I have fallen for my sister in law.?

Question

My sister-in-law and I made the mistake of having a short affair. She is in her early 20's and is not interested in settling down. She is a beautiful woman, and I cant stop thinking about her. SHould I just be happy with her sister.... or can I make the switch??

Answer 1

based on your other questions asked, I think you are joking!

Answer 2

You answered your own question. You said specifically that you and your sister in law "made the mistake" of having a short affair. If you know it was a mistake then that is that. You also said she is not interested in settling down. There is not switch to make here!! It is time to get over it and come to terms with the mistake you made and move on with your life. Continuing to dwell on "What If" is only going to end up hurting everyone in the long run and might just cause you to end up alone and without either sister. Then you will be left with living with that mistake and all the other ones you made by refusing to leave it alone. It's not worth it. Perhaps you would be better served by remembering what it was that attracted you to your wife and put your efforts into pouring your passion into that relationship. It is your choice to make your relationship with her one that encompasses all of your dreams and fantasies in such a way that neither of you has any desire or reason to be thinking or anyone else. If you aren't getting what you need from this relationship it is only because you are obviously not giving enough of yourself to it to warrant happy returns. And think about it from your wife's point of view. You can't be giving her what she needs from the relationship either if you are spending all of your time thinking about being with her sister so what do you think she spends her time fantasizing about? Only you can change this by turning what you already have into what you have always wanted. You might just be surprised to find that you had more than you ever imagined right in front of you all along.

Answer 3

Hey Fish, this sounds straight from the Soap Opera..lol..but your problem is very serious. Firstly, you have to deny your feelings to your sister-in-law and put your brother first. Your brother is probably one of your best friends and you wouldn't want to him to be mad at you because of one woman. I suggest in your spare time talk to your sister-in-law and talk about how you feel about each other and what you should do. If you want to do the right thing, you really should tell your brother about the short affair. Even though it is very hard to tell him and you know he will be very mad at you, the truth will someday come out and he will be even more angry that you kept the secret for a long time. I don't understand what you mean by make the switch. If you are really attractive to your sister-in-law and you both chose the wrong decision you still need to tell your brother and break the bad news. I feel very sorry for your brother. Next time don't make that mistake. It's really heart-breaking to see someone you love is cheating with your brother. Good Luck.

Answer 4

no longer some thing EVER "only occurs. you're making unsleeping judgements no matter if to feed your delusion. shame on her sister for having such disrespect for her sibling. imagine with the enormous head for a second. Why may you pick to be with someone who may cope together with your spouse like that. How may you experience if the shoe develop into on the different foot. in case you do not have a brother then imagine some random human being. Her sister is feeding off of your projections and also you're projecting that you're receptive to her advances.

Answer 5

you made a huge huge big mistake, it is a big mistake, you are in trouble, but I only can give you one hint to help you- be aware and awake that what your heart is loving is blinding you from the truth and it is controlling you taking your bad side to bitter side in your life, it is going to be a hell for you if you don't stop now the thinking of her, coz what you have at home is much much good and better, don't hate the wife the good in her, you will regret later.
the sister is only the bad spirit, the beauty is a trick to your mind and soul, it is bad idea.

Answer 6

Okay here’s what you do. First talk to your wife, tell her everything. Then The rest will all take it’s course. The fact that your wanting to be with anyone but your wife means that you two need to talk. And forget the sister because if she’s willing to cheat with her sister hubby she’s never going to be good to you.

Answer 7

What is wrong with you. Why did you marry in the first place if you have feelings for your sister-in-law. That is bad news. If you don't love your wife dump both of them. It will save you lots of tears later on

Answer 8

Why not keep them both? Have a weekend at home with the two of them. Make sure there's plenty of pot and booze. Casually make a joke about a threesome. As the night progresses, you might be one lucky devil! You might be able to turn it into a triangle, if you just play it cool. Then you'll all 3 be living and ******* together and you won't have to choose.

Hope that helped. Blessed Be!

Answer 9

Dude , I have a brother ,he has a very beautiful wife. BUT that is my brothers wife, even if they divorced I could never cross that line, but hey I guess it is all in how you were raised ???
Jerry Springer will let you tell your story , Doesn't he specialize in the twisted stories of trash

Answer 10

You should stop the affair and you both should be ashamed. Of all people to have to had cheat with. Good luck in divorce court.

Answer 11

ummm

well you choose yur wife but if you have no feelings for your wife wat so eva then i gues you should divorce and go with her sister(with will be very! jerk like! but wateva floats you boat!)

you dont want both at the same time because sooner or later she is gonna find out!

there is no sense pretending



trust me i learned that the very hard way!