My granddaughter has a friend who's a boy. They're both 11 1/2. They have a little case of puppy love happening. This boy's parents are a mess. Mother is a drug addict, both drink accessively, kid's have been taken away a couple of times for neglect. My daughter is very upset by this friendship. They are afraid it may hurt their daughter. Any suggestions on how to handle this the right way.
2007-02-06 16:04:48 · 5 answers · asked by Pepper's Mommy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I understand your concern. The first manner is to make sure that your grand daughter understands what is happening in her friend's family. Give her every opportunity to talk freely about it, especially after each event occurs. In her mind she have to ascertain these events and guidance is very important because this way she will be well educated, but you (grandmom) would know her thoughts. Also if she continues to remain friends with him, you'll know if he speaking through her mouth.
What I mean is it may be obvious this boy express himself to her, and it may give you a clue to any possible (wrong) event from happening. It also be great if you become his grandmom too. At least that young man would grow up with the loving care you gave him, and he will remember that for the rest of his life.
If you have any concern in regards to your granddaughter relationship, your relationship with her is very important. Please let her know that you're 24/7 grandmother. Please keep the boy's parents in your prayers...be his grandmother too..
God Bless.
2007-02-06 16:36:40 · answer #1 · answered by tony 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry too much yet- if you make too much of it, it will only blow up in your face. Kids LOVE to do the oppisite of what their parents want. Don't judge the boy on the mistakes of his parents- it's not his fault. Just ensure that your granddaughter is not exposed to the parents of the boy. As long as the boy has done nothing wrong, it would be unfair to judge him by his parents and deny your granddaughter what is only a friendship right now. Make sure she is safe, and see what happens.
2007-02-07 00:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it seems like you are right and it is just puppy love due to the ages you have stated, if I was the parents I would maybe watch and see, we all want to protect our kids in life but as we all know in order to grow you must experience some bad, I would say just to watch and be there in case something goes wrong
2007-02-07 00:09:15 · answer #3 · answered by billc4u 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think it would be right to seperate them your grand daughter might be all that little boy has and also if you show that little boy what family really is he could grow up into a better person and he will thank and love your family for helping him
2007-02-07 00:12:45 · answer #4 · answered by mella12489 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest don't make a big deal out of it... It's not like they will stay together long at that age, and pressure to stay away could easily backfire.
2007-02-07 00:10:26 · answer #5 · answered by mister science 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋