Indian in love with an American girl. Can an american girl comment on this?

Question

Hi what would you have to say in the following situation?

"I am from India (M/26) and I like an american girl who takes courses with me in college. She is really nice and polite and bubbling with energy all the time. We would have talked only a few times and I won't say we are even friends yet (we don't call each other up etc.) My questions :

1) Would it be ok if I told her I like her? (Are american girls ok with a foreigner telling her this? What would you advise me to do?)

2) I find she is more polite to me than to others. Is this just because I am an outsider ?"

I have more questions to ask but I'll put them here after I get a few answers. If there is any american girl who is reading this, can you let me know your views?... Anyone else willing to answer, of course I'd be happy to listen.

Answer 1

I'm American...There's nothing wrong with trying to pursue her. Especially if she's a friendly girl. But since you're in your 20's, do the mature thing, just ask her out on a date. Don't just tell her you like her, ask her to dinner or to get coffee or something. She'll know you like her then and if she's interested back, she'll accept. If not, at least you tried! But yes, of course "foreigners" can ask us out.

Answer 2

White American guy here...I think Indan women are very beautiful. I work in Silicon Valley so I have many Indian friends, colleagues, neighbors, etc. Also, a number of my tennis buddies are Indians. I think that white Americans and Hindis are generally very compatible and a number of my friends married Indian women. I think that particularly here in SV there will be more and more intermarriage between whites and Indians. The Indians here in SV typically eat meat, drink alcohol, work hard, value families and education, love sports...they're the best of our next generation of Americans in my opinion. I've dated indian women and would say my range of experience has generally been the same as any other culture or ethnic group. I've generally found their approach to dating to be more traditional, which I like. Probably an overgeneralization, but I think indian girls are great dancers and great kissers!

Answer 3

1) Yes. You could hint at it, start spending time with her and talking to her more, you know, get the relationship to the point where you'd consider each other friends and then tell her or you could take the direct approach and just tell her. Personally, I've never liked the direct approach but I know some girls that absolutely hate the indirect approach (The talking and spending time together thing They feel it taints the friendship or something like that.)

2) Possibly but maybe not. She's the only one that can answer that question.

Answer 4

Hi. I'm Indian, born and raised in America.

1) I really don't think that it would matter if you were a foreigner or not. Just tell her when you have a chance one day.

2) Probably if you just moved to the country. Or maybe she wants to be friends.

Answer 5

1. Yes, the secret police are not yet repressing cross-nationality relationships. Most women are fine with foreign guys asking them out. Any woman worth going out with will like/dislike you for who you are, not where you are from.
2. It could be, but don't sweat it. Either she is into you or she isn't. If she's into you, she's polite because she's into you. If she's not into you, she's polite because she's not into you. Letting her know how you feel will clear all that up.

Answer 6

I think you should tell her. While you would be taking a risk, because you are putting yourself on the line-not because you are Indian, I think it would be worth it either way. If she likes you back that's great, if not at least you no longer have to wonder. I would not let the fact that I wasn't American influence my decision to tell her how I feel. Good luck w/that!

Answer 7

To me it don't matter. I dated a guy from india. I didn't treat him any different from the other guys or people i talked to. I would just talk to her more and see were it goes. Some girls get scared if you are like i know we don't know each other but i like you lol. Get to know her ask her for her number and then be like so would you like to hang out with me or dinner sometime

Answer 8

best of luck. I hope u get some useful answers. I would say it depends on the girl.

Answer 9

well if she isnt racist or bias then she shouldnt have any problem seeing you outside of classes maybe u should gradually talk to her and maybe take it step by step and if she isnt intrested then she will let you know. american women tend to be honest

Answer 10

kya yaaar