I am now a single mother, my boyfriend is now no longer living in this country. I lost communication with him 3 months ago. He has been gone even longer than that though , for like 6 months. I have a son with him. Since he left I haven't been sleeping well. I feel overwhelmed with the baby.I want to go to school and get a job. My family doesn't help much. Well not as much as he did when he was here. I have dated other people but dumped them on the spot. I also compared the new relationship with the old one. I cared about him, trust well that was another issue.I miss him but its been SO long. What should I do?
2007-02-06 17:39:44 · 15 answers · asked by primamaria04 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to stop dating until you're no longer wishing he were there to help you out. Otherwise every date you go on will go nowhere. Look into social services in your area, they may be able to help you find daycare for the kid while you go to school. School is a great idea for someone in your situation... you'll be able to get a decent job and give your kid a better chance in life.
2007-02-06 17:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by T.M.Y. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well surprise, you have a new priority in your life---your baby---and you have the child for 18 years----BULLETIN---you are not the first to be in a situation like this. Millions do it and they have to decide a course of action that will really work for them. You have got to get a clue---he's gone---forget him---he did the worm thing--took off---stop looking and hoping. Get a grip here----it's your baby---figure out how to do stuff regardless of family or friends involvment---they weren't there when you had sex--so why should they be there to babysit??? It is YOUR responsibility. Better get some sleep--you are going to be busy---THAT"S A FACT. You better stop the drama and the pity---face it---you are responsible for you and the child--spend the dreamy time finding a job---stop worrying about dating----no time for that....sorry but you need a dose of reality, not sympathy
2007-02-07 01:48:46 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do this. First, no dating! Just work on healing yourself and loving that beautiful baby. Ask friends and family for help. Next, don't be ashamed. You are not the first woman to raise a child alone and in the long run you will be sooo much stronger. Surround yourself with positive men with no agenda. You will make it. You have no other choice.
2007-02-07 01:54:48 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't know what to tell you, girl. All what I can say is to be a strong woman. You take care of that kid of yours because he's a blessing. Your not alone, girl. You got your baby boy to make you happy. I would encourage you to get government aid. They'll help you. You should've gotten child support from your boyfriend from the beginning. Nontheless, keep your head up. At the end, everything will turn out good. Just be patient, girl. I wish you the best with all my heart. Good Luck!
2007-02-07 01:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by Drivliam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to dig deep and be a role model for your child. Looks like you have to go it alone and you are not the first and only to do so. Stay straight, go to school, and be successful. Do not get involved with just any guy that comes along.
Good luck.
2007-02-07 01:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should focus on yourself and the baby...he's flown the coop cuz he can't handle the situation, and yeah, maybe there's plenty other things to add to the mix but they don't really matter now do they? point is, he is gone, and like it or not you have to step up and do this whole parenting thing on your own....reality bites but if you choose a loser then what can you expect? and I say it all with love, I've been there done that, and guys like this aren't worth the time it takes to post a damn question......
2007-02-07 01:49:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats tricky...did he just leave ? a lot of guys will run from situations they cant handle but from what you are saying you had a nice relationship so maybe theres other issues ?
Feel free to mail me if you want to discuss it...
2007-02-07 01:43:50 · answer #7 · answered by ricardo m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will all have a special bond with this man because he the
father of your chld. but you need to start to live your life,, time
to get your self back in the game. you stated that you want to
go back to school then do it, , as for the men that you are
date, dont compare them to him. enjoy your life, see what out
there. in time you will see that life does goe on. time for you
start yours. just take one step at a time. things will get better
trust me.good luck to you.
2007-02-07 01:46:24 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move on and ask your family for some help or you could hire a babysitter, but that's going to cost some money.
2007-02-07 01:43:07 · answer #9 · answered by Virginia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Use the time and energy you waste on the jerk for yourself and the baby. I promise you will be fine. The grass is greener!
2007-02-07 01:43:21 · answer #10 · answered by JNM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋