me and my girl friend have been dating for three months now. she is 17 i am 16.. i am always the one who texts her and calls her. and always the one who says lets go out.. she tells me she loves me all the time but should i pull back a little bit or keep doing what i am doing?! please help
2007-02-06 14:57:55 · 24 answers · asked by Johnny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you're sounding a bit needy there - although from what you say - she's not complaining.
time for a talk between the two of you - but don't be surprised if it doesn't go well.
That being said, no 16 year old should be telling another kid they are in love with them - I know you don't want to hear this, but you are, after all, kids.
Take it slow - have some fun - don't do anything stupid and remember THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS SAFE SEX
2007-02-06 15:02:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop doing that immediately. I can see what the problem is, and it's that you're acting too clingy and needy and it's turning her off. It should be obvioius that it is not "working" if she never calls you or asks you to do anything. It's what she does not what she says that counts. Sounds to me like shes just using you. She doesn't love you. If she did, you'd know it and you wouldn't even have to be on here asking this question.
My advice to you is to pull back a lot, not a little bit. Call her once for every three times she calls you and don't ask her to do anything starting now. If she still has any sort of interest in you she'll start to wonder what's going on and will call you. If she doesn't then she just doesn't care and it's time for you to move on, homie.
2007-02-06 15:17:03 · answer #2 · answered by Alan K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your doing just fine. Communication is the key to a good relationship. Maybe she is old fashion and believes that the guy takes the lead. There's nothing wrong with that. If you both love each other why don't you just tell her nicely that it would be nice of her if she would surprise you once in awhile by sending you a text or giving you a call. Or text her and say "What would you like to do this weekend?" And give her some space to call you back. Don't call her until she calls you. Good Luck!
2007-02-06 15:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you should pull back, let her initiate something for once, if she has a hard time with that then this relationship is over...how can you love someone but expect them to do all the work? I don't know you two, but I doubt it's really love, she just likes all this attention she gets from you, now it's your turn.....
2007-02-06 15:03:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first make sure that there is not another guy in the picture.....but if not then it is just a personality quirk.....i am the same way as your g/f i never call people they are always the first to call me and same goes for making plans......i am never the first.....there is no real reason.....i know it can be a little frustrating for you....maybe you need to ask her what she wants to do for a change......if you are feeling used then pull back a little and see if she notices....but if you are fine with the situation.....then stick with it.....but dont expect things to miraculously change over night......
2007-02-06 15:07:01 · answer #5 · answered by mafronk21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you buy her lots of things and always pay for the dates? If you do, break up, if not, maybe talk to her about, it might be that she thinks it is your job to do all those things, or she might be afraid, but to keep it honest, it doesnt seem like she likes you from what you described. Talk to her, a serious talk too, not just something you touch on and then forget about with make up sex or something.
2007-02-06 15:03:00 · answer #6 · answered by inquest 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a good question. thats how i was in the beginning of my last relationship. seriously, if you dont mind making the plans and doing all the calling, and you two are having a great time going out then it should me okay right? i say keep it up. theres nothing wrong with bein in charge, if ya know what i mean.
2007-02-06 15:02:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, she is a girl and as a female, I have the right to say, we have the right to be as complicated, weird, and strange as we want! Maybe she does love you but does not want to be the clingy type of girlfriend. On the other hand, maybe she needs her space. Talk it out with her. Only she truly knows what is going on in her brain.
2007-02-06 15:01:49 · answer #8 · answered by Annoy1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe its too soon to be so into her, since its only been three months and your already saying :I Love You." You should pull back before you scare her away.
2007-02-06 15:01:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I'm not sure if this is the same in your case... but when I like a guy I expect a gentlemen so I don't expect to call him. I like it when he initiates it because I know that he really does love that and he feels overwhelmed with it all I like it even more when he tells me because then I know that he's comfortable talking to me. so I'm not sure what the case is but there you go.
2007-02-06 15:06:27 · answer #10 · answered by Suya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋