Okay this is a huge huge problem in my relationship with my boyfriend of a year now. I don't know if he's jealous or what it is. I have a friendthat i have been friends with since I was 7 years old, he lives an hour away and I only see him maybe once a year when he comes to visit friends here. We talk pretty much everytime, he'll call sometimes during the week, but I do not by any means think of him as more than a friend. I am absolutely crazy about my boyfriend and love him so much so it bothers me that he is so upset about this. He suspected my friend liked me sicne we talk alot and becuase he would say alot of times he thought I was hot ect. He does seem pretty down about my boyfriend too and usually insuslts him-though neither have evermet each other-but i tell him not to and he has stopped. Anyway my friend did admit he thinks he's "in love" with me, but I told him we could only be friends, and he's stopped all that. But this has not helped the situation with my boyfriend.
2007-02-06 15:06:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My boyfriend thinks its wrong that i ask him for advice on our relationship and hates thats I talk to him about things. He thinks he's trying to sabatouge our relationship even though I've reasured him I know when my friend is just attacking him becuase he likes me. He thinks it's wrong and basically after I confronted him saying he won't be happy unless I'm not friends with him at all, he agreed and said he feels bad though for it. It seems like we constantly argue about it and nothing will make it better, my friend even got a girlfriend now and he doesn't think it matters. I really love my boyfriend but I don't think there is anything wrong with being friends with my friend since we've been friends along time and he always has been a good friend. I really need advice, help?
2007-02-06 15:09:09 · update #1
Oh I deffinatly am not a flirt either-we both agreed flirting is like a type of cheating.
2007-02-06 15:24:57 · update #2
well your friend is too into you so i dont blame your boyfriend. but tell your boyfriend that he is the only one in your life that you love. your frienfd is just a friend. dont brake it off with either of them. just talk it out.
2007-02-06 15:13:28 · answer #1 · answered by Ani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's complicated ;) But really, I am quite a tomboy and have many guy friends, and my boyfriend is okay with that. It sounds like your boyfriend might be afraid of losing you, and the same for your friend. Maybe you need to talk to both of them, especially your friend, and make it clear that you really are just friends.
Perhaps you should evaluate YOUR feelings towards your friend- it seems like you flirt a lot, and that could hurt for your boyfriend (imagine yourself in his position). If you truly don't feel anything romantic towards your childhood friend, make sure to tell your boyfriend that, and try to keep the flirting to a minimum.
2007-02-06 15:14:56 · answer #2 · answered by Shea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why your boyfreind doesnt want you talking about your relationship with the freind, but there is no reason you shouldn't be able to be freinds with your freind since age 7. soudns like ur bf might have some jealousy issues going on for sure.
2007-02-06 15:11:11 · answer #3 · answered by lady26 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never choose a boyfriend over friends. Make it work. Tell the boyfriend that you are going to remain friends with the friend. Tell the friend that you love your boyfriend and it hurts you to hear him say bad things about him and that he needs to stop. The boyfriend does NOT need to know how the friend feels about you, that is the key to keeping things simple.
2007-02-06 15:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by Behappy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I went through the same thing,
You just have to tell your boyfriend how it is, Let him know That "Bob" Is just a friend and that is all he ever will be.
Now see, I was wrong the friend that i thought just wanted me as a friend, eventually made a move, so i guess my boyfriend was right...but I still have other guys friends that keep there distance..Just let him know that they are friends, and thats that
2007-02-06 15:12:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to remind your boyfriend that you knew this other guy for a long time, and if you wanted to date him you had the chance. Basically let him know that he does not need to worry about losing you to the other guy.
2007-02-06 15:12:29 · answer #6 · answered by bfpmd4077 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is right, even if you think it's just being friends. Friends don't call you hot and say they love you.
2007-02-06 15:10:55 · answer #7 · answered by GoodGuy53 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend is a guy and he knows how other guys think. he's insecure for being jealous. but he can't help it. he sees another man moving in on his woman. its hard to deal with. tell your guy he can trust you and you know why he is being this way but that it is something he will have to learn to deal with in his own way.
2007-02-06 15:13:24 · answer #8 · answered by LostInReality 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no such thing as a Guy friend.. if your good looking your GUY freind wants a piece of asz!
That is the bottom line
2007-02-06 15:09:45 · answer #9 · answered by Yahoo Answer Rat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk tohim and tell him the truth
2007-02-06 15:08:59 · answer #10 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋