My ex and I broke up last week. I have recently found out that a few days later he was back with his ex (the mother of his child) after they broke up b4 we got together. He said not hard feelings (what a cheek) but cant speak to me as he doesnt want to rock the boat with her (they broke up last time as she cheated on him) I am hurting and I havent even had an apology. Is that too much to expect?
2007-02-06 19:45:50 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How can "it" be so cruel
Well I like how you refered to your ex as "it" because thats what he is! lol that cheater
Never date a guy who has a child from previous relationship...it never works out...for one, because they women ends up being jealous because his ex is going to want to pretend to spend quality time with your man and two, the child is not yours so you'll just end up being phony with him/her (at least i would)...but anywho, he is wrong for leaving you for his ex. Thats cold...he had no right doing that after you stuuck around. You don't need an apology, what you do need to do is leave his a.s.s for good and never speak to him again. He's rude and is only using you when the relationship with his ex goes rocky. Forget the idiot and move on, you can find better. It hurts but it'll only hurt more if you stick around. Don't even ask him for an apology, just make him feel stupid by pretending you don't even care, ignore him and don't argue about it. If he sees you're hurting then he's won and thats what he wants. No man is worth hurting over. It'll be better for you, you don't need to raise a child thats not yours and deal with his ex. What comes around foes around, he'll get cheated on again by his ex, watch. Plus, if he can ditch you like that without you suspecting, he's no good and would do it again. He and his ex deserve one another...2 losers. Good luck!
2007-02-06 19:51:38 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. Q & A 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like it is too much to expect from him but I agree that you deserve one, so try this: look in the mirror and say to yourself; I'm sorry. I am so sorry that I ever let a jerk make you feel this way. I'm sorry that I can't stop feeling like this is my fault somehow even though I know it's not. I'm sorry that I let myself believe that this bastard was the one, ands I'm sorry that I can't make the pain go away faster. Then take a good deep breath and a shower and look in the mirror again and say; starting right now I am going to accept this situation sucks and I can't change that, but I am going to go on and put this behind me, I am going to hold my head up high and continue living for now and not the past, and I am going to get through this with my self respect and dignity. That's the best apology you'll ever get and you know that's sincere and I hope you can move on and I wish you the best of luck
2007-02-06 19:56:46 · answer #2 · answered by faern2877 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Kaishia,
First of all, I'm very sorry that you're going through all of this. Breakups hurt alot, and I hope that you get to feeling better soon.
It seems to me that there are alot of "ex's" involved in this scenario. Ex's going back to ex's. Wow.
First of all, this man had to have been seeing his ex while he was seeing you. That in itself is deceit. He has been lying to you. He claims that there should be no "hard feelings", but yet he moved on back with his ex, and left you to hurt. Should you be overjoyed? I don't think so.
As for "rocking the boat" with his ex, why should that be of your concern? It seems to me that he is more worried about "rocking the boat" with her than the fact that he left you hurt.
I would not hold my breath waiting for an apology from him, dearheart. He lied to you, he left you, and he tried to patronize you to ease his own conscience. I think this man is definitely a loser, and you have not lost a whole lot in your life. His leaving was a benefit to you, not a loss. And, although it hurts now, I think you're going to come to realize that later.
I hope you feel better soon. Best wishes.
2007-02-06 19:55:26 · answer #3 · answered by C J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all he more than likely knew he was going back to her well before he called things off with you, he could have explained things to you before hand so it would not "rock the boat with her" but he chose to duck & run ( very cowardly) He could have explained things to you alot better BUT despite his cowardly exit of the relationship you can not blame him for wanting both parents in his childs life, but you can be angry for the way he did things he should have explained his intentions.BUT you can move on a lot easier ,and be thankful it did not happen after you became pregnant by him or married. I would count that as a blessing in itself ,and not hold your breath for an apology . most cowards do not have remorse nor do they offer apologies
2007-02-06 20:04:16 · answer #4 · answered by Insensitively Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she cheated on him why is he worried about rocking the boat - surely that's her job!! Yes you should expect an explanation and an apology and don't stop bothering him till you get on
2007-02-06 19:56:11 · answer #5 · answered by Soul Reason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been loving for the wrong reason. You thought of his Body, His Wallet, or keeping you from being alone. Now bring it back to The Heart. Your Heart. It's the one that's been hurt. And it's the one that you've neglected. Now start to listen to what it has to say. You may find it,much more pleasant. Get rid of that anger!! You're much too pretty to waste your Beauty on being upset.
2007-02-06 19:51:06 · answer #6 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, an apology is too much to expect. Be content that he was honest enough with you to break it off before taking up with his ex. And to be honest, why do you want to waste any more of your time on a guy who decided he didn't want to be with you. Yes, it hurts. But it will take longer to heal if you dwell on it.
2007-02-06 19:51:26 · answer #7 · answered by Justin H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should give you an apology I think. What a loser anyway you are better off without him and if that if what he wants is a cheater then that is what he can have and you need to find someone who will treat you right! He was probably cheating on you with her!
2007-02-06 19:49:30 · answer #8 · answered by LSD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its over..move on. An apology is not gonna stop the hurt. Remeber what goes around comes around..he seems like he does not know what he wants and you may be better off without him.
2007-02-07 00:22:04 · answer #9 · answered by Ms Dee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might not be to much to ask for but you wont get it...when people have a history, they do usually get back to gether, sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't.. He probably didnt hurt you intentionaly, but it doesnt matter the harm has been done.,.move on let them try to salvage the relationship for the child's sake...dont settle for 2nd best...
2007-02-06 19:55:15 · answer #10 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋