I dont remeber much from my childhood but i dont know why I can remember something sexual that happened with my father and im not sure if this happened or not. I think that when I was a kid I didnt even realize what I was doing. im scared to tell my mother b/c I dont know how she will act. is it possible that I can find a way to remeber all of this so that I can know what really happened?
2007-02-06 19:02:58 · 8 answers · asked by kyah 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I wasnt going to reply, but I saw the other answers werent really that helpful... especially the one about upsetting your mother.
I am really sorry this happened to you. The fact that you cant remember much about your childhood speaks volumes and is very common amongst people who have experienced some form of trauma in your childhood.
The first and most important thing to know is that it is NOT your fault. Your father has some very serious issues.
You sound older, if you are over 18 I suggest you get some therapy from a local therapist. There are some therapists who base their hourly rate on how much you earn. Try a local community organisation. Your local phone book is a good source of information. Sexual Abuse centres can usually give you some general advice over the phone. I would start there.
There are ways of obtaining repressed memories. A psychologist will be able to help you with it.
Also, not sure if you are religious but there is a method called 'prayer counselling' in which a counsellor will pray with you and ask God to reveal these memories to you.
I wish you all the very best. I know a lady whose repressed memories of this nature didnt come out until she was in her 40s. It is very common.
Try your local library also for some books to help you cope with this.
While you are getting all this sorted, I would avoid telling your mother if you dont know how she will react. The last thing you need is the stress if it doesnt go well! Do you have a trusted friend? I would go that route instead.
I think you are very brave and wish you all the best. Your walk will not be an easy one, but you will be better getting repressed memories out. It will help you to heal.
2007-02-06 19:20:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm surprised you don't remember your childhood.
My head was cracked open but still had a lot of memories.
I have a bad feeling your father raped you when you were a kid.
My half brother molested me when I was 3 or 4.
2015-03-18 17:02:41 · answer #2 · answered by Robert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back, if possible to the house you lived in as a child. If you still live there, sit in silence and think, maybe it is true, maybe your mum does know something about it but just hasn't said anything to you yet about it. i don't know but you need to do something to conjure up some memories about yor childhood.
2007-02-06 19:13:27 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Bekka ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't think I'm being rude, but how can you not be sure if it happened or not? Do you think it might have been a dream or something? If you are for sure that it was real, then u defiantly need to tell your mom..u will feel much better after, like a big heavy block is lifted off of you. But if you are not sure, dint tell mom, this news will upset her so much. So make sure you know what your talking about first. Good Luck!
2007-02-06 19:09:39 · answer #4 · answered by kimberlydj20 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My elementry school principal touched me, but i didnt say nothing becuase i didnt kno it was wrong. But a few years ago I read he was arrested for solicitating a male prositute/
2007-02-06 19:07:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meditate. And see a counselor, ASAP. Good luck :)
2007-02-06 19:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by Krissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres hypnosis but this might confuse you because if you dont remember it its hard to tell you need to just nonchalantly ask your mom.
2007-02-06 19:06:37 · answer #7 · answered by MADLYNN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My childhood memories are bitter......
2007-02-06 19:06:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋