Ya know what I've noticed? When I approach a guy (instead of waiting for a guy to approach me), they never seem to be very "into" me. When they do the approaching they act really into me -- it's as if I take away the game for them by showing interest first. Does this mean I always have to wait to be approached? but that way I'll never get to pick my guys (but will always be lonely, waiting)? sigh...I don't get it... can someone explain???
2007-02-06 18:27:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound like that book "He's Just Not That Into You"...
Guys like the pursuit and like working for what they want.. also, maybe you're approaching the guys who wouldn't be interested anyway... if the pursuit thing is true, just flirt like hell!
2007-02-06 18:31:46 · answer #1 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a girl approaches a guy first, most guys are startled because guys usually approach girls. Just because they are not mesmerized by your approach does not necessarily mean that they don't like you. In fact, they may not "seem" to be into you but their inner mind can be different. I would suggest to you to constantly approach your dream prince. I think waiting to be approached is a foolish attitude because some nerds may approach you. If you reject them, you can leave bad impression of yourself to others and if you accept them you might regret it later.
P.S. When you approach a guy try to wear sexy clothings. I love it when girls approach with little cleavage
2007-02-07 02:40:50 · answer #2 · answered by jin l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the situation. If at a club then you probably wouldn't do well cause men are there for "the hunt" and in the case body language is you best choice. If in a well light social setting approach as if you had nothing better to do but never ask for anything. Guys like to feel they are in control at all times there are a few who might enjoy being ask out but majority it's like your being dominate. and dominate/controlling women aren't good for a man's limbedo
2007-02-07 02:41:45 · answer #3 · answered by postsecondreturn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Its not true in every case if that guy really like u he will b interested.It doesnt matter whether u approach or the other one.Some are shying 2.it may b ur wrong view that others r not intersted in u.Just verify it otherwise u r forcing ur relationship on them.
2007-02-07 02:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by Sania 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you approach the guys, you take away the excitement for them to court you. You shouldn't make it too easy for them. If you want them to approach you, flirt with your eyes, smile or anything that's your asset. Good luck!
2007-02-07 02:33:23 · answer #5 · answered by HopeGrace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it, don't get too serious, remain friends and just have fun.
When the right guy comes, he'll be into you (and vice versa), no matter who approaches who first.
2007-02-07 02:36:06 · answer #6 · answered by fip 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOME will show interest only to get sex. BE WARE.
2007-02-07 02:34:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋