the in-laws?

Question

what to do if the mother inlaw and sis-inlaws r jealous psychos, they tell my husband false things about me she wants me out of her house. we live with his folks cuz of stupid desi tradition, his sisters got married and have their men alone at home but with their brother they remember traditions, they all lie on me and act it out and the way they do it even my own mom/family started to believe them, they cry with vains popping out eyes all blood red the holy books in hand lol what is going on man!! i end up looking like the liar, my MIL went told everyone i beat her down and bit her. im not a dog and never have i bitten anyone in my life to go bite that fat hog. does anyone know anywayz i can get my guy to believe me and stick up for me. he doesnt stick up for me im guessing hes either afraid of his mom or shes got some psycho issues where he knows shes going to go (fakely) say shes going to die and kill herself...i duno the real facts we can only guess what do u guess?

her husband and her have some issue i think he doesnt give her what she wants but shes desi and over 50 what does she need from her old guy at this age.she uses this aganist her son and says she has no one shes mentally black mailing him and hes falling for it man!!!

hes ok when shes not around or if shes gone out for the weekend but once shes back BAAM!! the atmosphere is bad. if ur desi give me advice cus the rest tell me to leave him like its so easy, im not about to let her win God Bless us!

Answer 1

If he won't stand up for you against his mother you should probably consider getting out....what a rottren situation you are in................

Answer 2

I will not advise u to abandon him because it doesn't seem that u have stopped loving him.And the issue is not between you and him. So love your husband more than before and let him feel it. You have suffered a lot from ur in-laws and must have complained to him also. As nothing changed for good, stop complaining,for a while. Let his head be cool and let him see ur unconditional love to him. Let him know that u love him and will not dump him even in the worst conditions. When u get ur private moments, don't remind him about all ur sufferings.instead u can create ur own space where no family problems discussed.At the same time don't provoke ur MIL also.(Any way she will find ways to distract ur peace,i know.) Now ur husband's mind will become cool and clear and he himself can see what's happening here and who is the real problem maker.Then if u r sure of winning his belief,u can tell him ur sufferings and ofcourse he will stand by your side.But remember, don't give an impression of a complaining wife,make him feel that except him,there is nobody for u to share your feelings.Try this.I think it will work.

Answer 3

You gotta talk to your husband. I don't understand why women are the worst enemies of women? But you gotta explain this situation to your husband. I think he's a good person. The only problem when his mother's around is he feels more responsible towards her.

His mother has got a psychological problem. Maybe she feels that you may snatch away her son from her. Whatever she's doing is to make sure that her son should always be beside her. Probably you are not able to mix up with those ladies. Try being friendly to them. Specially your mother in law. Maybe once she feels that there's someone to look after her in her old age, she would stop playing these games.

And even after putting this many efforts you don't find any improvements, you can consider of moving out.

Answer 4

then u shud start doing all these things but not in front of ir husband
and when neibours sre near about you should started crying loudly as if they r beeting u ,
u can also burn urself a bit near ur hand while cooking and show it to ur husband in night when he will come to u and say tht ur MIL orSIL did so to u
u should start complaining about thm
but when ur husband is around u shud behave like if u r some saint sort of person u do all the household works and never let ur husband think tht whatever his family members have said about u is correct
slowly he will b standind by ur side
believe me one day he will. but u need to b very patient in this

u must have heard tht" life is a stage and v r performers"
cant u do a bit of acting in ur life

and once ur husband and ur family members started to believe on u u need to find a good lawyer and any organization who works for women ,becoz LAW IS WITH WOMEN only and they are not alone, and tell thm ur full story they will definitly help u



hope to hear good news from u next time


best of luck

Answer 5

Tell your husband you're breaking tradition and moving out. Either he can follow or stay, the choice is his. Forget about what his family may think about "running you off", your sanity and peace of mind needs to come first. If his mother starts with threats that she's going to die, tell her to go ahead and die but you're going to live.

Answer 6

Buy yourself a voice activated recorder and the next time she messes with you record every mean nasty word. That way when she tries to deny it You can prove your side. If after hearing his mom in action and catching her in a lie your husband wont take action....Well that's a decision a only you can make. if you don't have kids now ,what will you do when you have one? Will you allow them to be treated this way? Good luck I wish you well....

Answer 7

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Answer 8

ewww...I deal with the same crap from mine. Something easy to do...moveo out of state like we did. Just kidding. I have the same problem though. It finally took my husband standing up to her and telling her to butt out. If your husband loves you enough and knows this bothers you then it is his place to say something to them. I would just mind myself and not worry about them. I have learned over the past couple of years they make themselfs look like total morons talking bad about you. I finally had to blow and tell her off one day. So now it has been over a year and we dont speak but you know it doesnt hurt my feelings at all LOL. You need to confront your husband with your worries because this can break up your marriage. Good luck. Please email me if you just want to vent.

Answer 9

all in-laws r same they want their son to be still their son n not to grow up then y do they marry him off. in india this is the main prob it can't be stopped in one day dont leave ur hus stick to him fight with your own acting skills be strong dont let them get the upper hand. if ur hus believes in their lies he will not listen till u separate him from his family. if they try anything serious with you dont hesitate to go out you go to the police station n give complaint and there is no other solution to get ur hus to believe he has to believe u by himself there cant be any forcing if u try to show also he will only see what he wants to see. all the best for ur future this is the same prob all the girls nowadays r facing after marriage when this will stop i dont know.

Answer 10

Just pray to GOD , Consuntrate your self ang come out of these tghings . Now start your life in other city.

Answer 11

tell your husband to fix it,,,, i didnt even read all of your stuff, already know,,make him fix it,not your problem love him if he cant handle it get rid of him.... there are 150 million more where he came from be strong dont put up with inlaw crap.... good luck, kick em to the curb...