Is It Possible?

Question

......For the sake of a good debate, men: is it possible for you to love ONE WOMAN....and stay true to her (not being with anyone else....ever.) ALL YOUR LIFE? Forsaking all others, keeping yourself unto her all the days of your life?

Women: Is it possible for you to, give up your independence for the sake of a man? And to love him with all your heart, and for saking all others....keep yourself unto him all the days of your life?

Now, God makes it pretty clear that we should be able to keep ourselves pure (away from sex) until marriage. And then within marriage, never have sex with another person. I don't personally put a lot of stock into this. I know that God's word is 100% truth. But really, in the world today, is it possible for a young man to keep himself pure? And a young woman to be willing to follow her husband...and make him the head of the house?

Just curious ya'lls take on it.
God bless
~Kat

I am afraid some of you are missing the point, I am asking if it is possible to stay pure...always, forsaking everything that people tell you, everything your mind sees on the interent (aka porno) And letting go, to give God the glory in your relationship....Can you do that? Can anyone actually remain pure, and not give some part of their heart away before marriage? I don't think they can....but go ahead and keep answering, I am defintly intersted in the arguement...

Answer 1

Yes, it is possible, but it takes discipline. Not many people nowadays believe in discipline. We make lame New Year's resolutions like "I want to lose ten pounds" instead of "I am going to stop taking God's name in vain". We don't even have discipline to start trying something right away - we wait until a certain day to do it. If we really had discipline, we would see a part of ourselves that didn't measure up (using God's measuring stick, not the measuring stick that humanity offers) and immediately start working on it.
Yes, people can stay true to their spouse. They just have to put God first, and everything else will fall into place. I am a married woman who is extremely independent and free-thinking, but I have done my best to re-shape myself to submit to my husband. I do this for God, basically. That is apparently one of the things I'm supposed to do. I don't want to do it, and I don't like it all the time, but it actually isn't as bad as you may think. It isn't about letting yourself get walked on, but rather about putting your husband first, which is a selfless act. It requires you to humble yourself, which is a very good thing. It isn't easy for me, though. I still struggle with holding my tongue sometimes, even though I know that oftentimes that is the best for ME in the short AND longterm. I am just so opinionated! :o)

Answer 2

Of course it's possible! It IS rather silly to say "give up your independence for the sake of a man" though. I have developed my personality quite roundly and well. I know that I will have a career and be quite the independent woman when I get married. Premarital sex is a waste of time, a distraction from the love and friendship that should really be grown in a relationship. If you want to have sex with the person you're dating badly enough to act on that want then you should love them enough to get married first.

So yes. Being married is also a commitment. The wedding is an event, the marriage a lifestyle. My parents (well... my mom) are faithful to their beliefs and so they see no need to look for outside "pleasure". People CAN and DO love each other in marriage today... as strange as that sounds.

Young men and women in the church (I'm referring to the LDS church) are taught early on how to keep lustful thoughts out of their heads because they're vile and stunting to relationships.
I'd be willing to follow the man I loved as long as he was willing to follow me as the matriarch.

"keep[ing] yourself unto him all the days of your life" is sweet but I think it's true as well. And why not? People of old and in foreign cultures can remain faithful, so why should we be so inept? Maybe we've created a society where we give in to our desires to much. We have are of a carnal mind and make brash decisions that give us short-lived amusement. I guess adding God into that gives an eternal perspective that can let you know that as long as you keep the commandments within your relationship, you'll thrive.

Answer 3

I can love my husband stay faithful and still remain independent. As far as all that "head of the house" I think that Canada is a little past that way of thinking. I think if "they" were to rewrite the Bible it would be more balanced where the sexes are concerned. It's lack of such balance is the reason I do not believe it to be devine.

Add on:

No purity is not attainable. We are both freaks!!! And love it.

Answer 4

I don't believe in god but yes it is possible. The mentality today is "if its broke, get rid of it" instead of fixing it they just walk away. That's why there are so many marriages that end in divorce. I think if you get married its one time and its for life with an exception if the spouse is abusive.

Answer 5

My Atheist wife and I (also Atheist) have already outlasted most marriages in the US. I can love her for the rest of my life.

We both had sex before our marriage. She had a few more partners than I did, but it is all good. We stick with each other now.

Edit:

As to your update. We both watch porn. She has a bag full of toys. I don't see anything wrong with porn, just as long as we remain faithful to one another. We share a bond of trust, porn does not have an effect on that.

Answer 6

To be absolute as you say is possible, but not likely. I was exposed to porn at an early age(at that time though now it seems earlier). But, I have overcome with trial as with all addiction. I have the one wife and I have never known another. As to always you will never know or care by the time I die. But, it is my goal to always.

And though this is not part of your debate, she submits to my "authority." If we come to a cross road I make the decision and that is the end of it.

Answer 7

Yes

Answer 8

I only speak for myself: No. I find it difficult not to get attracted to other women. I am not pure inspite of the fact that I spend more time thinking about God than women.

Answer 9

It's Human nature for a man to spread as much of his seed as possible.
Not saying that it's not possible to stay with one women though

Answer 10

Yes, it takes fortitude of spirit and conviction to a strong sense of morality...and even a large amount of courage...but Yes.

25 years together and counting