I've recently met someone new and went out every weekend with her for the past 4 weeks. We've spent afternoons together to bond and eat meals together at interesting places. She and I have both made meals for each other. It's understood we're becoming good friends and we feel really comfortable with one another. I enjoy the moments being w/ her and she's felt the same. We've never designated the 'outtings' as 'dates', which undoubtedly relieved the pressure and allowed us to just be... time's passed and she's mentioned that another guy's asked her out on a 'date' at night during the workweek and went out with him... she's been open to talk to me about it and I'm not jealous about it. However, I'd like to ask her out on a 'date', too. I guess what makes this different is the level of attraction and perception of bf material.
Am I at the point-of-no-return?
2007-02-06 15:05:23 · 5 answers · asked by Ebones 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's probably telling you about the other dates to guage your reaction. Are you positive the date really happened? I do question your last comment about "level of attraction and perception of bf material" it makes me wonder if something has been said already.
If not - a simple enough test of your standing with her would be something like this: At the close of one of your enjoyable, quiet evenings together, as your saying your goodbyes, take her hands and tell her "I'd really like to kiss you goodnight"....if she balks at the idea, well no harm, no fowl, no line crossed that can't be uncrossed...if's she's game, you're in!
2007-02-14 11:31:54 · answer #1 · answered by adollorthreeninetyfive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not! The past four weeks were spent in getting to know one another and learning about each other so now that you are comfortable, tell her that you would like to take her on an actual 'date' and see what she has to say about that.
Sometimes the greatest of friends can become the greatest of lovers as well.
2007-02-14 19:28:10 · answer #2 · answered by whispersofindigo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and define your relationship. Let her know your feelings and find out how she feels. Do this openly and honestly with each other, you must get her to talk with you about how each other feels.
2007-02-14 22:14:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to "date" her, you need to ask her out. otherwise, you'll be listening to her describe her dates with the other guy. if you want a deeper relationship, let her know.
2007-02-14 04:00:43 · answer #4 · answered by billyjoemikey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, I really feel for you!!! I'm in a similar boat!
2007-02-06 23:10:04 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋