Im so confused!! Help please!!?

Question

I started using started using drugs about three months ago and my life is slowly but surely falling apart! I have been buying every day! My husband knows but he has no idea I am still using. I started with coke and now using meth. I have NO family close. My life has no value since the death of a loved one. I had never really bought anything till know. I have spent all of our savings, gotten loans, and borrowed from our parents. My husband is wonderful and I have been so wrong to him!! He does NOT deserve this!! I can NOT stop. Also my mother should not have to go through this! Why does meth make every thing so messed up?? I feel worthless! I know I need rehab and have told my mom and husband but they are the type that if u ignore it, it will disappear. Please give me advice. What do I tell them?? Please dont say "just go to rehab". I already know that.

Answer 1

honey i feel for you... but i want to tell you that you DO need to go to rehab to help you quit.. meth isnt a drug you can go about quitting by yourself there are serious withdrawls that you may need a dr.s supervision to deal with.. also your mother and husband are enablers... they ignore the problem therefore it enables you to keep up your drug use.. in their minds they dont want to see it so they ignore it and in your mind if they ignore it must be they dont care if you do it so it must be ok.. that is the way you are rationalizing it to yourself... set them down, tell them you have a problem and you need help and support, and then tell them you are going to check yourself into rehab, that you dont want their approval its something you have made your mind up about and you have a serious problem... explain to them that if you had cancer they would want you to get chemo wouldnt they? so therefore they should want you to get the treatment to get better.. let your husband know you are still using (but he probably already knows hes just ignoring the signs) and that its ruining your life and you dont want it to get to the point of ruining your marriage.. try to find a good clinic who deals with meth addiction because it can be trickier to deal with than some other drugs due to the high dependency rate of the drug.................. hugs to you hope you get the help and hope this helps........

Answer 2

Sometimes, people don't realize that 3 months can cause such destuction, so fast.
You need to find that little bit of yourself, that can go to rehab. don't wait, you are losing yourself as you do drugs, so act now before you are too confused.
Make an appt for your doctor. If you don't have one ask a freind that would give you a reference to one. Tell the doctor the problem, and your familys response, the doctor will know how to handle the family and take care of you.
It wont be new to the Doctor, he/she has heard it before and will know what to do to get you into rehab. Without a total support system, and you don't have that, you need to have a rehab situation.
Sorry, you have this problem.
I had a time like that, and when I saw what I was losing, I quit. It's not easy but there are no other options.
Drugs or your husband, your home, your life.
You can blow it quicker than you realize it.
You are realizing it, so don't rationalize it.
YOU HAVE TO CHANGE IT. AND YOU HAVE TO GET THE HELP TO DO THAT!!!!!
Good Luck

Answer 3

First of all I give you much credit for admitting you have a problem which is a plus most wont even do that. You no what is right for you. rehab is one of the best things to do. You might just be to far into and need the proper help. There is nothing wrong with going to get help. Not all progams are bad. Many of them can help you in more ways then one to get back on track. Your family is not being fair by not listening to you. If they really love you the way they should they would want to listen and get you help. You sound to be strong and needing help that is why you have posted this add. You no what you need to do Sorry to say this but hell with them. Get the help and then tell all of them to kiss your behind. I can be here for you if you need someone to talk to. I have a child that is dealing with some what a problem as such. If you like email me . [e-mail]. Keep your head up high dont fall backwards your on the right track right here reaching out right now.

Answer 4

You aren't confused. You are emotionally paralyzed. I recognize the difference because I live there a lot, myself, with various issues.

You say your family doesn't deserve this, but I guess they "deserve it" as much as you do if they're not willing to help you get the help you need. It's the old, "if you're not part of the solution then you're part of the problem."

Bottom line is you need to say, "I'll miss you while I'm away, but I'm doing this for all of us," and check yourself into rehab. In the long run, it'll cost less to be in rehab than to buy drugs and then end up in the legal system. That's nasty and expensive.

Maybe you could show your family this question and the answers and tell them it's your question.

Answer 5

Meth makes everything so messed up because you are always chasing that first high. Each successive high can never be as good as the first high. And you keep doing more and more just to get back to the high of the last high.

F$%# your mom and husband with the 'if ignored, it disappears' concept. You tell them that you are checking yourself into rehab - show them what you did w/the debt etc.

Quit worrying about what to tell them - worry about how you're going to get your next high. Why have feelings at all if you're not going to help yourself?

Answer 6

I was taught this phrase in AA, KISS which means keep it simple stupid. It's to remind me that when I get lost in all the bullshit going on I need to take a step back look at things and keep it simple.

So for you my suggestion is to take a step back look at your life and ask yourself if you like your life. Then ask yourself if you think you have a problem with drugs. Then the really important part is, ask yourself if you want to quit or not. If you want to quit there is family and help out there. If you don't then you need to know that life will get worse and you will end up losing that family you have.

But no one else can make you go to treatment nor can they make you stop. It has to be your decision not anyone elses and you have to get clean for you. I know your mind is racing and trying to make these difficult choices is stressing you out which is making you want to get high even more but there is hope if you want it. It's not your families job to make the decisions or through you in to treatment, their part is being supportive and not enabling you and your behaviors.

So if you want to get clean then stop wasting time and do it. I have been clean almost six years. I am also an Addictions Therapist so if you want someone to talk to you can email me. [e-mail]

Answer 7

To reall get out of that habit, you have to keep yourself really busy. Since your husband is wonderful, request him to take you to some place for a week or so. Keep yourself busy by trekking, rafting, even gambling will do. You may lose some money there but that's worth it than burning it for drugs.

I see some contraries in your message. You say you have no close family or your life has no value. But you say your husband is wonderful and he doens't deserve this. You say your mother should not have to go through this. You have a close family. You have a great husband and obviously a great mother.

What you need to have is some committment to yourself.

Answer 8

Go to a place where you cannot find drugs,no matter how far it is or another country.When you are desperate for drugs and not able to find it,that time is crucial.Once you pass a day like this you will realise that it is not so difficult.Spend a week like this and you are ready to lead a drug free life.Offcourse,after that involve yourself in activities which you really love,keep yourself busy.

Answer 9

leave your drug out on the bench. tell your husband you need rehab and he shouldn't have to take all this drug stuff and that you love him and you want him to help you... you could look around and how did you start this anyway? maybe try counselling. go to counselling with your husband (if yould like) so he can find out whats going on and if you don't feel confortable doing that maybe you can get your counsellor to explain to him what this is doing to you.

Answer 10

Hello Lizzy, One thing you might want to look into is Narcotic Anonomys(NA) It is a really good support group, they hold them every night and you can pretty much come and go as you please, each meeting is about an hour...everyone there is going through or has gone through what you are going through at some point....just look in your phone book, or online and you can find a meeting somehwere in your area. Hope this helps, and god bless.