Depressed, what to do about it w/out insurance or extra money?

Question

I believe that I am clinicly depressed. I can't seem to sleep at night (hence why I'm on here at 1 AM), during the day all I want to do is sleep, I was once a very out going person -you couldn't keep me home- now the idea of even going to the store for sandwich meat for my 9yr old daughter's lunch just about shuts me down. I have little to no energy, I'm newly a stay-at-home mom w/ two kids ages 3 1/2 yrs and 18 months. It's all I can do just to get up and take care of them and sometimes that's not even as good as it should be. They want their mommy, and all mommy wants to do is sleep (I'm exhausted, I feel drugged throughout the day) or be left alone. I KNOW I need help, but since I quit my job I have no insurance & I can't get on my husbands (not legaly married). We barely make ends meet now with his paycheck. I'm at the end of my rope & I'm starting to feel myself loose control. I don't want to hurt anyone & I want to be there for my family, I just don't think I can.

To clarify: Yes, I have three kids. Sorry about that. And yes, this is not something that has just hit me. It's something that has slowly been getting worse over the last 3 months. I told my husband about it, but he just put it down as me being an emotional female. He finally listened to me tonight and saw it as real. And I've told my parents too and they agree w/ seeking help. It's just been money as the big question.

Thank you for all the lists of services that have been given so far! I'm making a list and will check them out further tomorrow. Texas is my state.

Answer 1

I hope by the time this reaches you that my prayers for you have begun their aid. I was once diagnosed as clinically depressed. After trying a couple of drugs I decided I'd try GOD. It worked. That was 14 years ago and since then I've had some struggles but have been able to overcome by enlisting the aid of prayer partners and a couple of discreet good friends that would listen to my challenges and then offer direction with the promise to hold me accountable to my efforts. It will not be easy but I can say with some security that if you and your husband are communicating well and if you seek counsl TOGETHER that you can also overcome. One caution, don't be afraid to let a professional help you with medication. Many spiritusal people think that it denotes failure if they can't trust in GOD or ALLAH or in their own belief system. Nonsense, help is help; sometimes a person needs help just to get strong enough to go the rest of the way on their own. If you're looking for a church, try UPCI online and search by location. I suggest this only because I tried a lot of different ways over the years from Catholicism to Buddism to Yoga, and TM. I was an alcoholic for 14 years and only GOD and the infilling of his spirit relieved me of that burden and my depression. Finally, find someone who you know struggles with similar matters and help them. That is, read about depression and how to deal with it; then, don't commiserate with her (don't risk attachment with another man), but instead lead her along the helping path you've chosen. Maybe you could watch comedies together or go for walks with you kids in the park. Exercise is good for depression. Take a course on finances with your husband (try Dave Ramsey's ). I will pray for you and ask my prayer partners as well. God bless.

Answer 2

First do you have two or three kids? You said you also have a 9 year old? Anyway you are for sure depressed. I am going through some of the same things right now but I think mine has to do with the weather. I moved to a state that is freezing right now snow everywhere after living in CA all of my life. It is too cold to go anywhere and I have no real friends here. The more that you lay around the worse it gets and you start not even wanting to get out anymore. You still have young kids that need you. Why dont you join a moms group or something like that to get you out of the house. I found it easier to meet mothers when my kids were younger. I dont know where you live but since you are not married you may qualify for free assistance on insurance so that you can see a doctor. Your kids need you so you are going to have to pull yourself together for their sake. Good luck.

Answer 3

Given that this just came on and has not been a long term thing, it may be simply solved w/a thryoid test and then yes, medication, but worth a try. Anyway, there are resources you can use that charge either on a sliding scale fee or even free. Could provide more info if I knew where you lived etc. ([e-mail])

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Really, you need to talk to a counselor. There ar efree clinics around, or call your local hospital physician referral service and tell them of your plight. This is far too complex to be solved here.

Answer 6

tell some people that yout trust to help you get professional help.. look for a support group. look for pro bono therapists... call up mental health places, some often have plans and discounts for people in your situation...whatever you do, just dont give up. do this for yourself. I was in the same position without healthcare and i used these methods. good luck and god bless.

Answer 7

there are low income clinics in most areas , go see them , some are even free