How does a client REALLY grow through Transference?

Question

I have been reading, thinking and wondering about this for years. I have read some VERY technical tomes ... few of them talk about how transference REALLY IS SOLVED! I mean let's assume that the therapist and the client have an excellent relationship. Forget whatever tradition. We go to therapy and we begin to experience that person alterantely as a Helper, a Counsellor, a Parent, and it goes on and on and cycles through it. I have internalized so much fo their good role modelling and all of the mutual positive regrd. But transactionally speaking, what ultimately happens? After a while you don't care anymore? You realize that they are "just" the therapist? It's as if it is not cool to even ask "What is SUPPOSED to happen?"

Answer 1

Maybe what happens, through transference, is that the client finally "gets" authoritarianism and knows how to use it towards furtherance of a healthy and productive life. In my opinion, the Parent therapist must be a co-conspirator for this to happen, and my guess is that doesn't happen very often. So, what ultimately happens is the Client doesn't care what ultimately happens. Whatever.

Answer 2

Therapist neither replaces nor substitutes parent,spouse,friend,or relation. Therapists analyse through free association. They guide the thoughts and emotions of the client through acceptable channels and modes. A client grows because he gets gradually clear of his own hang ups and endeavors to come out of them. It is the motivation of the client and empathy of the therapist that jointly work.

Answer 3

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transference