i recently told my boyfriend that i was pregnant but he refused to acknowledge that fact. he hasn't even spoken to me since that day. I have also cut all ties with him so that i give him time to think about it. what if he never thinks about it? what will i do?
iam confused please help me.
i still love him with all my heart and i want him back but he wants me to have an abortion which i don't want to do.
stellah.
2007-02-06 18:31:19 · 12 answers · asked by stellaz 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You know what I think personally you should stay away from him if he doesnt show you any soppourt and just wants you to have an abortion you shouldnt be with him if he doesnt love you enough to keep the child around you two made then he should be around at all. I thik you should personally have the child and if he wants nothing to do with the child then good make him serve his rights over there will be plenty of men that would be just tickled to have a nice woman with a baby. Dont let him bring you down theres millions of guys out there trust me theirs a better man for you. Hope I help and since you even dont know me I hope you think about what I said!
2007-02-06 18:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by shana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but you f**ked up. I would strongly suggest that you quit dreaming that you have a perfect boyfriend and wake up to the fact that with a guy like this, you'll be a single mom.
So ask yourself: Do I have the resources (financial, working skills, emotional, and maturity) to provide a good life for this child? If you are strong, capable, have employable skills and are emotionally mature, then have the child knowing that the chances of depending on the child's father are slim. If you don't have the resources, do the child a favour and have an abortion. Let it be born in someone else. I'm sorry to hear you got yourself into this with this irresponsible guy. Do the right thing.
Very best of luck and God bless.
Charles Cox
2007-02-07 02:43:26 · answer #2 · answered by CharlieC 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all is he your spouse or your boyfriend...because they are TWO different things. If he doesn't acknowledge your pregnancy that is fine. It is up to you whether you have an abortion or not, not up to him. You obviously can't have him back if you gestate the pregnancy to term so you'd better get over wanting him back soon. It doesn't matter whether he ever thinks about it...I suggest that you seek legal assistance, see what you can do to have him at least pay for part of your medical expenses for the coming months, you will also have to decide whether to keep the baby once it arrives or place it for adoption. Again, legal counsel can help you there, especially if you plan on keeping the baby...you will need to file for child support from the father (whether he WANTS to acknowledge or not) and if need be subpoena a DNA sample from him if he denies contributing the sperm that resulted in your pregnancy.
2007-02-07 02:38:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dear Stella,
Your bf does not feel ready to have a child. If you want to go ahead with the pregnancy then know that it is on your own. If you are prepared to do it on your own with no fantasies about you two playing happy families then you MAY be ok. I say MAY because it's a lonely, hard job at times when you are on your own with no money, few friends & no life away from a baby.
2007-02-07 05:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart - based on what you said here, you will regret having an abortion.
It's time for you to connect with your County's Health Agency. Look it up in the yellow pages or call any pediatrician in the yellow pages and ask them for their phone number.
You need to focus on you and your baby right now. You need pre-natal vitamins, for example.
There are lots of services - start the process.
You are smart to leave him alone, he knows where to find you. Hopefully someday he'll come around - but you can't make him do anything. If he never comes around - you're not the 1st woman to have to raise their child by herself - and you seem like you are strong enough to do it!
2007-02-07 02:44:26 · answer #5 · answered by Stan W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a tough one! i think he acknowledges it..but he is scared to! i think you should give him some space.like a few days or maybe even a week..and if you havent heard from him i suggest calling him and saying something like "we really need to talk and i need you to be a man right now..to talk about this issue!".. if he doesnt want to talk..you kinda have to trick him into talkin to you! if that makes any sense! i hope this helps you! i wish you the best of luck!..
the abortion part is up to u girl! its your body!! not his..he doesnt own you! you do what you feel is right! there are plenty of opions for you to choose from..like abort it..put it up for adoption! and keep it! i also suggest if you put baby up for adoption make sure the baby will have a way to contact you when he/she is older! just incase it does! take that from me! cuz i was adopted and in NYS the file is sealed! and i hired someone to find my biological mother and try not to keep it a secret from people like your husband down the road and stuff! b.c my biological mother did that and she didnt really want me contacting her..b/c no one knew about me..not even her parents!
2007-02-07 02:38:58 · answer #6 · answered by BaZ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what you think is best, but don't kill an innocent baby because your (whatever) wants you too.
Perhaps you should take this up with your parent, because you don't know the difference between boyfriend and spouse which makes me believe you aren't an adult yet.
Good Luck!
2007-02-10 19:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by Jas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay - sit down and carefully work out what you want to do, what you can afford to do. Is it feasible to keep the baby? If not, you have two options, abortion or adoption.
YOu need a cool and calm head now. Pur yourself first - don't rely on a boyfriend - he might come back, he might not.
2007-02-07 03:33:36 · answer #8 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hon don't think of it as him not acknowledging your pregnancy because more then likely it is on his mind 24/7.dont do anything that you will regret.just sit and think about whats best for you and your child.maybe he will come around and maybe he will not but dont stress yourself over it be strong
2007-02-07 03:23:06 · answer #9 · answered by blankminded 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun he is thinking about it that's why he is not talking to you sounds like this was not planed he needs time to get his head around this he may not be ready to be a dad do what you need to do for you and your baby let him worry about what he is going to do
2007-02-07 02:46:50 · answer #10 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋