I'm not pretty at all.....?

Question

and people have no problem telling me this. How can I stop people from referring to my lack of beauty...and how do i live a life where looks dont matter?

Answer 1

you can't escape from a**holes

Answer 2

How sad, I would never feel free to act like they do. How old are you? If you are underage, tell those people how cruel they are and you expect more from them. If you are old enough to be on your own, move to a better place and find better friends. If you find people who comment about you so freely, then it is they who are ugly. A nasty personality is a complete turn off.
I don't know how to live a life where looks don't matter. It is so prevalent. Media and advertising spread the message all over.
We both know that what really counts is on the inside. You have a lot of value and don't let anyone convince you that you don't. Be involved in things that really matter. Be a mentor, a big sister, a volunteer. There are so many organizations that let you travel and volunteer. My cousin went to Guatemala to help care for babies in an orphanage.
This is what has real meaning, and those fools who are so concerned about appearance lead a shallow, sad life that will pass unnoticed.

Answer 3

Looks will always matter and unfortunately, you can't do much to stop the remarks. However! You can learn to accept yourself no matter what you look like. People say cruel and shallow things all the time. I suggest you do what you can to stay away from these toxic morons and start learning to accept yourself for the beautiful person you are.

I suggest counseling to show you the way to discovering your own beauty. I know, people always say go to counseling, I suggest it because I've gone to counseling and have always felt better afterwards. You can't change what other people do or say, you can only change how you deal with it. We're not put on this earth to be the punching bag of every insensitive jerkwad out there. You're worthwhile too and you belong as much as anyone else. Try the counseling, you won't regret it.

Good luck!

Answer 4

If you have people referring to your lack of beauty you are around the wrong people. Most folks I know would never make negative comments about an individuals appearance, especially to that person.

If you want to live a life where looks don't matter then you need to not let looks matter *to you*. There will always be people around who have different priorities and agendas than you, and you can't change them.

I live and dress very informally and comfortably and I sometimes have to overcome peoples ideas that someone who wears jeans and birkenstocks can't do business. I make sure they see me as confident, articulate, capable and intelligent. Once they're hooked on that, they don't notice the clothes.

Answer 5

Well you have had a life of beating yourself up over the appearance issue---everyday you act so negative--it sets in--so you need to STOP------rethink all of this scenario---first off you are an individual---not everyone is as attractive or cute as the next person---it is purely subjective---So take a big hard look at yourself----redo the clothes, look your age, do your hair and if you have to lose weight--remember that it is just as easy to eat good as it is to eat bad---self control is the key----maturity is a part of life--honesty and sincerity is a part of maturity---make the most of what you have been given----looks don't mean a thing---are you helpful, courteous, generally a friend to people who appreciate you? Your inner beauty needs to be brought out---and you need new friends who don't make the hideous comments. Walk tall, be proud, smile, dress nice, be proud of who you are---I am sure you are a nice person to know and would enjoy being an acquaintance of yours. Have a nice life and SMILE.

Answer 6

If your friends were your friends they wouldn't tell you that. Your beautiful in many ways. And if your friends can't see that then personally they are not your friends. As of others saying to you they must be jealous of something about you, so they focus on something to bring you down. In living your life where looks don't matter is hard, because people only want to see what they want to. Live your life, and don't make others live it for you.

Answer 7

Firstly those people who tell you that you are not pretty are insecure themselves. No one is perfect and if you keep listening those idiots you will gain a complex. Its not all about the good looks develop a good personality and live life positively.
Life is to short to worry about what others think live life to the fullest and remember to live it the way you want to.
Forget about those jerks and concentrate on finding someone who will appreciate you for being you.

Answer 8

Do you want to know something, I have had so many people call me ugly in 7th Grade. Everytime i would like a boy and someone would ask him out for me do you want to know what they said. Eww Sarah Lash ar you serious she is so ugly. Do you know what, that made me cry. Why would someone be so mean. But I still don;t want to die cuz I no somewhere out there someone will love me. See go to that websitr and see how ugly I am. But seriously Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I know that someone thinks you are beautiful.

Answer 9

Fisrt of all, you need to realize this some people are just idiots. When I was growing up, I wasn't the best looking one either and people told it to me also. It does hurt, I know, but soon, you will realize and see inner beauty. Just be yourself and don't try to change your appearence just to fit in. Someone will come along who will think your hot! And don't let those stupid insults get you down too much. Just ignore them and be who you are. Not what everyone expects you to be. Everyone is pretty in their own way, including yourself! Take care!

Answer 10

First of all if people are bringing you down, get rid of them. Who says you ain't pretty? Maybe not to them! But to others you might be. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Don't let these idiots label you. Do you talk about not being pretty? Listen, you are the only person who can make yourself feel beautiful. Don't wait around for people to tell you. Do it for yourself. Get back your power!

Answer 11

People can be cruel. I suggest that you lose these people who are putting you down and find people to associate with that realize that EVERYONE is beautiful in their own way. I am sorry that some people are too immature to get past the way you look. It makes me sad for you and for their ignorance.