My mom just found out that my dad's been lying to her and smoking. I don't know what will happen. My mom's really upset. I don't want to talk to my Dad. I'm just afraid that my parents will get a divorce and my life will be ruined. Please give me some advice, and be nice about it!
2007-02-06 14:30:24 · 25 answers · asked by Ember! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
relax your parents should be able to work it out, love is stronger than u know
2007-02-06 14:33:59 · answer #1 · answered by Sparky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Smoking isn't as bad as it could be. Sure Mom is mad but divorce is a more serious thing than that. You should talk to your Dad and tell him your fears, sometimes parents are oblivious to what their kids are thinking and don't respond the way you would like them to because nothing said is translated as nothing felt. Dad loves you and wants to know what you feel. You also need to talk to your Mom. You are them but in one body. Make them sit down and listen. They do want to hear you.
2007-02-12 01:07:55 · answer #2 · answered by #1 saints fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, I doubt very seriously that your parents will divorce over this. I don't know how old you are, but please believe me when I tell you that nearly ALL moms and dads fight about stuff, some of it very important, some of it not so important. I'm not a smoker, but I lived with them all my life (my mama, my husband, even my kids) so I know how hard quitting can be. I'm sorry to hear that your dad lied to your mom about it (THAT'S really what your mom is upset about). Please don't give your daddy the cold shoulder. It will be a lot better if you go to him and tell him how you feel and tell him you're scared he and your mama will get a divorce. Secrets in a family are NEVER good, hon. He needs to know that what he does affects the whole family, not just himself. I believe you love him AND your mama, so don't take sides. I hope this helps. God bless you, hon.
2007-02-06 22:48:32 · answer #3 · answered by nana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if all he lied about was that he smoked..then they would figure things out..if he lied about something else..they will still figure it out anyways.. dont worry..people who are willing to work through thier problems will succeed.
You parents are not in big trouble relationship wise.
There are far more worse things that could go on to make a divorce happen..
what you described does not seem serious enough for a divorce to take place..just relax.
2007-02-06 22:36:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do is not take sides your mum and dad are having problems it really does not help with you taking sides you need to be there for both of your parents
if they do decide to split up it is hard at first but i promise you your life will still be the same except they wont be living together i live with my dad and it is grate so you have to try and look at it in a way that ma by its the best thing for them and some times we have to seaport our parents when they are down just like they do us
2007-02-13 00:46:26 · answer #5 · answered by blackrose8684 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad lied to my mom about smoking, too. I was about ten. It sucks to know that someone you love and trust could have a whole other facet to their life that you knew nothing about. You may feel that way, and that's definitely how it sounds like your mom feels. On your dad's side, he has a nasty habit that he's ashamed of because he knows there's no way to justify it.
Your parents just need to communicate, which is totally their problem. For your sake, you might want to tell them how you feel. You need to communicate with them just as much as they need to communicate with each other. Hang in there. =/
2007-02-06 22:54:09 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
gosh, over smoking that is not a reason for divorce. i doubt they will but heck you stop worrying. actually if they were getting divorced and having real problems you would see best to have them separated becasue of the probelms you'd be having its horrible and sometimes they try and drag kids into it with being on sides you dont' want that keep quite you'll be ok.
2007-02-11 01:26:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety if divorce is in their future...lying about smoking is the least of their problems. Parents fight...but this issue is not divorce worthy
2007-02-06 22:57:24 · answer #8 · answered by Kujo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You not wanting to talk to your dad will only worsen things. This is something they need to work out between them. The story is kind of vague as to what the lying was about.
Your role, if do care, is to continue being there for them and not to take sides.
2007-02-06 22:54:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
truely your life will not be ruined if they get a divorce .sometimes it is the best thing that can happen. A quiet and happy household is a very big sucess. Life will be ok reallly it will.
2007-02-12 15:03:26 · answer #10 · answered by Shelly t 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can really do. This is their problem and they have to work it out. Believe me, if they get a divorce, it's definately not going to be over smoking.
2007-02-06 22:43:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋