i was happy with him but after 4 months of relationship he brokeup with me the reason was that he wanted physical relationship and i wanted to save it for future( not before getting marry) he hurt me very badly so i changed my number and cutt off with him.................6 months has passed now he mailed me and told me he is feeling very bad for what ever he did with me he said sorry to me he was begging to forgive him...........he want to be in contact with me again.........i like him but the way he hurt me ...it made me really upset i am very confused ........what should i do? is he lying? dat he has realized his mistake? or what? what should i do?
2007-02-06 16:28:33 · 7 answers · asked by Ashiii 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he really cared he wouldn't have left. Don't take him back.
Cause if you do, he will probably get frustrated in another 4 months and leave again, and you will be hurt again!
2007-02-06 16:36:43 · answer #1 · answered by Venom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting over a hurt like that won't be easy so if you let this guy back into your life let it be only as friends. He may genuinely be sorry for hurting you and miss you a lot. But you won't know that and you'll always have that question in the back of your head. Talk to him for a little while, maybe hang out once or twice. But don't let it turn into a relationship until you are sure you can trust him with your feelings again.
2007-02-06 16:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by blhenne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he just wanted a physical relationship and you wanted to save it till marriage then what is the question the only reason he would want to get back in touch is to see if you changed your mind now that some time has passed, I would first ask myself if I could go through the pain again or if I was ready to give in and make someone happy and myself miserable because it would go against my morals
2007-02-06 16:33:12 · answer #3 · answered by billc4u 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly do you think has changed that will produce a different outcome? Do you think he doesn't want sex? Have you changed your mind about sleeping with him?
You want to get with him, then do it. If you are past him, then move on.
What the heck took him 6 months to do that he didn't try to get in touch with you sooner?
My guess is that you know the answer to your question here.
2007-02-06 16:36:51 · answer #4 · answered by Voice_Of_Reason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a male's perspective, I'm wondering if he still wants the same physical relationship...
If he wanted you to lower your standards, you should seriously consider whether this person is going to help you become the best person you can be, or if he will drag you down to something you don't want to do.
2007-02-06 16:35:55 · answer #5 · answered by Rufus Rutendo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not give him a second chance. If he couldn't wait the first time, he won't be able to wait the second time. And you don't want him cheating on you, do you?
2007-02-06 16:32:44 · answer #6 · answered by broadwayaprilandtiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some men are good in lying(no offense to others)...ether he is sincere or not.if you still love him,give one chance..if you think his motives is still the same then stop!!you deserve some one better.
2007-02-06 17:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋