maybe u shd become more familiar with her in the gym. Or maybe, she is not completely over her ex and doesn't want to take any strong steps yet. So don't take it personally. Also notice, if She initiates things? Make sure it does seem mutual. Dont feel weird at all. We know she wants to be friends with you. Friendship is always a great foundation. So just say something like "No problem...I understand" or something along those lines, and always smile. That shows your self-confidence and easy going nature.

All the very best! Hope you two get to go out soon.

Answer 3

What kind of feeling do you get around her? Girls will give out some signals if they are interested in you. Check out a body language website and then compare some of the "common give-aways" with the way she is when she speaks to you.
Lots of what she has done is sounding positive, but some could also be attributed to her being employed to work at the gym, and therefore friendly and sociable with the people working out there.
The boyfriend could prove to be an issue. Even if they have broken up, you don't want to get her on the rebound. Perhaps watch the body language and build on the conversations a little for the next couple of weeks and then if all of that is looking positive, ask her out - there is certainly no shame in asking - and if, by chance, she doesn't want to hang out - then hold your head high, say, "No Worries - the offer is there if you change your mind" carry on the conversation for another minute or so then walk away. You don't need to feel weird, or change gyms or anything ridiculous like that... you did what most girls would kill to have a guy do - you stepped up there and had a go!

Answer 4

To be honest I probably wouldnt mention her boyfriend when asking her out...for 2 good reasons

1) She might think that you have been constantly checking myspace to see if she still has a man and then the second she hasnt you are swooping down to ask her out

2) If you are asking her on a date then that is something between her and you..why bring him into it? You want this to be between the two of you, not asking for a full biog of their relationship and how it ended.

To be honest, if she is single she will probably jump at the chance for a date with you and if she is still in an on/off relationship then she will probably say that she cant but that she is going through a bit of a rocky patch.

Also if she does knock you back; so what. Why do you need to feel weird. You asked a simple question and got a simple answer, it shouldnt have to be embarrasing if you are laid back about it. Plus then she knows you like her and may later ask you out. If you were to leave the gym that shows that it has affected you, she will feel bad and you will feel worse. If you stay at the gym and remain friendly then that shows you are easy going and confident (girls like that...it seperates a man from a boy)

Good luck!!

Answer 5

yes you could say that good thinking. fish around make small talk then ask directly as you said above. and if the answer is no . No don't feel bad maybe she's coming off a bad break up and needs space right now. Still show up at the gym and be yourself. Don't shy away or change. Just be yourself. Let her see how you are and that your confident man.