I love him and miss him, but I've started dating someone else. What do to?

Question

i wanted to date other people, but now I feel miserable...

Answer 1

Well, I think you need to follow your heart on this one. If you love him and miss him, then let him know and see how he responds. Don't tell the other guy that you're dating b/c if the guy you love rejects you, you have a fall back plan. The only confusing part is that I don't know how long you've actually broken things off with the first guy, so that makes it a little harder to give advice. If you just broke it off with him, then give the new guy a chance, but if not, then I'd do what I originally stated. Be prepared just in case the guy you love doesn't want you back b/c he may be a little bitter towards the whole situation.

Answer 2

Dear Green,

You stated that you love someone, but have begun dating someone else.... Am I to assume that the one you "love" knows nothing about this? If so, don't you think you are deceiving him? If so, then how is that love? Love does not consist of deceit, does it?

I think the best approach would have been to tell this person that you "love" that you intend to see other people, and part on a friendship basis, rather than on a deceitful basis as you have done now. In reality, you are guilty of cheating on this man, and I'm quite sure you would not have appreciated it if he had done such a thing to you.

You really need to be honest, pick up the phone, call this man, and make things right. And above all, you really need to step up to the plate and apologize for what you've done because it is the right thing to do. And if you cannot bring yourself to do this, then I wonder how much merit there is to your "love" for this man. If you love him, then do what is right.

Answer 3

my opinion is that you should try again with him, the relaationship you are in now is basically just lip service if you are miserable over another guy, save yourself and this new guy alot of pain and end it before it goes any farther. You wanted to see other people and you have and now you relize that he was the right one for the time so give it another shot, might not work out but if you don't try you will always wonder if you passed up mister right and that will take away from any relationship you are in.

Answer 4

well if he wasnt a good boyfriend- say if he didnt listen and you couldnt really express your true feelings to him then he isnt worth it- now if this new one shows your that he cares and understands you then you did a good thing- cause thinking about the past or him just makes you feel worst and bad- but then dont keep the "promise" after all we tend to promise that to ourself at the beginning of the relationship--but also dont be scared to consider your emotions to him- let him know how you feel and if he is a good listener then share all your thoughts and feelings so you wont have to go through the same problems as you did with the first boyfriend -good luck lovely debutante

Answer 5

Figure out why you started dating in the first place. Then figure out what you want and go after it.

You have to love yourself first before you can love anyone else.

Answer 6

You reap what you sew, the grass is always greener, you get what you pay for(not so much), anyway you see where I'm going w/ this. If you really are miserable tell him you made a mistake and ask if him if you still have a chance, just be sure he's what you really want bcuz you know--you reap what you sew, the grass is always greener, you get what you pay for(not so much here either)anyway you see where I'm going w/this!

Answer 7

in your case i only see 2 options, 1 you go back to him and patch things up and live happily ever after. 2 you have take your time and mend that broken heart, you have to heal first and prepare yourself for the next better relationship that is destined for you. if you don't that's the right word; miserable you will be.

Answer 8

Then need to date other people is not a great reason to leave someone you love!

Try and get him back, if you cannot, then you have to accept the consequence, it was your choice.

Answer 9

Well what do you want to do, Date other people or have him ?Make up your mind before someone gets hurt.

Answer 10

well you must have broken up for a reason right? Maybe you just want him because its over between you two...ever think of that? Men are not everything there are plenty of them in the sea...to get over a guy you meet another.