My parents say that it's good that they insult me because when i do something wrong, they insult me until i get it right.Sometimes it really hurts that my parents insult me. i think it's bad.
2007-02-06 16:26:08 · 32 answers · asked by yo-yo 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It is wrong.When a parent insults a child,no matter why,there are negative effects.The child becomes low-confident and thinks he/she cannot do anything like other people can.When insulted the child wants to to revenge for the insultion and usually does the same his/her parent insulted him/her for to spite the parent.Another negative effect is when the child becomes secretive in order to hide what he/she is doing from the parent and not to get insulted again.The worst variant is when the child listens to the insultion and 'improves' the behavior because that way the child becomes dependent on other people's opinions and that obstructs his/her way to live his/her own life of full value.
2007-02-06 22:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by Livia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not good 4 parents 2 insult their kids at any time for any reason. That doesn't mean they shouldn't correct you it simply means they need to find a way to make you understand the error of your ways, and inform you of what is correct or expected of you while making sure that you understand that you are loved and that they only want what is best for you. If you can you should let them know that they hurt you when they speak to you that way.
2007-02-06 16:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by Jay K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think parents should insult their kids. I does hurt. How would they like it if you went around insulting them everytime they made a mistake? They can give you their advice or opinion in a positive way. If they can't think of a positive way to advise you, (just look at it this way) obviously they aren't intelligent enough to think of a good way to advise you so they are doing what ignorant people do, they are insulting you.
Best of luck. Be better to your kids. :)
2007-02-06 16:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by Bean62960 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents did the same thing. i am a very shy person with a self-esteem problem and i say its because of my parents always putting me down and praising my sister and brother all the time. we were not treated fairly at all. i was basically the Cinderella of the family. it is not good for parents to insult their kids. and i know i will not be insulting my daughter as she grows up.
2007-02-09 12:07:09 · answer #4 · answered by Mom Of 2 Princesses 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Insulting a kid gives you 2 possible results.
1. The kid wants to prove him/herself to the parents and works hard to develop him/herself to be the better person which is the opposite to one who portrays the parents' insults. Succeeds and has a good life.
2. The kid believes the parents words and he/she accepts him/herself as a complete loser and incapable of anything respectable. Lives a life of continous failure and emotional distress.
2007-02-06 16:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by Mafia Agent 4207 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never insult a child and shouldn't insult anyone for that matter. As for children, insults can cause long term emotional problems.
2007-02-06 16:30:53 · answer #6 · answered by mom of 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insult ain't good because.. It degrades ones self-esteem and confidence.
Insults can be good , in a way it improves one self, one tends to not repeat the mistake if insulted. But this all depends on the degree of the insult.
exp: if they insult u on yr sense of fashion, minor mistakes, intelligence, then its not good and u should stand up for yourself.
2007-02-06 16:33:05 · answer #7 · answered by C-va™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong when they only insult you and not praise you when you did something right.
The system should be punishment for wrong-doing and rewards for doing the right thing.
If the scale for punishment and rewards are not even or balance, then it is wrong.
I do believe the practice of tough love but there must be balances and guidedance to help you to learn the life lessons.
Hope it helps!
2007-02-06 16:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think parents should never insult their children. It creates long term problems with insecurity and depression.
Parents don't need to hurt their childrens' feelings to teach them something. Constructive criticism is a good route for that.
2007-02-06 16:29:26 · answer #9 · answered by Ty 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
there's a difference between constructive criticism and insults. I don't think insulting your kids is OK, that only hurts their self esteem, and who is more likely to perform a task right a child with low self esteem or high, but constructive criticism points out errors with out verbally assaulting a child.
2007-02-06 16:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by Amory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋