My 5-year-old constantly seems frustrated when losing a game, and also loses confidence when he can't do something well. What can I do to help him overcome this?
2007-02-06 17:34:24 · 7 answers · asked by Jennifer C 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Focus on confidence; the getting up when you're down. Show him that he's a Winner at all times. Provide positive enforcements when he keeps on step'n although he's down. Make him feel like he's won even if he loses a game.
At 5, he's likely to be defining himself by what he does and the outcomes. So what if the butterfly looks more like a pig (atleast you were able to make out something in the picture). . .Or he ran the ball scoring for the opposition (atleast he scored, right?). I think you get the point.
2007-02-06 18:04:13 · answer #1 · answered by 4everFaithful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children learn best by example. If you could set up several situations by which your son sees you lose, let's say a game of checkers with your husband, and you say something like, "Oh, I'm so happy for you that you won! You played really good. Maybe next time, I'll win". Then play another game and have your husband praise you for winning. This may help. Too, just keep reinforcing the fact that "We cannot win all the time. It's alright to lose. If you tried your best, that's what really matters." Keep in mind, that he's still in that transitional phase of still thinking that the whole world revolves around him. More interaction with his peers in kindergarten should help, as well.
2007-02-06 17:47:40 · answer #2 · answered by HoneyBunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is the same...he's nearly 6. Board games, races...you name it. If he doesn't win he gets upset-sometimes to the point of crying. But he's getting better. With games I sometimes let him win, but make sure that I win too. It's a hard thing for them to understand, but I think it's something that just gets easier with age. You get these kids...eg my son will say I have 4 batmans, and the other kid will say he has 6. They all seem to want to have the most, the biggest and the best. I think it's just the age. They are growing up and think they need to be the best at everything.
2007-02-06 17:46:46 · answer #3 · answered by sharkgirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play a game with him and let him win and say "wow, good job you won" and add in "I didn't win but I played well and maybe I will win next time and you can tell me I did a good job", win the next game and see what his reaction is. If he congratulates you I would be amazed but most likely you will have to tell him that "I won this time and you won last time but it doesn't matter because we both won by playing well together". Just an idea...I am raising a 3 year old and picking things up along the way. Hope that helps.
2007-02-06 19:31:25 · answer #4 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of kids are that way. There must be a name for it.
You could try lecturing him about it, or telling him stories about people who do things well and win, and then find themselves disappointed, or do things poorly and lose, and then find themselves quite content.
I'm not sure what the best approach is, so I'm emailing the question to my son.
2007-02-06 17:45:35 · answer #5 · answered by Eclectic_N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain him.. Say some examples to him, about those who have come up, after facing defeat in their very first move. Teach him to learn from his mistakes..
2007-02-06 17:42:57 · answer #6 · answered by Rajesh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one is the best at everything,so try lots of different things and remembering that you can only be the best person you can be.
2007-02-06 17:44:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋