Its the serious kind, of the uterus or something... she may never be able to have kids after her surgery..
2007-02-06 18:00:15 · 14 answers · asked by Jesters Deadd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Keep it simple with "I'm sorry this happened". Saying anything is better than avoiding the issue.
2007-02-06 18:05:31 · answer #1 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any cancer is serious, but I think I know what you mean. Certain cancers have a lower rate of survival than others. But, that doesn't change the issue that she has cancer. My suggestion is to be there for her when she calls on you. Let her talk about it when she wants to. Don't try to pretend it doesn't exist, and let her know that you'll be glad to listen if she wants to "talk it out" or something. It won't help to tell her that there are lots of kids who need to be adopted, or anything like that. Right now she just needs a really good friend who will either cry with her or let her cry on their shoulder. And, although this won't be a popular suggestion, pray. I will be praying for her, and for you.
2007-02-06 18:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by Pam B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go hug her and give her attention. Learning that you have cancer is very freightening and lonely--in other words, she probably doesn't know anyone else alive that has cancer. Just spend a lot of time with her--you'll figure out what you should say or do 'along the way'. If you find that you think you said or did something that might not of been right, then hug her more.
2007-02-07 12:16:43 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My religion teacher had the same cancer, and she also thought she could not ever give birth. When they opened her up for her surgery, however, they found no tumor! So, if you're Christian, keep her in your prayers. Comfort her, and try to always be there for her. You'll never know what can happen.
Good luck to you and your friend!
God bless
2007-02-06 18:08:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything just be there for her. IF she brings the subject up then its O.K. to discuss the topic. Take her out and just enjoy life. There are always alternative options for children. Hopefully she can see that giving birth to a child doesn't make you a parent but instead giving infinite love, devotion and your everything is what makes that. If she has that much love to give than she can give it too a child that needs parents like that.(ADOPTION)
2007-02-06 18:09:25 · answer #5 · answered by clueless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
offer to help out. be there for her. make visits to her often.
show her you care and be kind and supportive. dont talk about the kid thing at the moment...she needs to concentrate on her good eating habits and tranquility. help make her life less stressful as possible. find reading materials on the subject that might pick up her spirits. hold her when she cries and do fun things and laugh often. i hope she has a speedy recovery. peace
2007-02-06 18:09:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. All you can do is be there for her.
Now to quote The Simpsons:
"I'm dying Moe."
"Is there anything I can do?"
"No. Not unless you have a cure for cancer.... Do you have a cure for cancer? Cause that would be really great!"
"Sorry Professor"
2007-02-06 18:10:07 · answer #7 · answered by Loki's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just show her u are there. Sometimes words can be so discouraging though meant oherwise. Actions go deeper though.
All the best and i wish her health and strength as she faces that
2007-02-06 18:11:48 · answer #8 · answered by LadyK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her. Hang around, visit her when she is not feeling well, offer to help.
2007-02-06 18:05:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask her, if she is just a friend, then let her know your there for support. oh by the way, nice Top Gun referrence.
2007-02-06 18:34:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋