Where is God when bad things happen? Where is He when it hurts?

Question

I've tried to keep my faith in God alive.. Just as much as I've tried to keep my hopes up and head held high. Each time I think things are going the way they should be, another bad thing happens to me. It's like one bad thing after the other - I'm beginning to get used to the pain, it's just another thing I cross off my list of all the jacked up things that have happened to me.

It's like I can't every get anything right. I pray, I get on my knees and beg for God's help. And what do I get? Nothing. Complete NOTHING.

Does He even CARE about the bad things that are happening to His children? Does he weep when we feel pain and sadness? Where is He when I'm crying? He's not wiping my tears away. Where is He when I need answers? He's not there to reassure me.

There are only so many tears you can cry before it drains the light from your eyes, and there is only so much a soul can bear before it starts to die inside.

Answer 1

For one thing, you need to get out of Astrology. God can't bless you as long as your in it. You're worshipping the "Host of Heaven" instead of Him. Num 23:23 Duet. 4:19 (astrology). Isaiah 2:6-8 (fortune tellers, idol worship condemned), 8:19-22, 29:14, 47:11-15 (astrology). and you've turned made Astrology your source instead of God.

When people have the occult in their lives, they will never be happy. Just look at these occultists http://usminc.org/famous.html

Believe me, I know the occult only brings misfortune and prevents God's blessigs in a person's life. I'm an ex-occultist.

Answer 2

In all seriousness, I've been exactly where you're at and I've asked the same questions. I also got the same answers that you did. None. Very disheartening. I know some will tell you God has a plan, yada yada yada. That may very well be true but in the meantime, you'd just like for something, just ONE thing, to go your way.

You have to retrain your thinking. I'm not saying give up your faith, that is your personal choice. Just realize no deity is going to help you out. We're all going to experience pain & suffering. No one is immune from that.

Get out of praying for what you want. Take time out once a day to focus on yourself and ask the universe (totally hippy, I know!) to send some good things your way. Nothing huge, just something small like finding $10 on the sidewalk. Stop thinking negatively. What you put out, you get back.

Accept the bad stuff as it comes. That's the only choice you have or you'll go batty. Rely on yourself, not God only, to get yourself out of bad situations. There is always a way. Focus on guidance to a better path. You don't have to pray for that, just focus on you finding a happier place to be. Imagine it over and over and your brain will finally start seeing what the best thing for you really is.

Life is tough, I know. I won't give you lip service and say you're not faithful enough. From this question, I can tell you are. I like to think God does care. I like to think God listens. I really would love to think that. My logic tells me otherwise so I rationalize my non answered prayers as God basically telling me that whatever it is that I think I can't overcome, I can. The answer is somewhere, I'm just too blinded by my pain to realize it. It's all about using your logic along with faith. Once you apply logic, I truly believe your faith is stronger. God isn't a quick fix, He's there for when you can't cope. I mean truly at your wits end.

All you can do is keep your head up and talk to people that will listen and be supportive of you. You're the master of your own fate. You can change things. Step outside of your problem long enough to find a better path.

Answer 3

I've pondered this one for a while, and here is what I came up with. God is real, and this is why. All life began somewhere. That is all the proof you need. Now, I am not saying he or she is Jesus, Allah, or any of that nonsense. I just believe a creative force started the universe. Life does not appear from non-life. Rocks do not produce living cells. Period. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying religion is right. Those people are so full of contradictions and hate, and their 'bible'' is about as logical as a comic book. Being good, as cliche as it sounds, keeps us alive and sane. If everyone felt as it seems like you do, we would live in an anarchic, chaotic society where only the strong survive and the innocent are only as safe as their hiding places. So, to sum it up, 'god' does not allow good things or bad things to happen. Religion is a deadly fabrication, but 'god' (the creative force behind it all) logically has to be real - we just cannot understand or explain him or her (or it, I guess). We create our own good and evil, and the only way humanity will continue to survive is if we do more good than evil. Late

Answer 4

Of course he cares about you, Scorpio X. What God does is knock you down everytime you're up to keep you humble. If you always got what you wanted and everything went your way, you would start to become conceded and God doesn't admire that quality. He also will put you through hard times so that the bad things don't seem so bad when they do happen. It's really a blessing. Bad things are a part of life and God is preparing you to face them head on with as little pain as possible. Don't give up faith. Even if he isn't real, the belief that he is has gotten you through some hard times in your life. Believeing in something is good.

Answer 5

There are bad things that happen that we cannot control, like illnesses, accidents, and natural disasters. We wish the Guardian of the Universe would do something about these things, but there is no such conscious entity. There is only nature and its physical properties, as in when the clouds condense it's going to rain.

Then there are bad things that we bring upon ourselves or others do to us. These are caused by the VOLITION of people. People can choose to do harm or good to each other and to themselves.
They are responsible to avoid suffering or to create suffering in the world. Reason is the tool that helps us distinguish what is good from what is bad. No amount of praying or faith in magical beings can change reality. Reality has its rules. Francis Bacon said: "Nature to be commanded must be obeyed." Simply stated, think before you act because everything we do has consequences. Nature has no consciousness, therefore it has no preferences, is indifferent to human wishes, and doesn't care. It simply works by cause and effect. The more we understand how natural laws operate, the more control we can gain over it and improve our lives. If prayer was all we could do, we would be still living in caves, dancing around the fire.

Answer 6

I can reverse the question back to you, where is God in your life when things are going right? When you are happy? Do you ever thank him everyday, do you remember him everyday? Is He your first and last each day? It's easy to blame God when things aren't going right but most of the times we are to blame.

You said you get down on your knees and beg? A child of God is not to beg, you are just to ask him and if you want to "corner" him quote a scripture, for example, God you said, "By HIs stripes we're healed", and God will heal you. God wants a relationship with you, a communion with you and if you have no confidence when you're praying, you're doubting that He will answer you prayers and when you blame HIm then God will not move when you want him to move. God does not deny us anything at all, He answers at his own pace but that does not mean he will not answer us.

Most of the times when bad things happen it's because thru that hardship we grow stronger and we become closer to him and that's if you endure hardship the right way. Do not and I mean never let the devil convince you that God is worthless and he doesn't care for you because remember the Devil is here to "steal, kill and destroy".

When ever you feel hardship rejoice and say it's not going to spoil your day or mood or shake your faith and before you know it the devil will start backing off. God bless. How you tackle a problem determines whether you're a winner or a loser and do not let your problem be the winner. Have faith in God.

Answer 7

Oh! Honey. I do feel for you and I hope this reply helps. I believe we are all Angels having an Earthly experience. We're here to sort out things that we didn't get right before. I believe people come into our lives to help us and we them,sort out things so we deal and overcome fears character floors etc and become more fulfilled people who find love with the right people because we ask more of ourselves and others. We don't react out of fear and loneliness. I think people come into our lives for a certain time 5weeks months years 50years depending on why. Yes You are heard always and you do have Guardian Angels and guides who came with you and some more when times are really tough. A site I like is "llewellyns Web Tarot". it's free and you can do your own readings it's very accurate. This may help you see how things are going and if patience is needed. I feel with this much upheaval that you are in a state of change a new beginning will come after you've shed the old unnecessary things. This can be so hard as it can involve material, relationships that you are comfortable with. Believe me the journey is worth it , You'll be stronger, more confident fulfilled person with the knowledge that you are special and you overcame something that you've feared for along time. Material and spiritual benifits come too. So Honey, continue along your Path, try meditating. This opens you up to receive the guidance you need through feelings , voices with messages. he! he! no not the T.V. you'll recognize the difference between wishful thinking and messages from your guides. look for signs too. If you're not sure just ask your Guides, angels etc.,and if the feeling is a comfortable happy one then it's right , if it makes your jaw stiffen etc then it's wrong . That goes for everything. Especially relationships .I know I'm just coming through the end of this phase and I can tell you it's been a nightmare but I've also known I've had help from them to keep me safe and knowing why this is so. Good Luck and Yes God does hear you and help is there if you listen to your inner voice. Not the negative one get rid of that one that says things like you're useless, no one likes love you, you're too fat, thin , stupid , everything happends to me etc. Tell that voice YOU HEAR IT, YOU DON'T AGREE, BUZZ OFF! or stronger. This will happen for a little while week month etc. but it will go and then you'll have a sense of purpose and you'll tackle life head on.
Besides Meditation, writing your fears down and burning it , or flushing it and saying .I GIVE THIS TO THE UNIVERSE TO DEAL WITH. Releases you eases the hurt worry and fears . Keep doing this everytime. Then write down in a diary what you would like the outcome to be. The best you can think of. You'll get what you need not always what you want. Another saying is What's yours comes to you and that is in all things.
Good Luck and be positive it will work out but you have to help yourself too, sometimes by just being patient and have Faith. Ciao.

Answer 8

Sorry to hear you are hurting. I wish none of us had to hurt. The truth is, we all do at some point. I have heard about more people being hurt in the past year than in the post 5 years of my life.

We could actually blame all of this on God. Of oucrse, that would be taking away the blame from ourselves. Most of what happens is caused by someone else. The weather is somewhat caused by us (i.e. global warming) , but overall it was already in His plan.

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=John%2016:20-35;&version=31;

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew%2024:5-14;&version=31;

I know these verses won't make you feel better, but I wanted to try to explain. I experience moments of tested faith as well . . and quite frankly it sucks. The difference between my pain and the world's pain is, mine is temporary.

Answer 9

hon i understand the stress that these bad things are doing to you i wont even go into the things that happened before Jan. of 06, but at the end of Jan i misscaried a baby because of my choice in birth control. then i almost bled to death after they did the DNC, i almost bled to death. i spent a week and a half in ICU, and another week in a room under constant care.then in sept. my father died a brutaly painful death that happed because of a lethal mix of a major heart attack with three seisures and an anurism. his last words were to my brother. he said darrick it hurts so much then he died. then in dec. my grand mother had a minor heart attack. and we were worried that it would trigger another stroke or another anurism (she had a double stroke and an anurism 7 years ago). then also in dec. my grand father found out that he has a throat cancer that is slowly choking him to death. and in Jan. of 07 i had another miscarraige. again i almost bled to death. my poor husband missed alot of work to care for me and our other three kids till i was able to walk on my own again. i am currently going through a depression that would make brutal torture by hitler look like a cakewalk. my faith in God is the only thing that keeps me from drowning. i am hurting so bad right now that i cant seem to stop the tears. and more than anything i wish i could just feel numb for a while. but if i didnt know that God had a plan for me, and that even though all the bad things do not make sense, he has a purpose for me. and what ever that is, eventualy it will shine through. and i will be rewarded for my faith. my point is dont loose your faith. ther is always someone out there that has worse problems. and maybeyou will have a chance to give them strength to hold on to thier faith. i hope this helps.

Answer 10

First you need to care for yourself and others than you'll see the true light. God if there is one doesn't answer and isn't at our beckoned call. It's unfortunate that so many place their faith in the unseen, unkown force of God rather than that which is in front of them daily. In other words have some faith in humanity instead of placing it with God. Live your life loving, caring, and empathizing with others and you'll see that light you refer too. Don't place too much stock in the idea that God is goinjg to rescue you from whatever it is that is causing you pain and sadness. Only through common understanding and communication with other people can one overcome their anguish regardless of what the subject may/might be. PEACE!

Answer 11

I know how you feel, except that I never turned to God.

All I can tell you is that everyone has sh*t. EVERYONE has sh*t. You aren't going through any more than anyone else. Less, in fact, if you have internet access. What you cry about, I learn from. As you dwell on all the things that you didn't get, I appreciate all the things that I am lucky enough to have.

Only YOU can determine what your life holds in store for you. I guarantee this attitude will not get you far.