I'm in college and never had a date. I was a late bloomer and didn't even think about girls that way until I was 17. I get made fun of by a lot of other guys for not ever dating girls. Is this such a bad thing? My goals in life involve finishing college with the best grades I can and then going on to get a pHD (I'm a physics major) and have never really included a relationship. Obviously, I'll be 30+ by the time I'm finished school; would it be too late to start dating then? Should I just forget about having a relationship and work on my school/career? BTW, I do have friends and they are an important part of my life, so it's not like I'm a loner.
2007-02-06 15:52:50 · 23 answers · asked by Steady As She Goes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like you're focused and there's absolutely nothing abnormal about that, ......
relationships involve ALOT of give and take, and unless you have adequate spare time that you wish to spend on getting to seriously know and date a girl, then don't worry about it, don't mind your friends, they are just jealous of your drive and ambition...waiting for a serious relationship is mature...you could of course casually date girls, just to gain some practice...but you're the one who has to decide...
2007-02-06 15:57:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everything is in the balance. What do you want to accomplish in your youth? Education is BIG .. It is huge... but Education isnt just books... it is people. Now is a critical time to understand the opposite sex to experiment. You will never fully understand them. But you are smart.. and they are a lot more a like than you think. I am writing the 36 steps. That is one of the things that I have found. So dont cheat yourself out of an education in relationships.. cause the way you need to do experiments in science... you need to understand what works now. When you are making BIG bucks and are being nominated for the physic expert of the year, they will be flocking to you. You need to know how to work with them, when are they using you, when do they truely care
2007-02-06 16:08:43 · answer #2 · answered by Devin J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't feel bad that u have never gone out with a girl. it's ok. ppl start dating at different times in their lives. i was 17 when i had my first serious bf n i'm still dating him now that i'm 18. have confidence in urself. u'll find Ms. Right. who knows? u might find her in the library or even bump into her at college n the 2 of u go out n u guys just click. i believe everyone has a special someone out there waiting 4 them. they just need 2 have the confidence in finding them. b patient n she will come 2 u.
2007-02-06 16:01:16 · answer #3 · answered by emilytobey@sbcglobal.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is a wonderful thing that you do not let relationships going no where get in the way of what is important to you. It is not normal, but then what is normal? It is not a bad thing though. It is just that you have a plan in your head, & it is nice that you don't lose sight of it. Way to go, give yourself a pat on the back.
2007-02-06 15:57:54 · answer #4 · answered by sis_jk27 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong in not dating at 19, u do what feels right for u, not what u're friends are doing, u come first in all your decisions, believe me when u do date, girls have a lot more respect for guys like u that the guy who had a different date every weekend, i am female and 30, i know whar i'm talking about
2007-02-06 15:57:47 · answer #5 · answered by tess 21 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why dnt u get over ur fears even as a guy ask u out dnt say no thts why u under no circumstances been on a date how do u anticipate to flow on a date with someone if u dnt have a boyfriend end turning men down there's a sturdy guy there who may like u alot yet u only lost him because u pronounced no trust no count how ill u get only say certain sturdy luck!
2016-11-25 21:38:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 19 and never had a serious relationship. I'd just continue with what you're doing (school/work/friends etc.) and you'll end up meeting a great person when you least expect it!!! Goodluck!
PS. It's never too late!!
A smart guy is a sexy guy!! ;)
2007-02-06 15:59:54 · answer #7 · answered by JackLyN___ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes honey u need to date, u are missing out on the best part of your life dating, and eventually falling is love is what makes life worth living for, u should experience that, u need to still focus on your career but u can juggle both i promise i am in school for my master's in PT and still find time to go out and have fun and have a romantic relationship. Falling in love is absolutely beautiful and i would not want u to miss out on that.
2007-02-06 15:58:19 · answer #8 · answered by ... 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should do whatever makes you happy. It's never too late to start dating it's all about whne you are ready. If education is more important then go for it. If you want both then you can make both work for you.
2007-02-06 15:58:20 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's completely normal. It's not too late to date at 30+. You're just fine. Don't let what others think get you down! I personally think that's great that you are so focused on you eduction!
2007-02-06 15:57:47 · answer #10 · answered by Cheyenne 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋