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My son was invited to a birthday party...well unknown to him the kid that invited him is a twin (his brother is in another class) So...I am not sure if it's expected to bring a gift for both boys or just for the boy that he knows. Seems like if both boys invited everyone in their class that would just be to much. Personally as a mom I would not expect for someone to buy a present for my kid they were not friends w/ but I want to know if I am totally off base.
2007-02-06 15:39:07 · 19 answers · asked by MaryJaneD 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Buy one gift, but make something both children can use like a board game, etc.
2007-02-06 15:43:46 · answer #1 · answered by DB 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Was the invitation to just the friend's party? Not both of them? If it was just for one, I might just buy for the friend.
But before I jumped to conclusions about the family's ideas about it all, I would just make a phone call. Maybe tell them you had no idea they were twins and that you thought it might be a joint party but weren't certain (and if it was, what kind of games or things would they enjoy together). If they were having a joint party, you wouldn't want to leave the other out. Let them lead from there - they may even tell you that each friend should only bring for the one they know.
It might be that the parents are trying to create some individuality - that although they have children on the same day, it doesn't mean they aren't different and have different friends.
2007-02-06 15:57:23 · answer #2 · answered by itsjustfoolishness 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How was the invitation issued? Was he invited to a birthday party for his friend or was the invitation for a party for both boys?
Just his friend then one gift. If it was for both boys then 2 gifts would be appropriate.
You could always call the mom and ask. I'm sure she's dealt with this issue before! If the invite was only for the one boy's birthday I'm sure that was deliberate on the mom's part so guest wouldn't feel obligated to buy 2 gifts.
2007-02-06 15:58:34 · answer #3 · answered by i'mfreezing 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your son was invited to a birthday party for a boy he knows. He need therefore only bring a gift for this child. Whether the child in question is a twin, a triplet or octuplet is beside the point.
2007-02-06 19:57:17 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What did the invitation say? Did it say the birthday was for Johnny, or Johnny and Jimmy? If it said just one, you buy for one, if for both, well, you buy for both.
If the invite was by mouth, find out what was said. If Johnny said come to my birthday party, well, you buy one.
When in doubt, call other Moms, or go straight to the Mom of the twins. "I do not want to be rude, but I want to do the right thing. I wouldn't mind buying two presents, but I do not want Johnnie and Jimmy to sit there opening presents forever, either." would be polite. Or just admit that you don't know what to do. Chances are, Mom has thought of this, and has an answer!
Buy as your pocket book allows, if you buy for two, half the budget, to accomodate both presents.
Or, buy one present, clearly intended for both.
Hope this helps.
2007-02-06 19:57:05 · answer #5 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some stores that has a buy one get one free special. You could go for that. Or buy a small gift for the twin brother and a really thoughtful one for the one that your son knows.
2007-02-06 15:47:53 · answer #6 · answered by CatQueen 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing most people will buy gifts for both boys, and they say it's better to be safe than sorry. I think it would be polite to bring both kids a gift. Twins have a tendency toward jealousy of each other anyway, especially if one gets a gift and other doesn't.
2007-02-06 15:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To be honest, i could call the host family individuals and ask what the youngsters are awaiting. It sounds like particularly a super social gathering, so an exceedingly gracious host might desire to assert, "Oh, one present is a lot, in case you % to deliver one." even nevertheless, I definitely have difficulty-free numerous instruments of twins who consistently felt short-replaced - one set that grew to become into born close to yuletide, and have been given one b-day/yuletide/the two-of-you provides for all time! i in my opinion think of that the final thank you to deal with this, and not advance such questions interior the minds of attendees, could have been to have 2 separate events, or a minimum of in 2 separate rooms. then you could deliver a modern-day for the social gathering you're invited to.
2016-09-28 13:01:14 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sure are about 150%. Think of yourself as the child who is the twin that didn't get a gift, if you cannot afford 2 gifts then don't have your child attend. Whenever you don't know an answer to something, use empathy, Feel like you're the one who is getting gypped
2007-02-06 15:47:02 · answer #9 · answered by magpie 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think I would buy a small gift for the other boy also.
2007-02-06 17:51:52 · answer #10 · answered by Sandi Beach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋