I need information about open adoption?

Question

I had a child 3 months ago (father and I not together...nor will we be) and I do not have the money or means to give my baby a good home. He is such a sweet little baby and I want him to have a good life. I have heard that open adoption will allow me to be a part of his life and at the same time he would have a family that would be able to provide for him and give him all the advantages that I never had. Please help! This is not at all easy for me but I realize that I must stop thinking about what I want and start thinking about my child's future.

Answer 1

Look in your local yellow pages for a lawyer that specializes in adoptions. He or she will be able to guide you through the process, and the adopting family will probably end up paying all of your legal bills.

Answer 2

I think adoption is wonderful - well it CAN be for both the birth family and adoptive family. I am a biased opinion because my husband and I are trying to adopt and understand the joy you would be giving someone. If you decide to keep the baby then the baby could bring so much joy to you! It really is up to you and what you think is best! The big pro is the fact that if you place the baby and choose an open adoption you can see pictures and letters of your child as they grow and know you made a good decision.

Anyway, if you would want to - I would love to talk with you if you would like to place your child in an adoptive home. We are working with a Christian agency and have a home study.


-Crystal (hoping to adopt a child of any race or gender)
http://ourjourneytoadoption.blogspot.com/

My friend Joanne is hoping to adopt too!
http://ouradoptionplan.com

Answer 3

If you are considering adoption, there are many families that will give your baby a beautiful life and will allow you to be part of his life through email, photos, and possibly visits. We are ready and approved to adopt from within the US and can adopt immediately if need be. We are interested in open adoption as well as semi opened. My wonderful friend was nice enough to mention my website-http://ouradoptionplan.com .

Please contact me if you are interested in finding out more about us.

It's going to be a difficult decision, but if you really feel the child is better off with adoptive parents, then the sooner you do it, the better it will be for your child. Good luck in your decision.

Joanne

Answer 4

I can only imagine what you are going through. Don't feel guilty or badly please.....You are making a very difficult LIFE decision for your son and yourself. My husband and I are currently waiting for our placement in the Maryland metropolitan area. Here's what I can tell you about what our "open adoption plan" includes. Keep in mind that this is not set in stone, and when we finally meet our birthmother, she may want to change it or we may as well. Our open plan includes this:

Annual pictures or more, depending on what she would like
Letters throughout the year, or an annual update
Annual visits facilitated through the agency or between the BM and us, depending on the situation (would be at the agency or at a park, etc.)
Making sure our child knows who his/her BM is, pictures, visits, talking to him/her etc.

In any case, if you go to an agency, they can explain what an open plan includes. With our agency, the Birth mother chooses the adoptive couple, so you can read about what they would consider and make your choice from there.

If you would like more information, you can go to
www.barkerfoundation.org

Good Luck to you. You are making a tough decision, but also, I commend you for realizing that your baby deserves more than you can offer to him right now. I know you love him very much, and the care and nuturing you have provided are priceless. You also will be fulfilling the dreams of a couple who will take tremendous care to make sure he is provided for, protected, and nutured as well. God Bless you and your little boy.

Answer 5

My fiance is adopted and we just found his birthmother in august. It was an open adoption but when he was about 8 his adoptive parents cut all contact with his BM and they didn't have any contact for 16 yrs. You always should do what is right for your child. In his case, his BM knew it had to be done and he went to a good family. She was able to meet with them a few times before she had him too. You are doing the right thing by thinking of your child before yourself. My only suggestion would be to do it before he/she has a chance to know what is really going on and resent you later in his/her life. Open adoption would be the best thing though. You will have more time, hopefully, to spend with him and watch him grow. Just know though, that when you do sign him/her over that is it sole custody and legal parents will be those people and you will no longer have any say. Just think about it. Good Luck!

Answer 6

Most of the time browsing through the phone book will open you up to many different opportunities. Literally go through the list and call each adoptive service and ask them the questions you have. Once you've gone through the list pick the best one, or two, and decide from there. You'll be able to decide which family you want your little one going to and have the option of viewing their home before he's placed in it. Good luck sweety

Answer 7

you are a very brave woman, and one who is to be comended. placing a child for adoption is one of the most selfless acts someone can do. i am an adoptive mother of a beautiful one year old girl and i thank her birthmother every day for her. yes if you say you want an open adoption you can choose a family that also agrees to it. we have an open adoption. i met several times with our birthmother before our daughter's birth, and she called me almost daily after the birth and we had taken our daughter home. each call was only for a few minutes, and even though it did bother me at first, her birthmother just needed to know the baby was doing ok. we have agreed to 3 visits this year, and even though the first one was nerve wracking for me, i soon got over it. we felt it was important for our daughter to know her birthmother and her siblings. we send pictures often, every month at first, but that has tapered off. our birthmother calls montly now and only for a few mins still. while i know the frequency of contact we have with our daughter's birthmother is rare, it is not unheard of. but you should understand once papers are signed and the adoption is finalized it is completely up to the adoptive parents as to what contact you can have with this baby. you need to find an agency that understands your needs, and it's ok if your need for contact changes over the years. your baby and his family will go one way and you will go another. you need not to contact anyone on here that is wanting to adopt your baby. you need the structure and stability an agency can provide. contact your local women's health clinic and they can give you many options. call as many as you can and make a decision based on who you feel the most comfortable with. take the counseling that they offer, it is not a sign of you changing your mind, or weakness. you need an impartial third party to help you through this. only you know what is right for your baby. there are many wonderful couples out there that can provide a wonderful environement for your child, full of love for themselves and you. every night before bedtime my daughter and i say our prayers and thank God for putting us together because of how brave and how much her birthmother loved her. i am not the only person out there like this, if you truely feel your son will have more opprotunities and more abilities in life by having a different set of parents, then you are making the most wonderful decision a mother can make to a waiting family. again i am not alone in how i am, there are many other waiting mother's and father's out there. they will raise your son, they will call him their own, as he will be, but they will raise him to know the love you have for him.

Answer 8

Look at my questions!! We want to adopt and we will pay all the fees. We are only willing to be semi-open. Cards, photos, school art work and reportcards those kinds of things. We would not want you to visit until the child is older and he can choose if he wants to see you yet. We want to be the parents but when he is ready we will let him know who and where you are.

Please consider us! We are loving Christians and we have been married 4 years.

If you don't want to just go through the legal part yo ucan contact GladneyAdoption center at 1-800-GLADNEY.

Answer 9

http://www.adoption.com