I have been with a beautiful woman for the past 2 and a half years. We've had our share of relationship problems,and even though we've made some bad decisions at times,we've always managed to get past them with understanding. Recently we've found out she is pregnant,and although there might be a slim chance that this miracle is not mine we've decided to reconcile, and work together to make us a good life together with this child,mine or not Period. We love each other plain,and simple.She has lost one some time ago in an old relationship from stress,and due to crone's disease,she has a high risk of not having kids the older she gets.Most of our family,and friends are happy for us,but her sister in-law,being a highly negative person,has been very outspoken in her opinion of the situation of our coming child to the point that she went home upset,and crying,and had entertained the idea of aborting.We talked.All is ok.What can we do to stop this kind of stress in her life? We need answers.
2007-02-06 17:03:32 · 7 answers · asked by lumendelsol 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I've told her that no matter the outcome of anything in the future i love her and I WILL stick by her. She is my life and that we have to think of our future together not past regrets or stupid people. I said that the important thing in life to me right now is our child, Her, and me, nothing else. She is special to me and god willing I hope all works out in the end. And thanks for all your thoughts everyone, they do matter.
2007-02-06 17:26:59 · update #1
I think that both of you have to make it clear to the sister-in-law that if she can't be happy for you, that you need to stay away....I know it sounds corny...but it's true......Negative people suck the energy right out of you, and bring tension for no good reason....
A child is very innocent and should always be loved regardless of biology..
I would tell that negative person that it's not her child so she need not worry...
good luck
2007-02-06 17:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, assure her that no matter what other people say or think that it's your child (the two of you) and no one elses. There for no matter how much you may love the people that are speaking negitively about you or your child to be it's not the opinion that matters. All that matters is that you two love each other and that you will love child.
I know that when my boyfriend and I told his mom that I was pregnant she reacted HORRIBLY so I understand how she's feeling. Though I never entertained the idea of aborting the pregnancy it did hurt, a lot. When someone you love, and trust is not happy for you about something that is one of the most exciting and confusing situations of your life is just rough.
I would suggest just letting her know that no matter what, you will love her. And that eventually the ones in your life that are being negitive will come around. It may take a while, but eventually it will happen.
Other than completely avoiding people who are acting like this towards her there's no much you can do other than just ignore it. Tell her how happy you are about it. She should let the ones that are happy for her over shaddow the ones that are not.
Hope this helps, and CONGRADULATIONS!!
2007-02-06 17:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by Dani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To eliminate her stress , she must understand she needs to eliminate the negative influences, family or not. Her sister has a right to her opinion, however, if it may cause some damage to your gal's mental/physcial well being, then the sister gets the boot until "you say so".....she may get angry, but you know what? Too bad.....You are doing a great thing by concentrating on "your family unit"......being supportive of your gal, and also the unborn child, yours or not.
Negativity is contagious, and infectious, eliminate it, and be positive!
2007-02-07 00:12:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its so good of you to accept a child that might not even be yours. well, that's true love. :)
try to avoid your sister in law as much as possible during these critical times.
tell your wife you will protect her from any harm. she needs assurance and needs to be protected by someone she loves, you! tell and show her as often as you can how much you really love her. slowly, her stress about these will lessen up.
to let your child be emotionally and psychologically healthy, it has to start with the mother of the child. she has to be stress free, always happy. :)
congratulations! i hope i helped! :) am so happy there's still good men out there willing to do everything for their love.. :)
2007-02-06 17:16:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that the sister-in-law has problems. Just avoid negative people, and focus on the good things that are going on in your life. You both have each other, and that is something to be grateful for.
2007-02-06 17:53:46 · answer #5 · answered by jimbell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simply by fact everyone can artwork difficult have wealth and in spite of El's they choose. yet to have genuine love for somebody. it rather is a few thing uncommon in itself . some human beings stay there hollow difficult working busy lives in no way somewhat experiencing genuine love. Then be for they be attentive to it existence has exceeded them by. it is unhappy somewhat. : ( My decision is Love! : )
2016-09-28 13:04:10 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on the future... the future of your relationship... the future of your new baby. Avoid negative people... they're just haters.
Whether or not this baby is yours.... you will love it.
2007-02-06 17:09:32 · answer #7 · answered by naenae0011 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋