Me and my fiancee are getting married in just under a month, and she has been keeping in contact with several of her ex's. I have asked her about this and she has said they are just friends. I believe her and trust this, however one of her ex's I particularly do not trust has been getting in contact with her more often. Infact, he wanted a one on one meeting with her this weekend over dinner, what is more scary is she agreed to it. When she asked me if it was alright, I expressed my unease about the situation and asked why was I not invited to come with her and be introduced and been able a chance to get to know this guy, and she said she doesn't want him to feel like the third wheel. Now, I am alittle confused as to why this guy's feelings appear to have been taken into consideration before my own were. I do not know what to think, should I let her go on this "one on one" and probably be paranoid half the night, or should I urge my presence?
2007-02-06 16:35:24 · 8 answers · asked by TimTimTimma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hmmmmmmmmm
2007-02-07 05:07:04 · update #1
She better get her priorities straight, she's getting married in under 1 month and she's going out on dinner dates with ex's. That just sounds so wrong in many levels.
If she felt your unease as you say, she should have dropped the dinner date without thinking twice.
Instead of making sure your content , she appears to be more interested in making her ex content!
2007-02-06 16:41:54 · answer #1 · answered by Venom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No No NO!!!! What are you -brain dead?!?!
She gives him the OK and then asks you? You communicated to her that you didn't like it and she is still doing it? You had better lay down the law and have a major sit down with her. Bring her parents into it, if necessary (I don't care how old she is.)
It's time for her to grow up and cut these people off. You don't even know these guys.
Grow some Bllz dude. Postpone the wedding. I mean it. Call it off for now until the two of you grow up. She's immature and you have no guts. Your relationship is not qualified for marriage based solely on the face value of your question. WAKE UP.
2007-02-07 00:44:00 · answer #2 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like this guy wants more than to just be friends with her. I think he wants to have one last night with her to make sure there is no chance for him. If you trust your fiance, and she feels she needs to do this then I guess you should let it happen. If it's just dinner, I wouldn't worry too much. If she is more worried about his feelings than yours though maybe you should make sure she's really ready for marraige. Some people just need closure before taking the big step to being married. Maybe that's all this is for her. Or maybe he is a really good friend and she wants someone to talk to.
2007-02-07 00:42:06 · answer #3 · answered by ginger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definatly tell her your going! If this guy want;s your lady, as he obviously does, you need to be there! Sorry but you have to be firm with this. Pfft! Third wheel?! He's got to realise that your there now and he will just have to put up with feeling a third wheel unless he brings his own lady. Tell her if she loves you, then she will oblige to your feelings too! Good luck and Congratulations.
2007-02-07 00:45:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have every right to feel concern in my opinion. The fact that she considered his over your own feelings, is a concern. You are to be married, & she should understand where it is that you are coming from. I think it to be futher "fishy" that it is to be over dinner. When one thinks over a conversation over dinner, it is usually in a romantic sense. Especially one on one. I don't think that I would allow this to go on, without insisting that I be present, if it is to be all just as friends. After all, when you are married your friends becomes hers, & hers yours. I don't see anything wrong with you insisting that you be there.
2007-02-07 00:44:54 · answer #5 · answered by sis_jk27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a problem, the fact that she said that she would meet
him without you,is crazy, you have a right to be upset about this
if she put others before you now, what do you think will happen
when you get marry, you should come before any one. and you
getting marry next month...... i would serious think about this
long and hard. sound like trouble brewing on the horizons.
2007-02-07 00:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question... Why are his feelings more important than yours.....they shouldn't be. If she cares for you deeply she would not want you to be "paranoid half the night". Trust your gut on this.......
2007-02-07 00:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by layla_743544 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should delay the wedding until she gets her past worked out.
2007-02-07 02:04:09 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋