Advice on how to tell a guy i want some?

Question

Ive been knowing my friend for about 3 years now.
He has always flirted with me and so on.

In september (yeah, it was a while ago) we had sex.
ever since then, our communication has been little to none. i barely see him now (due to him changing job locations) and we never really talk on the phone. but when i do spend time with him its like he acts the same, where we left off, flirty, touchy-feely etc.

*So last week i slipped him a letter casually asking him 'when did he want to have a little fun'

he hasnt responded, so thats why i wanted to try to maybe call him and let him know im still intrested in him, mainly for sex.

but like i do work up the courage to ask him, but of course thinking about it gets me kinda nervous so i never tell him
(hence the slipping of the note)

thanks for the help! i really need some advice!

Answer 1

actually by you slipping him the note he knows loud and clear now what you want and if he hasn't responded you got your answer I know you don't want to hear that or you may want to make up excuses that he's to busy. but sweetie no ones ever to busy for making love if he wants it he would call you up on it or make a move by now.

I would be the lady that you are and stay away. nothing worse than a woman chasing a man and looking needy. You did enough with the note now let him come back and do something . He should have by now. I would let it be.

Answer 2

Very puzzling situation. If he's severe about not liking his relationship, why stay with it? you opt on to sit with him (one among those lunches is an extremely good chance) and verify with him. about the way you sense, and how he feels about you. Be prepared for the worst, yet also verify you've a stunning good case layed out. also, not too be harsh, yet he sounds kinda manipulative: "will supply me a guilt vacation telling me he's gloomy if i cant flow" it makes him sound like he's both making a contact that he likes you OR he's were given a situation that he's attempting to shift onto some different person. briefly: verify with him, be waiting for something, and ensure you've concept issues by skill of before hand.

Answer 3

Live as you will. But, let me warn you of some changing times, that you're gonna go through. By the time you hit 40? You're gonna want to have someone around. That isn't just giving you some. You're gonna want A Heart to be there for you. Old Fashion? Sure! But it's how things go, as you age. Live a little. But know that, one day, you're gonna see your Body as much more than something to play with. Good Luck.

Answer 4

It sounds like you let him know in your note. If he hasn't responded I'm sorry but that is not a good sign - are you sure he got the note? The most that I would do further is ask him if he got the note. If you pursue it further than that you are basically throwing yourself at him when he isn't interested.

Answer 5

Sex can be something that's done just for fun, or it can be an ultimate expression of love. The fact that he's non-responsive to your hints of wanting sex perhaps means he's not only interested in having a little fun.

Answer 6

I f youve been with him for three good years and he cant read your body language,let alone the "letter"
Its a pity!

Gather the courage and ask him or
let go en move on.

Answer 7

It could be just me.... but if I had a friend for that long, a good friend, I'd be a little scared to damage my relationship ,..if that person only wanted me for sex...He probably still like you the same, but want more from you than just sex..... A whole relationship, either just friends or more....I think its a bit sad that you guys have such a long history and you want him for only sex. be careful not to forget your friendship just cus you want some.

Answer 8

OH im so sorry i know how you must feel. but its not the end of the world. i wouldnt chase him but be patient. he may just pop up when u least expect than u can b straight up with him. until then i mean u could ask him about it just to see what he says so that u arent wondering.

Answer 9

perhaps he is actually working. perhaps it did slip his mind.so you should give a little space for him to reply..you should keep the phone line going back and forth and see what happens, sounds like you might have a nice thing going on.. he sure is a lucky guy..wish i could get a letter sometime..he he.. [e-mail]

Answer 10

If he has a nice woman like you letting him know she wants him and he doesn't come running then he must be gay. (Not being sarcastic here). Tell him that you want to be with him, but you're not willing to wait. Give him 2 weeks to make up his mind, then move on.

Good luck!