i wanna take out my guy to dinner...i've got money and he doesn't....so i sliped money in the valentines day card...would that b a bad idea?
would a guy feel bad if i put money in there with a note sayin...dinner at.....so he can pay? coz i thought that by lettin my guy pay...it'd make him feel more like a man...
2007-02-06 18:42:39 · 20 answers · asked by Forever happy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If someone put money in valentine, I know I wouldn't be mad.
2007-02-06 18:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by The Notorious Doctor Zoom Zoom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most men are very proud and would take that not well. I understand your heart is in the right spot and you don't care that he doesn't have the money you stil care and love him for him i admire you there dear.
I don't know how your man thinks. But most men would feel bad inside and perhaps ashamed they can't provide for you the things they so much want to show you.. Why don't you try another approach. We as women have all beeen there we can't do certain things we need help with around the house whether its lifing something heavy or putting a electronic thing together were all thumbs. Why don' t you look around your house or back yard and see what things you could really need help with that he would be good at doing for you. and tell him that if you hired a fix it man you would have to pay for it. and you much rather have your guy come along and do this for you. and then you pay him . you said he has no money so sounds like things are tight for him so pay him handsomely for the work he does another words pay him more than you would a fix it man. I'm sure he could use that money to live on as well.
and have a wonderful valentines day. oh ps. if none of these idea's work above. then why don't you suprise him with an nice romantic dinner in then he won't feel any pressure in having to take you out when he knows you know he doesn't have the money and you don't have to worry about giving him money and making him feel guilty. you two can make your own little fun in your own way and it will be that much more meaningful too.
after all its your love your celebrating on a very special day. what better way to show him than your love and the things you have planned for him.
Good luck sweetie
2007-02-07 06:13:47 · answer #2 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your heart is in the right place and he will see that.
Sometimes our egos get in the way of us appreciating a nice gift.
I say go for it if you want to... if he seems hurt then it was not your fault - it's just hard to admit that you're poor sometimes...
Part of the whole MAN thing is being a good provider for someone - so no matter what - if he is not able to do his best right now then he is going to feel bad no matter what you do.
It also depends a lot on how long you have been together. It might be offensive if you guys just met... but if you have decided that you are in it for the long haul then it is like taking care of family.
2007-02-07 02:47:11 · answer #3 · answered by rabble rouser 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on you man.....but speaking from a guys point of view, you should probably not do it. Maybe you can somehow convince him to cook a nice meal?
If that is out of the question then it is ok to try and suggest it if you are really set on going out to dinner.
You say he has no money, then I would assume you have footed the bill for meals out before. This should be no different, except you are worried about him feeling imasculated by the fact that he can't take you out to dinner. You need to ask him.
Hope that helps.
2007-02-07 02:48:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it might be better if you talked to him directly.
Remember that many men have this horrible thing called an EGO. If you do what you said, you might really hurt his ego. Tell him that you feel strange pulling money out of your wallet on valentine's Day and give him the money.
2007-02-07 02:51:17 · answer #5 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I first read your question, I was quick to think, "Bad, bad idea."
Then I read your reason and I think you must be a mighty fine girl..and I hope you are a girl but no matter if you are not...and your plan should make your guy feel you really want him to celebrate the day set aside for lovers.
2007-02-07 02:52:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good idea only if you know he wont get offended by it. Ego issues, you know?
I would suggest that you just tell him that you want to give him a treat on Valentine's Day. I am very sure that he wont be offended and in fact he'll probably be very touched by your generous gesture and am sure he'll be very proud to be going out with a liberated 21st Century girl ;-)
2007-02-07 02:58:48 · answer #7 · answered by snoringcouchprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think giving him money will help his dignity. I read recently that in relationships where the two have different levels of incomes, it is important that they both feel they contribute. You'll do more for your relationship if you show him you are happier with burgers and fries on him than steak and lobster on your dime.
2007-02-07 02:48:31 · answer #8 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea. Ask him out to dinner.If he has low self esteem. Move on.Who pays should not be an issue Unless he is a weak person.
2007-02-07 02:50:36 · answer #9 · answered by Tom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be fine if he trusts you, and among other things trusts the fact that you won't go bragging about how you slipped money.... paid for the valentines dinner... blah blah.... and then all his homies know.
2007-02-07 02:54:57 · answer #10 · answered by Amil Khassim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋