It was just so sudden...I was in school when suddenly my dad called me and told me that she was in critical condition. When I got there, she was dead. I am just feeling so depressed now and stressed and exams are just around the corner. Who would be in a mood to study when your mom just died? I am 13 btw. The past few days she even sounded so happy and said on her wedding anniversary she is going to throw a big party and eat wadeva she wants and I was looking forward to that too. My normally stingy dad agreed and my mum said she had always wanted to try it once and yet this sort of thing happens...
2007-02-06 19:10:56 · 12 answers · asked by ccfruitpunch93 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I'm so sorry. I lost my mom, and I still miss her every day. I try to keep a picture of our happiest time together. It helps me.
It will take time to learn to just get day to day.
The tests and exams will keep you moving with your life. Do the best you can, but don't put too much stress on yourself.
I was ill when my Mom died, the inactivity made it harder, because I would give into what my sisters and brother call "the wave". My siblings had busy jobs and kids, it was hard for them, but they pulled it together better than I did.
So welcome the tests and stuff, it is a break from the "wave"
I wish there was a word of wisdom, or comfort, but there isn't. It is hard.
You are not alone. But it is something that you must live thru and hopefully it will make us both stronger.
Good luck with the exams, and the "wave"
2007-02-06 19:20:48 · answer #1 · answered by Pat B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry first of all. I no the feeling I lost my father whom who had been sick. I took care of him for seven years and he passed at home with me and in my arms. You no life is a process that we dont see our loved ones leaving us when were younger . But as you get a little older losing those you love like your parents or grandparetns is something most all of us will have to deal with. You can never prepare for it but,, I guess what is even more harder is when you a more or dad and your child passes before you. Keep your head up high You mother would not want you to be sad. Man above is keeping her in a good place and one day you will go there as well. In mean time do good things for your life as if she was here and say all this I am doing is cause my mom would be proud of me. It is ok to cry and be sad. But at first seems as though it will never end. Just do the best in school as you can. And stay close to those that love you. Good luck and sorry once again for you lost
2007-02-07 03:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by babycakes3557 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just a bit older than you when my mom passed. And as in your situation, it was very sudden. I am truley sorry for your loss. I believe everyone copes differently, some people cry some people hold it inside, some people find something to do to distract them (work, or hobby) but what is most important is that you cherish the memory of your mom. And I promise you that in time it will get easier. Just remember that you have other family and friends that are going through similar pain as you, now is the time to rely on eachother, and just be there for eachother.
My condolences to you and your family. May your mom rest in peace.
2007-02-07 03:19:53 · answer #3 · answered by Samuel S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry to hear about your loss. I would just try to be strong for her sake & try to study & do the best you can in your exams. You should always remember that your mom is right next to you, watching you & guiding you. All will be well in time but the memories will never fade. She is in a safe place & you should be happy for her. If the pain becomes unbearable, my advise would be to turn to religion if you are spiritual. If not, just realise that everything happens for a reason. Find comfort in those who are still alive & try to help them get through this hard time. Good luck.. Hang in there.
2007-02-07 03:19:20 · answer #4 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'mso so sorry about your mom, she sounded like a really loving person!. You need someone you can confide in and from the jest of your conversation above, your dad doesn't seem to be the one you can....seek out an older sibling, maybe your mom had an aunt you can talk to--first try to find someone in your family that you can relate to and talk to about this---and I dont mean one talk--you may need many hours of helping you get through this grieving process--if no one in your family seems to fit the bill, try your school counselor. he/she may be able to refer you to a REAL counselor because at 13, a loss of a beloved mother is something that will be with you for many years to come and you are at a very imppresionable age and the right counseling now will save you many, many years of counseling down the road. God bless you and I hope you get the help you need and by the way, don't worry about school right now- at the very least, they can give you a pass for a month to get over this and you can go to summer school to catch up---it is the least of your worries at this point but please remember this--- remember ALL the good times the two of you had-- if need be, make a scrap book of pics you took of her and of the both of you---put your little comments in alongside the pics-- it may sound corny right now,but you will cherish that book in years to come and may even get to show your children the book some day..............good luck to you......be strong and seek out the best person you can confide in and keep in touch with them, even if it is a friend's mom.......
2007-02-07 03:26:13 · answer #5 · answered by mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow-- I am very sorry. I have only an inkling of how you must be feeling and would suggest that you talk to your family-- nearest and dearest-- first and then to a counselor, maybe at school, because this is really not the most predictable and healthy place to get good support. God bless you!
2007-02-07 03:15:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi CC, I am so sorry to hear about you mom's passing. WE only have one mom,and we love her,and have a connection with her. Something to do with carrying us before being born. You need to cry alot,and remember how your mom was.And talk to her, we know she is in Heaven. You will never get over your mom passing,and no one else could ever replace her.Be strong for your mom,and yourself. I know how you feel, i have lost my mom,and when i think about her,i still cry. I miss her very much. But cry your heart out,i did,and it seem to help, by letting the hurt roll out of my body.Sorry again about your mom. A Friend.
Clowmy
2007-02-07 03:25:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first i want to say im very sorry for your loss. i can sortof completly understand why you feel like his. i cant really tell you what to do my mom died when i was 6 she got in a car accident a drunk driver hit her. but my think was kinda like yours i remember getting out of school early and being told my mom was in the hospital. i think the only way to get past this is with time and by talking to someone
2007-02-07 03:21:41 · answer #8 · answered by carrieffms 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing two years ago .As a christian all I did was to talk to God about how l felt all the time and asked him to see me through. Each time I prayed I felt relieved as if a big burden was just lifted off me.Why not try talking to Jesus. Tell him exactly how you feel and ask him to help you. Try reading the Holy Bible.
2007-02-07 03:29:37 · answer #9 · answered by theresa e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Deepest Sympathy's, to You & Your Father. As hard as it is to understand, at your age. We have Death, to face, from now on. Just know that Mother is looking out for you.And wanting you to make her Proud. I'm one that believe, Our Loved Ones are looking at us. Even as we live the rest of our Lives. Have Peace, Littlle One.
2007-02-07 03:21:34 · answer #10 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋