They're very entrenched in their Christianity. My girlfriend and I share a great relationship besides this issue. She doesn't live with her parents but they are a big part of her life. Sometimes I feel like our relationship is creating a huge amount of tension between her and her folks. Basically, the problem is that I am not Christian and that's what her parents want for her: a Christian man. Am I in over my head here? By the way, we have been dating for about four months so we're still kinda fresh you could say.
2007-02-06 18:24:59 · 14 answers · asked by AndyS22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, they are refusing to even meet me even when I would like for them to get to know me. I wouldn't mind meeting them...
2007-02-06 18:25:58 · update #1
This is a huge reason I am not religious. Religion does things to people. It makes them close-minded and hateful. Did you know that more people have died in the name of religion then any other single reason? This is just another example. Rather then getting to know you for the person you are and being happy for their daughter, they have already decided that because you are different, there is something wrong with you. If they can't get over that, there isn't anything you can do. Just work on your relationship with your girlfriend and hope they come around.
2007-02-06 18:31:04 · answer #1 · answered by Loki's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WTF! Are there still people like this out there? That is crazy...
Since the two of you are still "fresh" I would just concentrate on getting know your girl and not worry about her jerky parents yet.
In getting to know her you will learn a few important things.
Do I care about her enough that I am willing to get into a situation like this.
How much does her family influence her?
Are her parents just being that way because you have only been dating a short time?
Maybe if they thought the two of you were really serious, they might put out a bit more effort.
I can tell you that I married a man even though his parents didn't like me. Our marriage ended after 7 years and his family played a huge roll in our relationship issues. Never get serious with a person if you don't get along with the family (I realize that you would get along just fine if it were up to you).
2007-02-06 18:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a couple of jerks. Remain strong. Ultimately, your girl may have to choose between you and them.
I'm Jewish, and my personal view about Judaism is that it has great respect for the law and adherence to it, but has lost the way concerning Christ.
My view about Christianity is that it's the correct way, but many of it's followers have lost the way more than anyone and tend to be the worst examples of what they're supposed to be representing.
2007-02-06 18:29:21 · answer #3 · answered by Joseph C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her parents are acting real immature. I'm a strong Catholic and I feel I should marry a Catholic, but I'm not gonna be that picky. You can't help who you fall in love with and if her parents aren't willing to meet you at this point, just be the bigger person, which it sounds like you already are, and just give them time. In fact, my family has a strong religious background, my Uncle is a priest and my brother is studying to become one. What I would recommend is that you, and your gf, go and talk to a priest about the situation. In the meantime, relax and don't let it stress you out b/c over time they shuld give in.
2007-02-06 18:31:35 · answer #4 · answered by Pedro 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am involed with the same sorta thing
but if you really love each other you would tell her parents to accept you because no one should not be together because they are not the same religon, that is a old fashion sorta stuff it is wrong for it to still be continued!
FIGHT THE POWER!
lol getting a little crazy here haha
2007-02-06 18:31:48 · answer #5 · answered by Pie Goddess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to consider if your really going to eventually marry her or convert her or yourself. Im taking it you live in the states. right there, thats freedom of religion. if you two really love each other, then they should respect your wishes. Its her life, not theirs to live. still, be respectful because she is vert dear to her parents.
Your going to have some drama though. So unless your good at working things out..you might want to consider breaking it off. if you want to keep her, then I suggest 'My Big Fat Greek Wedding' as a movie to watch with them. or just let them view it alone. It gets the point across pretty well and is really funny movie too.
2007-02-06 18:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by Sore wa himitsu desu! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if she feels the same way they do religiously, she will problably dump you. You might as well end it before things get more complicated. Besides it will never be the road you really want to go down anyway.
2007-02-06 18:40:41 · answer #7 · answered by Colt Seavers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents sound like bible thumpers......RUN as fast as you can. These are the type of people who force their beliefs on others. I have been through this before but not for religious reasons.....Go find a nice Jewish woman, get away from these Jesus humpers!
2007-02-06 18:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
be a christian...or if they see u like good man they will love u..
2007-02-06 18:35:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to who myou want to marry, her parents or her? religion won't matter when it comes to love. show to her parents that you love her not just a word you say.
2007-02-06 18:32:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋