Ummmmm......question bout sex ??? serious!?

Question

many adults say to wait until marriage. i dont want to have sex now anyways but just a question to make sure im prepared for the future.
My theory:
ppl get sexual impulses and hit puberty at a young age compared to how long we live. i think it is because our life expectancy way back when, was like 20. that was considered old. so of course in the teen years you were an adult.
so...
i dont know if i should wait until marriage or just someone i love a lot. i mean wonder if i decide to be single the rest of my life. i dont want to die a virgin!
what should i do?
How long did you wait?

Answer 1

Well personally I think the idea of waiting for marriage is a bit out dated...i made a mistake, and lost my virginity to someone i shouldnt have, but if i hadnt have, i would have just waited for someone i cared for deeply.

Answer 2

I'm 23 and am waiting for marriage. I was in a relationship for 2 1/2 years with someone I thought I loved a lot, but looking back, am SO GLAD I didn't give it up to him. I would wait, because that way the more you value yourself, the more the right guy will value you. Know how far you're willing to go and stick to it. When you meet Mr. Right, you won't want to be single the rest of your life. You seem really young, dying a virgin should be the last thing you're worrying about, lol.

Answer 3

When you are ready, you'll know.

If I had waited until I got married, I'd still be waiting. I'm 28.

I waited until I was 19 because I felt ready. And I was right. It wasn't awkward. I wasn't stupid about it. I picked a guy that respected me. I don't regret a moment of it.

Also, if I had waited, I wouldn't have become aware of sexual incompatibility issues. Along with money, sex is a major source of tension and cause for divorce. The main reason behind sex being a problem is sexual incompatibility, particularly differences in sex drives.

The main thing to do is be informed about sex. The more you know, the better prepared you'll be when you make the decision, be it before or after marriage. But don't kid yourself. You don't know when you'll be getting married, and waiting to learn about your sexuality (a perfectly natural part of who you are) could prove to be a problem later in life.

I could go on all day about this, but if you want to chat about it, e-mail me: [e-mail].

Answer 4

I waited until I was 18 and boy it was not at all what I expected. It gets better I guess (When you find the right guy) I think that one should wait until they find the one they love even if its not the one you end up being married with. Before I lost it I was known as a tease which I got a lot of fun out of. No sex but still had it going on. Good Luck.

Answer 5

I have a 14 y/o daughter and what I told her was this.. I know that there will be a time when the opportunity will present. I hope that you say no but I can not control you at that particular moment. Just know that whatever you do it comes with consequences and you will need to deal with those after the fact.

Wether is a pregnancy, or a venereal disiease, the grounding she will get from me or just the guilt alone after you realize that it was a mistake not to wait or to have sex at that particular moment. I trust she is smart enought and know that she will make her own desicion and not be swayed by the guy...

So the same should apply to you, just be ready to accept the consequences...

Answer 6

marriage or not, you'll be ready when you are ready.
Just remember that once you lose it, you can't get it back. This will be something that you will carry with you the rest of your life. What do you want to tell your future children when they as you if they are ready and when you lost yours? Trust me, they will! lol.
Odds are you would want to tell them, you loved him, trusted him,and knew he was the right one to lose it to. Even if it isn't in marriage. Very FEW people die virgins, I'm sure you will be alright there. As far as what I did....I wish I had something better to tell you than the truth. Trust me, If I could have taken it all back I would have almost immediately. That one night, changed my entire life, and I never fully recovered.

Answer 7

Do waht feels right to you. There is nothign wrong being a virign. I'm 25 and I'm still a virgin. Yes i'd like to meet someone and have sex but it doesn't bother me that it hasn't happened yet. I'm looking for the right person before I do anything drastic. on the other hand, I'm not waiting until I get married. That choice is up to you.

Answer 8

i waited till i was 21 but it wasn't with someone i loved, so i wish i had waited longer but i dont believe in waiting till marriage to have sex....that is just something that religious people and prudes try to put into your head....only you can decide when to have sex for the first time.....wait till it is with someone you love and who loves you back....sex is MUCH better when you are in love.....but you wait as long as you want....you are the only one who can decide when it is right....and dont let anyone tell you different or make you feel bad if you want to have sex before marriage....you do what you want......

Answer 9

It would be up to the individual to decide how long they should wait before trying sex. There's no right answer just stick with what you believe. I was 17 when I first had sex with an older more experienced woman and she couldn't keep her hands off of me.

Answer 10

it really is not each female that could ''come'' as you discribe, in reality , that is a minority than can yet porn makes it look like each body can. And sex starts to suck once you're purely attempting to achive something extremely of having interesting