She said she wants to end school and start a family. What do you all think?
2007-02-06 14:39:58 · 66 answers · asked by JD 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Go for it. Thats a great F#*&ing idea.
2007-02-06 14:51:58 · answer #1 · answered by crackiswhack 2 · 1⤊ 6⤋
I think you are turning to the wrong place for answers. You might want to call the school and find out what resources are available in your area. She needs counseling, probably an evaluation. Also you can be locked up in some states if your child does not attend school and is not registered as a home school child participating in mandatory exams. Who does she want to start a family with? Another 12 year old? If the guy is over 18 its time to start pressing some charges.
2007-02-06 15:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by Lily 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No way! My daughter is 14 and she wants to drop out of school. She skipped 80 classes in 3 months, so she failed everything. She ended up staying at home until the next semester. I went to the school, took her everyday and she would just leave. Well, because she was home for 2 months, I took away the computer and she didn't get to go out with her friends. She had chores and when it was time to go back to school, she was so happy! She is now doing better than ever. They will push you to your breaking point, but you just have to stay firm! She is still a child and she needs your guidance whether she likes it or not. I had her when I was a teenager and I ended up on welfare. It was hard, but now I have a job and I am raising 2 kids on my own without welfare. Life is hard enough for kids today, adding a baby will just slam the doors on alot of opportunities for her. Have her talk to other teen moms, I bet they will all say that they wished they would have waited and stayed in school. Good luck!
2007-02-06 14:55:15 · answer #3 · answered by bomba87 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
OMG - you have got to be kidding me! Would you actually consider letting your 12 year old quit school and start a family?! She is a baby herself - she doesn't need to start a family. If you are the slightest bit of a responsible parent you will put your foot down and stress how important an education is! If she is thinking about this b/c of problems in school help her, show her how a parent is supposed to react to this kind of thing so when she is done with school and actually is ready to have a family of her own she will be prepared. Good luck to ya
2007-02-06 14:46:22 · answer #4 · answered by dollylips84 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
First of all it's illegal. Second, You are the parent aren't you? Talk to her there might be something going on at school that she's having a hard time dealing with, is she developing faster then the other girls? is she having a hard time with the school work? You need to be her father and find out whats going on with your daughter. If you let her do what ever she wants she will walk all over you and you will never be able to gain control. Be her parent, remember who's the boss.
Good Luck.
2007-02-06 14:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i dont think u should let your daughter drop out of school make her finish grade 12 and after that if she wants to start a family let her but if she ever wants a job or anything she needs her grade 12 she is to young to have kids she is only 12 she is still a kid herself
2007-02-06 14:47:12 · answer #6 · answered by dupparup 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i don't think your daughter really wants to drop out. how about talking WITH her and not to her instead. ask her to tell you why she wants to start a family instead of going to school. talk with her in such a way she will THINK of her actions.
i feel there is an underlying reason to that, not just a simple "want to start a family". get talking and understand each other more.
we all know dropping out of school at such a young age is not a choice. she might not even know what is in store for her in the future.
that's all my advice to you can be.. talk with her and get her to tell you about everything that's happening to her. she might be getting trouble in school or something, etc.
you may also visit the school sometime and talk with their teacher, principal, or someone else discreetly without her knowing. they might know more than you since she's spending more day time hours in school.
good luck with your daughter! i know in the end you'll get to the bottom of it! :)
good luck!
2007-02-06 17:40:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No i would not let her do that, she's still young and she want's to start a family, that is way too young to have sex. She won't know have the stuff she has to know to be a parent because she dropped out. Education is a job not a choice, i wouldn't let her drop out. Give her the talk that she's too young to have children.I know she doesn't like school (i didn't like it myself) if you want her to be sucessful school is the first limit.NO LETTING HER DROP OUT
2007-02-06 15:45:13 · answer #8 · answered by Mommy_of_4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I don't even think the law will let her drop out of school at age 12, even with your consent. (In PA it is age 16, and you need a parent's approval even then. If you stop going before then, the school turns the parents in to family services and will often have the child placed in foster care or juvenile detention!)
It sounds like maybe you should get your daughter some therapy. Sometimes it is easier for a teen/ pre-teen to talk to someone "outside" of the family. Sometimes they listen to those people better too, as much as it hurts! (the parents) Good luck!
2007-02-06 14:51:20 · answer #9 · answered by Monica 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋
All I am going to say is "What a great father you are....let her ruin her life she Will be on welfare, she cant even get a job!?!" Seriously who the helI would hire a twelve y/o? for even a fast food joint. she could get a babysitting job for now and see what it is like having to watch play feed a child. you are insane. I am 13. I got prego and sadly the baby just died off...I was not smart I regret doing it..SO F'ING MUCH...I only have a bf we are not even thinking of starting a family together yet. She needs help get her to a physiologist.........That is NOT ok/normal
2007-02-07 02:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by Brown-Eyed-Beauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! How is she going to support the family? Why would anyone let a 12 year old child who isn't even mature enough to make responsible decisions, make one so life altering? Call Dr. Phil!!! He will get her straightened out!
2007-02-06 14:46:52 · answer #11 · answered by mrs. savealot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋