Anybody else think its suspicious for b/f to be on personals while out of the country?

Question

I've been dating someone for 1.5 mos, most of that time "exclusively". I met his parents & friends, he met mine. We both know we both have opposite-sex friends. Both of us have Yahoo personal ads, but both state "for friends only." 1.5 wks ago he left out of the country with a friend (male) for 2 wks vacation. I thought he would be unreachable and I hadn't heard from him. No biggie. So, I logged on to delete emails from personals & noticed his profile said "active within 24 hrs." I didnt jump to conclusions but I did email that I didnt realize he had internet access & I was dissapointed that he didnt drop a line if he did. I also said, I wanted to talk to him about it when he got back in case there is a misunderstanding. My friends say I was "psycho" just to bring it up? C'mon, I didn't accuse or go off on him, I just expressed dissappointment and said "lets talk about it" please tell me I am not the only one who would at least bring the issue UP if they were in my shoes?

Answer 1

ummmmmmmm yeah I would bring it up....so he can assumably, and you have assumed, that he has been online but didn't bother sending a mail....just wait now til he's back and if he doesn't bring it up then approach it at least once and see what his answer is......if you two are going to be seriously involved then perhaps it's time for both of you to quit the personals, I mean, what for, he obviously has friends to take on vacation...I think you should go out with your friends and see how he likes it....

Answer 2

I would have said something as well but i don't know that i would have said that we had to talk about it. I'm not sure what there is to talk about and it's probably going to be a conversation he's going to try to avoid. You said your piece, that you were disappointed, now it's his job to explain. If he doesn't then that's your answer but i wouldn't bring it up, he's gonna feel trapped and a bit stalked and it probably won't go well. But no, you're not alone, i think most people would have at least said something, at least when he got home about seeing that he was online and wishing he had said hi at least.

Answer 3

I have heard Yahoo personals have some error where it says someone was active within 24 hours when they weren't. Not sure if this is true or not but have heard a bunch of problems in relationships because of this.

Answer 4

I can totally understand where you are coming from and yes it does seem strange? Although you may be reading into it too much and jumping to conclusions (but sometimes we can't hold back).
He may not have known he had Internet access either? You have to think of the situation from his perspective. Think about it before talking to him and what if the roles were reversed? how would you expect him to treat you?

Answer 5

well he is a cheater...or he is still on the hunt