I have a master's degree and a steady job. Not a challenging job, but I like it well enough and it pays the bills. I have plenty of friends but no significant other or kids to tie me down. I'm well-traveled, have hobbies and am taking meds for depression. I work out and eat right.
The problem is every couple years I feel hella restless. I just want to up and travel or up and start a new job--change SOMETHING. While that was fine in my early 20's, I'm fast hitting 30 and still not sure what I want to be when I grow up (heh).
Is this normal? Am I ever going to be happy where I am or with what I'm doing--or even who I am? Why do I feel like life is in a rut and that I should make huge changes? Is the grass always greener?
Yes, a highly metaphysical problem, but I need to get some answers cuz this is driving me LOCO!!!
2007-02-06 16:38:55 · 11 answers · asked by rose_americaine 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
A friend of mine felt the same exact way. He just turned 30 and then joined the Army Reserves and he has felt great ever since. He's been over in Iraq several times and is still able to keep his job.
This might not be right for everyone but it worked out fabulous for him. He feels that he did something good and not for himself. Now everything he has in life he cherishes.
2007-02-06 16:47:39 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feeling Restless In Life
2016-11-15 08:32:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep sounds like a serious case of intelligent normal.....
your life is posing you no real challenge, physical or mental, you are in a rut because you have a neat little life that fits into a box....
there isn't anything wrong with having a neat little life that fits into a box at all.... but it is not particularly satisfying or challenging. You sound like a fairly intelligent person and quite seriously in need of a challenge or two...
Learn a new skill... something so unrelated to what you do for a living that it is a challenge....
If you have never ridden a motor bike hire one and learn how to ride...
If you don't play a musical instrument take one up
if you dont garden start one now.
try knitting, sewing, crochet or other needlework
or spend some time as a volunteer for a project in your community that you feel is important... there are all kinds of projects like historical society projects, land regeneration, volunteer fire fighter, working for a not-for-profit organisation
do something new... you will feel better and yes in another two years you will get the bug again.... and again turn your hand to something new and different..
acquiring new skills along the way your life will feel fuller and your restlessness will have an outlet
2007-02-06 17:40:26 · answer #3 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your feeling the redundancy of what your doing that their seems to have nothing new and exciting to look forward to... You constantly need something new to spice up your life so that things would not be so boring…Why don't you try to dig deeper and think about your life right now and see if this is still what you want to do for the rest of your life because if you feel like you wanna get up and go somewhere because you feel restless then it's probably because your under a lot of stress that you just want to escape or their is certainly something wrong. I believe no matter what age we are in at our lives we should be happy. Live life to the fullest as some people say... After figuring things out of what really is that would make you happy then there you go... But also most importantly is having a plan of how to achieve that kind of happiness that you want for yourself, because you can't get there if you don't have a step-by-step plan.
2007-02-06 17:51:31 · answer #4 · answered by aileen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what not to say your medication is not working but, you sound like you have some depression or problem in you life.
very often people feel like some thing is not write and they are not sure what is wrong with there life because the problem is internal, so what they do is drink, cheat, do drugs and yes move, I would suggest you look into medatation and different alternative solutions.
I would make sure you tell your docter how you feel and possibley request a new medication
some thing I personaly would recomend is getting into the game realm maybe some WoW or second life as they are a great way to take your mind away to another place,
seriously I would wach things because even though it seems harmless this sort of problem is a threat to your life, you may not realize it but people never find a real fix and can resort to drugs to fill it or never fill the void and just say they are bored with life and end there life.
you must face the problems with in your self and stop projecting them into you "good" life
hope that helps and please don't be upset if the awnser is not the one you want to hear I tell it like it is
adam@ultrayou.net
2007-02-06 17:19:26 · answer #5 · answered by Adam S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is going through something similar. We live in a town that isn't exactly safe, so I don't like to let her have much of a social life because I always read on the news page of another missing teenage girl, and they find her a body a few days later. It seems that every year there are several of these cases. my daughter is in AP classes so she has to be in her room a lot to study & it can get boring and tedious. I think the one thing that has helped her is being involved in a program at school that requires her to go to different trainings and trips. She does complain about not going out like other teenagers do, but I want her to have a future and not have her life cut short. You could ask your mom if she would let you have a study group at your house or something. It must be hard since she has depression. My daughter & I are able to talk a lot & joke around & go places together, so that get her out of the house sometimes & sometimes one of her friends will be with us. It sounds like you don't really enjoy spending time with your friends though even when you have the opportunity. What you need is to find something to be involved in that matters, like volunteering at the boys & girls club or for something in your community. You feel like if your life does have a purpose, it will be years before you find it; but your life has a purpose right now. You could help your mom to get involved with a support group for people with depression and you could be her support person. There is a lot of need in your community, but not enough people willing to fulfill that need. If you feel lost right now, maybe it is because you have a special calling in life that you are not fulfilling yet.
2016-03-18 01:40:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perfectly normal. You seem to have hit a sort of holding pattern of comfort, and as we all know comfort can become
B-O-R-I-N-G. You need to step outside of your comfort zone and try something challenging and new. What that would be? Who can say. Follow a dream, volunteer, find somebody with whom to share you life, I don't know. Shake things up. Good luck!
2007-02-06 16:51:53 · answer #7 · answered by Inquiringmind 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do the exact same thing. i haven't lived in the same place for longer than a year. i never feel truly happy or satisfied except when I'm picking up and leaving. once i get to the place I'm going to it starts all over again. someone help us!!!
2007-02-06 16:49:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most people experience this maybe once maybe twice in their lives Why not take a vacation - if you can't how about a weekend getaway Clear your mind then You will find a way - we all do
2007-02-06 17:36:58 · answer #9 · answered by hobo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pushing 30? It's way too soon to start turning to stone. I'm pushing 60 and waiting to get loose. Sooner or later loose is going to get me, so I might as well get ready.
2007-02-06 16:49:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋