My girlfriend read my journal, what should I do?

Question

I accidently left my journal (which was in my backpack) in my girlfriends car and she read it. She came over yesterday and cried a lot, but we finally talked about it. I had written things about how I felt I didn't love her, though I cared about her as a friend, and some other things. In the end, we decided that we'd give it a little while longer, and see how things work out. I'm uncertain whether I will grow to love her (We've already been dating for 1 year 5 months) and she said she felt that she didn't really love me either, but felt that it could happen. I'm not sure if we are just prolonging the inevitable, and if it would be better if her and I were to just break up now, so she doesn't hold false hopes? What should I do?

I do care about her, I care about her well being, and I like being with her, but I don't love her. People don't seem to get that.

Also, yes it was an accident, we got back from the beach and the store and we were bringing groceries in, and I left my backpack in her car. I didn't intend to leave it there, and I had thought I brought it in. I only realized the next morning that I hadn't, when I needed it for class.

Answer 1

yeah thats true ....no ned to keep false hopes......what you can do is that keep hangin out together as afrens and see what happens......

think if u see her with other guys....how will u feel???? if that doesnt matter then u really dont love her so let her go!!!

Answer 2

If you are still unsure after almost a year and a half, I think you would both be better off parting ways, at least for a while.

It's really the only way you're going to discover whether you have a future, or if you're just shuffling along in a comfort zone.

Your girlfriend invaded your privacy, and she had no right to do that. Personally, I'd think twice about having a relationship with anyone who went through my things and read my journal without permission.

Whatever you decide - best of luck to you.

Answer 3

You never know if you could fall in love with her, if you've been with her a year and 5 months already i would have thought you had some feelings for her? Anyway, I'd say give it some time before you just break it off. There might be something good between you two if you just give it a chance. Love's confusing and you can't ever tell what will happen unless you just try. Give it a little more time, see if you guys start to get fireworks going on between you. lol. If not, then at least you can say you gave it a shot.

Answer 4

I'd say you two should probably just end it now. Remain friends & see what happens from there. More than likely you will find someone else & she will do the same and you'll both be happy somewhere else. It's already been 1.5 yrs & you don't think your in love w/her. She shouldn't have read your journal either-when females do that type of thing it's because she didn't trust you 100% & she was looking for something to catch you on.

Answer 5

That's her problem. She had no right to do that in the first place. I feel even better that your journal was honest and didn't include things like "I like this other girl" or "I cheated on her." Then there would be some issues of faith on your part. But what you wrote was perfectly fine and perfectly your business. Don't let her make you like the bad guy. That was a total invasion of privacy and you should be firm about that. Don't be a jerk about it. But don't let her get YOU feeling bad...sounds like she's twisting the issue around on you.

Your additional details still aren't convincing. That she kind of stumbled upon it...You left your backpack in the car? Well, wasn't your journal in your backpack? That's what you said. How does she "stumble upon" a journal that is inside a backpack if she was merely taking the backpack inside the house while taking in the groceries? takes a little extra effort/motive to do that. that's not "oops, look what I accidentally saw"...that's "hmmmmm, let me pry a little bit."

Answer 6

First off...she was wrong to read your journal...I would be cautious about that and question what invasions she might committ in the near or far future. Second, you never realize how much you love somthing or someone until you don't have it anymore. So it would be best that you two break up and then see what life is like without each other. If you find that you'd rather be with her and she with you, then get back together and make it happen. If not, then you two weren't meant to be.

Answer 7

Well, in the future, keep your journal with you, and don't be so careless as to leave it... You know, I'm thinking maybe you left your journal for her to read, so it could be an easy way of breaking the news to her. If you don't love her after a year and a half then I doubt it's going to happen for you. I'd break it off now for the poor girl's sake, and yours. Life is too short to play with someones heart, and Karma is a b1+ch my friend.

Answer 8

I say let it go. A year 1/2 is long enough to fall in love or at the very least it's long enough to know if your significant other has "love potential". I wouldn't put any more time into it. What's the point? If you don't love each other after a yr and a half what's 6 more mo. going to do? Additionally, how will you trust her in the future knowing that she doesn't respect your privacy?

Answer 9

Journals are a true way to vent feelings and emotions. If you feel that way truly and she in many ways agrees. Than bring the relationship to an end. You don't have to stop being friends. But people change in life and sometimes the one your with now is not the one for forever.

Answer 10

Well, it’s not the only way you gotta be. You like being with her, but you dont really like her as a girlfriend, so you can consider her as a friend, and you should look for a new girlfriend who you LOVE each other, but know this, you must tell her before you do this, once started there is no going back, look carefully, see into her eyes, and then go for it.

Answer 11

Break up now. Number 1--she has no respect for your privacy and never should have read you journal. Your relationship is D.O.A.

Number 2--try to learn that "her and I" is incorrect all the time. If you're using the pronouns as the subject of a sentence or phrase, it would be "she and I." Or, if you're using the pronouns in an objective manner, then it's "her and me." But never "her and I." That's apples and oranges.