I have been together with my boyfriend for 7 months now. Fights are less, but he doesnt say i love you, or call me as much as he use to, he would get annoyed by little things beacuse i may be quiet and not say anything at times. I feel that hes very hard to talk to at times, because he would find a lot of things wrong with me, he always like to be in control and have things his way at times. When we argue he always have to be the one who is right. Im very nice, caring and giving, i cook for him, care for just as much. So what is really thats making him act this way? Anything i can do or say to him to make him realize how he acts towards me or let me know that he appreciates things i do for him?
2007-02-06 14:02:29 · 5 answers · asked by chinky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Men and women tend to communicate love through different perspectives. You seem to show him love through acts of service; cooking, laundry, cleaning, and etc. Most men express love through physical touch. So if you want to try to fix this try this for a week and see what happens. When you see him give him a tight passionate embrace followed by a passionate kiss. Touch him just as much as you did when you started dating. Embrace him a lot. When you walk by him give him a slap on the a**. Try that for at least one work week and see what happens.
On the other hand a man who loves you should not criticize you or belittle you in any way. Relationships are special and have no place for petty child talk. If you try to express love to him in his own language you should be able to get him to open up. But the overall truth to every relationship in life is that it takes two to make it work. One person can't carry the whole load. Don't worry you'll make it through this.
2007-02-06 14:14:00 · answer #1 · answered by RelationGuru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are a few things you can do and i suggest you do them now!
1 tell him, dont sugar coat it be blunt, and when he tried to make himself right just walk out of the room or say that it doesnt matter what he says because its the way that you feel and he cant argue with that
if things dont get better stop doing the things he's taking for granted. Don't cook, don't be sweet, don't tell him that you love him. ect..
if things still dont get better.. you need to think about leaving, maybe even tell him look i cant do this if you cant give more im leaving... it may work or you may be looking for a new man
good luck
2007-02-06 14:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These Sweetheart are warning signs of a bad relationship! Forgive him and tell him your sorry but this reltionship is not going to work! Let me tell you what a good reltionship should be like. Ask yourself these questions about this guy or in any relationship with any guy in that your relationship: 1. Does he love you for who you are (inside first than out)? The Bible says: *“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-6
2. Does he honor you? Will he do things just to make you happy? Will he try some of the things you are interested in or maybe shares some of the same interests and hobbies? The Bible says:
* “Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:10
3. Cherishes your body, mind and soul? Doesn't go to far on these things until your ready? The Bible says: * “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet Spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
4. You trust him to the fullest? He is your best friend and you are his? The Bible Says: * “ Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:7
5. You communicate well? He understands you like he could be your twin? The Bible says: * “ Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29.
To Sum it up: Stick to 1. Love 2. Honor 3. Cherish 4. Trust 5. Communication and I promise if your relationship is based on these things you will know what its like to find true love! And Yes! I have used my principles myself and I am convinced I have found my soul mate! But to find her I also used these same principles to weed out my soul mate from the relationships that just didn't work. In addition, letting God and Jesus Christ lead your heart, mind, body and soul also aid in the weeding process.You see you can find lot of questions in God's word (the Bible) that you might have about your life. Also to know and have a good relationship with God and Jesus or anybody you meet in general.I say forgive him and move on even if he doesn't show you any of my five princples! I will be praying for you sister!
2007-02-06 14:18:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship that sounds like yours for 18month, i even got engaged. Unfortunately it took me alot longer to ask the question you've asked. I tried to talk to my boyfriend a number of times and different ways, but he wasn't willing to change, and couldn't see that he was doing nething wrong. So, i had to leave. Im not saying it was easy at all but you need to realise you deserve to be treated like a princess (not a spoilt one). You need to be with someone who makes u feel special. My current boyfriend who ive been with for 13 months has had slack times where he doesn't say nice things but all i have to do is mention it to him and he is back to normal. Anyway, i would tell him how you feel and ask him if he understands? If not you deserve better.
2007-02-06 14:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by ljo_angel85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not the right guy for you.
Do you feel completely comfortable with him?
Do you laugh together?
Do you share the same morals & values?
Can you talk about anything & everything together?
Does he show you love & respect?
2007-02-06 14:07:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋